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DH is dying

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WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 14/02/2015 03:11

I don't even know what topic to put this in. My DH had a brain haemorrhage yesterday morning, the doctors have said it's not survivable. He's 60 years old and my best friend as well as my husband, we've been married for 23 years. I was sat at the bedside in ICU yesterday thinking that I wasn't going to post on mumsnet, even though like a lot of us I spend quite a bit of time here and feel like part of the community, but at 3 o'clock in the morning when you're all alone it seems like a good idea.
I got sent home from the hospital 'to try to get some sleep'.

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poppypowers · 14/02/2015 09:20

I am so sorry. Sit with him and pray for him. Talk to him. Tell him everything you've ever wanted to tell him.

Shonajay · 14/02/2015 09:23

My heart goes out to you and your family. Sending you love and a warm hug. Put some perfume on that he likes on you maybe- it could comfort him knowing you're beside him. Oh love im so sorry xxxx

PuffinsAreFictitious · 14/02/2015 09:24

So sorry Thanks

You say you have no friends, but what you do have is 7 pages of an outpouring of love to you, your DH and family. Be gentle with yourself.

dwinnol · 14/02/2015 09:31

I'm so sorry to hear this. Life can be awfully unfair and cruel. You are both in my thoughts. Do whatever feel right and don't let the hospital take over.

thegreylady · 14/02/2015 09:35

So very sorry. I have walked in those shoes. It gets worse, then it goes numb and you cope because coping is all there is. Your dc will sustain you and you them. Keep coming here especially afterwards because it will help. We are here with you and there will always be someone with a cyber hand for you to hold. Thinking of you Flowers

sandgrown · 14/02/2015 09:38

Nothing to add but like everybody else I am thinking of you and wishing you the strength you will need to get through this. Look after yourself Flowers

DishwasherDogs · 14/02/2015 09:42

I'm so sorry to hear this.
I'll be thinking of you all today Thanks

tak1ngchances · 14/02/2015 09:44

So sorry. I don't know if you are a religious person but I will say a prayer for you and your family. Flowers

GoldieMumbles · 14/02/2015 09:55

Words aren't enough, Calculators. But the folks here offer whatever support the can - MN is great like that.

Mulligrubs · 14/02/2015 09:57

I'm so sorry OPFlowers

Fadingmemory · 14/02/2015 09:58

Calculators, hope you have strength, family and friends to help you at such a terrible time.

Stealthpolarbear · 14/02/2015 10:09

dont feel you need to post or respond o individual posts
post what you want when you want, or just read if thats whathelps. were all on your side x

libertychick · 14/02/2015 10:18

So sorry to hear this. Wishing you strength for today and the days ahead Flowers

Original poster
WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 14/02/2015 10:22

I've been at the hospital for a while. Not been allowed in to ICU yet

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Stealthpolarbear · 14/02/2015 10:25

re your dc with you

bluebirdonmyshoulder · 14/02/2015 10:26

Another one here holding your hand.

Why won't they let you into ICU yet?

SockQueen · 14/02/2015 10:27

Very sorry that this has happened to you. Wishing you comfort and strength for everything to come.

msshapelybottom · 14/02/2015 10:29

I'm so sorry. Wishing you everything you need to get through the coming days. Flowers

PacificDogwood · 14/02/2015 10:29

I hope you get to see him soon.

Do speak to him if you want to - he may be able to hear you even when unconscious.

VivaLeBeaver · 14/02/2015 10:35

It's quite possibly ward round time in ICU and they often prefer there to be no relatives for ward round.

awfulomission · 14/02/2015 10:37

I do hope you get in soon. Our family have been in similar circumstances many years ago. Just be with him.

Just taking small steps is all at the moment. Cover your needs for food, comfort, warmth, rest as much as you can. If help appears, accept it.

We are thinking of you.

TreacleMoon123 · 14/02/2015 10:39

I'm so sorry. Wishing you and your family strength to get through this Thanks

DudeWheresMyDonkey · 14/02/2015 10:47

Thinking of you all x

nousernamesleft · 14/02/2015 10:50

I'm so sorry, I'll be thinking of you and your family. Look after yourselves Flowers

thegreylady · 14/02/2015 10:53

Thinking of you xx

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