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DH is dying

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WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 14/02/2015 03:11

I don't even know what topic to put this in. My DH had a brain haemorrhage yesterday morning, the doctors have said it's not survivable. He's 60 years old and my best friend as well as my husband, we've been married for 23 years. I was sat at the bedside in ICU yesterday thinking that I wasn't going to post on mumsnet, even though like a lot of us I spend quite a bit of time here and feel like part of the community, but at 3 o'clock in the morning when you're all alone it seems like a good idea.
I got sent home from the hospital 'to try to get some sleep'.

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thegreylady · 14/02/2015 15:18

What a brave and selfless act from you both to go for organ donation. I am still thinking of you and your children xxx

CarbeDiem · 14/02/2015 15:18

So so sorry Flowers Flowers
Thoughts and prayers with you and the dc Xxx
R.I.P Mr Calculator Flowers

26Point2Miles · 14/02/2015 15:19

Oh my! My thoughts are with you too.

BigRedBall · 14/02/2015 15:20
Flowers

I'm so sorry wheredo . Sad

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your children x

Sparklingbrook · 14/02/2015 15:20

I am so sorry Calculators. Flowers

Greydog · 14/02/2015 15:20

so very sorry for you, love to you and your family

Callmegeoff · 14/02/2015 15:21

I am so sorry :(

Thinking of you

Flowers
Florabeebaby · 14/02/2015 15:25

I am so sorry.
What a beautiful thing that he is a donor.

I pray for strength for you and your family for the tough times ahead.

Butteredparsnips · 14/02/2015 15:25

I am so very sorry. What a shock to you and your family. And I wish you all the best. You have done a wonderful thing by agreeing to donate his organs, and I hope in time this will bring you comfort.

For now Flowers and hugs. Post if it helps x

JugglingFromHereToThere · 14/02/2015 15:26

Am so sorry calculators Thanks

Thinking of you and your children x

(Have sat at a bedside in somewhat similar circumstances but with another family member. Organ donation a brave and generous thing to do)

BreeVDKamp · 14/02/2015 15:27

Wow I am so sorry calculators. What a shock. Thinking of you, your children and of course, Mr. Calculators.

loveliesbleeding1 · 14/02/2015 15:28

Thinking of you all, so very sorry Flowers

desperatedino2015 · 14/02/2015 15:31

So sorry Sad

elspethmcgillicuddy · 14/02/2015 15:33

I'm so so sorry to hear this. I just wanted to say thank you, thank you, thank you for the organ donation. I have personal experience of the wait for organs and there will be several families somewhere in the next day or two who will have their lives changed for the better.

My deepest sympathies to your generous, kind family.

AnimalsAreMyFriends · 14/02/2015 15:36

I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending you and yours love and strength at this sad time Thanks

What an amazing gift your dh has given by being an organ donor, what a selfless decision you have made at truly terrible time xxx

McMW · 14/02/2015 15:37

I am so sorry for your loss

Tootyfilou · 14/02/2015 15:37

So very sorry for you and your children, thinking of you all Flowers

pelicancrossing · 14/02/2015 15:38

So sorry for all of you. Donating organs is an incredible act. Thinking of you Flowers x

lalamumto3 · 14/02/2015 15:38

I am so sorry, I must have crossed posts with you.

What a kind and generous thing to do.

Thinking of you all

Xxxx

ajandjjmum · 14/02/2015 15:39

Deepest sympathy to you and your DC.

Unescorted · 14/02/2015 15:39

Where - my heart goes out to you and children.

Thank you for taking the brave decision to allow organ donation. It is a difficult decision, but there will be many people who will never forget your seflessness. I hope it will give you some comfort to know that.

VodkaJelly · 14/02/2015 15:40

So sorry for your loss Flowers

PacificDogwood · 14/02/2015 15:43

Oh my, Where, you did not get much time to say your good-byes, did you? Sad

I am so very sorry for your loss - I know there are no helping words just now. My heartfelt condolences.

Know that you are doing such a generous and wonderful thing, allowing his to become an donor and many people and their families will forever be grateful Thanks

UsedToBeAPaxmanFan · 14/02/2015 15:44

So sorry Calculators

Thinking of you and sending you (((hugs)))

PetiteBateau · 14/02/2015 15:45

Flowers thinking of you & yours with love xxxxxxx