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DH is dying

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WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 14/02/2015 03:11

I don't even know what topic to put this in. My DH had a brain haemorrhage yesterday morning, the doctors have said it's not survivable. He's 60 years old and my best friend as well as my husband, we've been married for 23 years. I was sat at the bedside in ICU yesterday thinking that I wasn't going to post on mumsnet, even though like a lot of us I spend quite a bit of time here and feel like part of the community, but at 3 o'clock in the morning when you're all alone it seems like a good idea.
I got sent home from the hospital 'to try to get some sleep'.

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CaptainAnkles · 14/02/2015 10:53

I'm so sorry Thanks
Wishing strength and support to you and your DC to get through such an awful time.

something2say · 14/02/2015 10:55

Thinking of you also xxx sending strength, wherever you are x

Tiptops · 14/02/2015 10:56

So sorry where

Thinking of you and your family.

Dawndonnaagain · 14/02/2015 10:58
Flowers Thinking of you.
MrsMot · 14/02/2015 10:59

So sorry calculators, thinking of you and your family. Hope you can see him soon.

Pancakeflipper · 14/02/2015 10:59

Joining in the thinking about you.

Bit by little bit... and do look after yourself as best as you can x

Endler32 · 14/02/2015 11:00

Thinking of you and your family xx

XLIX · 14/02/2015 11:03

I am thinking of you, your dh and your children today. Sending a prayer for comfort, peace and strength to you. The MN community will be here if/when you need us.

imjustahead · 14/02/2015 11:06

hope you get to see him soon.

thinking of you today x x

Staywithme · 14/02/2015 11:07

I'm so so sorry wheredo. I'm truly, dreadfully upset for you. I'm going through something similar but my husband gas been ill for two years. The thought of suddenly losing him is too much. I know Therese nothing we can do to take away your pain but please know that the strangers on here truly care for you at this time and please look after yourself too. Flowers

APlaiceInTheSun · 14/02/2015 11:08

Thoughts, hugs & Flowers with you & yours.

Take it one breath at a time, and take care.

AuditAngel · 14/02/2015 11:18

Calculators I am so sorry to hear your news. My beloved FIL suffered a devastating bleed after a road accident, he was air lifted to a major trauma centre.

Whoopsie has some very good advice.

Please be aware that sometimes people last longer than the doctors estimate.

Preciousbane · 14/02/2015 11:18

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DarylDixonsDarlin · 14/02/2015 11:19

sending love and strength to you and your family, Calculators Flowers

ChickyEgg · 14/02/2015 11:26

Sending Flowers to you and your family today

BoreOfWhabylon · 14/02/2015 11:28

So very sorry. My heart goes out to you.

ohbollocks2u · 14/02/2015 11:29

So , so sorry x

iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 14/02/2015 11:29

My heart bleeds for you my lovely

I have been through something similar with a parent when I was about your DDs age, my father was broken at the time, I won't tell you about how it gets easier because right now you don't want to even get to that point you want your DH back

Sit with him, talk, hold his hands, get some cream and give his hands a lovely massage, brush his hair, lie next to him as best you can or put your head by his, he is still here and always will be x

longestlurkerever · 14/02/2015 11:42

I am so sorry calculators. Your love will survive but I am so sad for you. You will be in my thoughts.

Auburnsparkle · 14/02/2015 11:43

I have nothing to add except I am so very sorry. I know these are only words on a screen but I hope you gain some comfort and strength from the support shown here for you and your family x

TheFantasticMrsFox · 14/02/2015 11:55

I'm so sorry to hear that where :(

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers Thanks

Fluffyears · 14/02/2015 12:00

OP I hope you are ok. It's fine to be all over the place at a time like this. At least you know you gave him a loving partner and his love will stay with you forever. The next few weeks will be awful so try to rest when you can, eat if you can and look after yourself. I feel awful that I can't say anthing that will ever make you feel better. Hugs for you.

nicola44 · 14/02/2015 12:07

Thinking of you Flowers

bluebirdonmyshoulder · 14/02/2015 12:55

Hoping that you're with him now. Will keep you in my thoughts today.

tawnyowlsrock · 14/02/2015 13:01

Oh op so sorryThanks
I haven't got close friends either
U r in my thoughts

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