DH is dying

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I don't even know what topic to put this in. My DH had a brain haemorrhage yesterday morning, the doctors have said it's not survivable. He's 60 years old and my best friend as well as my husband, we've been married for 23 years. I was sat at the bedside in ICU yesterday thinking that I wasn't going to post on mumsnet, even though like a lot of us I spend quite a bit of time here and feel like part of the community, but at 3 o'clock in the morning when you're all alone it seems like a good idea.
I got sent home from the hospital 'to try to get some sleep'.

I am so very sorry for you and your children xxx

I'm so sorry. I looked on your other threads as your name seemed familiar and I saw that your MIL and FIL died at Christmas. You poor thing - you must be under so much stress at the moment.

Im so sorry. [Hugs]

So sorry to read this. Hope you are with him now

I'm sorry

You, your DH and family are in my thoughts and prayers Calclators

Take care of yourself

So very sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you. xx

Thinking of you and your family. So so sorry.

So sorry Calculators.
Thinking of you and yours Xx

Another one sending best wishes, dear Calculator. I am so sorry you are in this situation. It must be unbearable for all of you who love your husband. You will get through this, but remember it's okay to ask for help and to feel you are struggling.

Thinking of you, God bless you & your family.

Oh love - I am so sorry, strength being sent out to you and your children at this terrible time.

op i am so sorry .my hubby is seriously ill with dementia only 48 .but at least he is still here .i can only offer you my prayers .i hope you don,t mind x

How dreadful for you all, so sorry to read this! :(

I hope that you get some time with him to tell him all the things you want to and hold him again; I would say I hope that he comes through it but it didn't look likely from your first post.

((((hugs)))) and and for later. xx

I've just got home. He was pronounced brain dead this morning. I said goodbye and his heart was still beating and the ventilator was breathing for him. He will be going into theatre this afternoon to donate his organs, bones and tissue for transplant.

Oh, I'm so sorry.

I Am so sorry, I sat with my mum when she was dying last month and so I have a very small idea of what it may be like in hospital for you. I am thinking of you all.

I found that the Palative care team at the hospital were fantastic, they helped with support and explanation, ensured pain relief, suggested wet sponges to keep her mouth moist and cream for her lips to stop them getting dry. They also sorted car parking and cups of tea.

Thinking of you xxxx

So terribly sorry - words are never enough but please take some comfort from the fact that in death he is saving lives and improving the lives of others.

I realise it's small comfort for you at this awful time.

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Wishing you and your family all the best, and hoping you will have the strength to make it through this.

Remember the good times. Keep talking to him right up to the end. He may not hear, but keep telling yourself that he can.

This will come to us all in the end. Look after yourself. Can't think of much more to add.

Except sorry.

My thoughts are with you.

You must feel absolutely shattered you poor poor thing. I am so very sorry.

It is wonderful that he is going to be a donor.

Bless you, and your children .

Thinking of you and all who love him.

So sorry to hear this. I hope you can take some small comfort from knowing he has helped others to live. What a wonderful thing you and he have done.

So sorry. Thinking of you .