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My toddler died today

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acquiescence · 01/10/2019 14:12

My baby died today. I found him in his cot this morning. He was completely well yesterday and has no health problems. They are completing a post mortem today.
I don’t know what to do. Why would a healthy child just die? I have a 4 year old and don’t know how to handle it with him. Any advice welcome, I’m obviously a mixture of completely numb and a mess.

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BlessedBeTheFruitCake · 11/10/2019 09:44
Flowers In my thoughts today
Lovethetimeyouhave · 11/10/2019 10:08

My thoughts are with you today

Brenna24 · 11/10/2019 11:23

You are in my thoughts too.

AnnaMariaDreams · 11/10/2019 12:48

Thinking of you on this difficult day.

spiderlight · 11/10/2019 14:08

Thinking of you today Flowers

gingerbreaddragon · 11/10/2019 17:34

I've been thinking of you today. There are no words.

littlecabbage · 11/10/2019 18:28

Thinking of you here also. I am so sorry Flowers

DailyFailAreTwats · 11/10/2019 18:29

Thinking of you today xx 💐

BearFoxBear · 11/10/2019 23:10

Thinking of you today Flowers

flapjackfairy · 12/10/2019 12:31

You are still in my thoughts ! Sending love x

purplepandas · 12/10/2019 20:13

Sending love to you and your family today. Remembering your beautiful baby with you xxx

purplepandas · 12/10/2019 20:15

I also meant to add that I am currently taking my daughter to see Winston's Wish to help her understand and talk about the death of her sister. A different situation to you but it is helpful and they are great in terms of supporting parents of bereaved children. Finding the 'right' words are so hard and I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now.

WhoArtinHeaven · 13/10/2019 16:19

How are you OP? I have been thinking of you often.

Original poster
acquiescence · 15/10/2019 19:15

Thank you everyone for your continued thoughts.
We are getting through each day. Now that the funeral has been and gone I’m not really sure what the next thing is apart from waiting to stop feeling quite so very raw. I’m prepared for this taking a very long time.
Today we took down his cot and packed away some of his things. Every day is just heartbreaking.

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Original poster
acquiescence · 15/10/2019 19:16

purplepandas thank you, I will kee this in mind for my son. He is being amazing so far.

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HandsOffMyRights · 15/10/2019 19:18

Still thinking of you and this unimaginable pain. I'm so sorry x

JeremyCorbynsCoat · 15/10/2019 19:52

@acquiescence I am so, so sorry you are going through this. There's just no words ❤️

purplepandas · 15/10/2019 20:01

@acquiescence, thinking of you (particularly on baby loss awareness day). We had candles lit and I was thinking of your baby too.

Sending love and be kind to yourself.

Lolabels · 15/10/2019 21:24

I'm so sorry, keep your family close. You will mend each other. Remember there is always somewhere you can talk about things even a post on MN.
Sending you all strength x

boughtnotbrought · 15/10/2019 21:36

I'm so very sorry for your loss Thanks

Igmum · 30/10/2019 18:10

So sorry for your loss OP and much love to you and your family 💐💐💐

Banana1984 · 07/11/2019 23:57

Thinking of you OP at this time x

MissKittyBeaudelais · 08/11/2019 19:08

God, I’m so terribly sorry. Sending love to you and yours.

Isabeau1980 · 10/11/2019 09:06

Thinking of you and your family.

57Varieties · 10/11/2019 09:16

Devastating. Your beautiful baby x I am so sorry Flowers