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My toddler died today

564 replies

acquiescence · 01/10/2019 14:12

My baby died today. I found him in his cot this morning. He was completely well yesterday and has no health problems. They are completing a post mortem today.
I don’t know what to do. Why would a healthy child just die? I have a 4 year old and don’t know how to handle it with him. Any advice welcome, I’m obviously a mixture of completely numb and a mess.

OP posts:
ChippingIn · 01/10/2019 15:14

Oh no, I am so very, very sorry 🌷

The shock of it numbs you a bit for a little while, I’m so glad you have such good friends & family coming to be with you.

It’s a terrible thing no parent should ever have to go through.

There’s always someone here whether you need a virtual hug or to vent your anger etc

Big Hugs & Lots of love
Xx

cailingaelach · 01/10/2019 15:14

I'm so sorry, I can't imagine what you're going through. Thinking of you.

MinnieMouseMaze · 01/10/2019 15:15

I'm so so sorry you are going through this. Holding your hand and much love to your family Flowers

unwravellingagain · 01/10/2019 15:16

Flowers I'm so sorry

SurvivingCBeebies · 01/10/2019 15:17

Words can't even describe what I imagine your going through... I'm so so very sorry for your loss xx

Janus · 01/10/2019 15:18

I’m so terribly sorry, my whole heart goes out to you all Flowers

Gogreen · 01/10/2019 15:18

Oh my! So, so sorry for your loss, just truly awful, I have no words and cannot begin to imagine the heart ache.

Thinking of you.

QueenieMum · 01/10/2019 15:19

So very sorry to hear this - I don't have any adequate words but I wanted to add my voice to other PPs so that you know you have support here. You can talk freely here and as much or as little as you want to.

Fredastaireatemyjamsandwich · 01/10/2019 15:19

I am so so sorry, I cannot begin to imagine how you and your family are feeling. Take your day a minute at a time. Try and contact this organisation. www.childbereavementuk.org/

firstimemamma · 01/10/2019 15:20

Oh my god, there are no words. I don't know you but I'm sending you all my love xx Thanks

Reluctantbettlynch · 01/10/2019 15:20

There are just no words Flowers

Howtotrainyourhamster · 01/10/2019 15:21

I have no words either, but so sorry for your loss 💐

Morgan12 · 01/10/2019 15:21

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

AlexaAmbidextra · 01/10/2019 15:23

I’m so very sorry. What a horrendous thing to happen. Love and warm hugs to you. 💐

starfleet · 01/10/2019 15:23

I'm so very sorry for your loss Flowers

Hecateh · 01/10/2019 15:24

So so sorry.

Orangecake123 · 01/10/2019 15:24

I'm so sorry for your loss OP.

Teddy’s Wish is a charity that provides extra support when you're ready.

www.teddyswish.org/

starfishcoffee · 01/10/2019 15:24

How horrendous. I'm so sorry. Love & hugs.Thanks

BoreOfWhabylon · 01/10/2019 15:25

I'm so very sorry. I have no adequate words but you and your family are in my thoughts.

TheDogsMother · 01/10/2019 15:25

Oh my God this is heartbreaking. Love and virtual hugs from a stranger. Thinking of you x

HandsOffMyRights · 01/10/2019 15:25

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

ilovewinterpansies · 01/10/2019 15:26

I'm so very sorry. Just awful. Sending love Thanks

Wildorchidz · 01/10/2019 15:28

This is so sad

HairdressertoBoris · 01/10/2019 15:29

So very very sorry xx

theydontknowweknow · 01/10/2019 15:30

I have no advice on telling your other children but I'm so very sorry for your loss, I can't imagine what you're going through at the moment. Sending love Flowers