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DH is dying

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WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 14/02/2015 03:11

I don't even know what topic to put this in. My DH had a brain haemorrhage yesterday morning, the doctors have said it's not survivable. He's 60 years old and my best friend as well as my husband, we've been married for 23 years. I was sat at the bedside in ICU yesterday thinking that I wasn't going to post on mumsnet, even though like a lot of us I spend quite a bit of time here and feel like part of the community, but at 3 o'clock in the morning when you're all alone it seems like a good idea.
I got sent home from the hospital 'to try to get some sleep'.

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GerbilsAteMyCat · 14/02/2015 15:46

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you and your family.

Evabeaversprotege · 14/02/2015 15:46

I'm so sorry calc xx

ALMOSTMRSG · 14/02/2015 15:46

So sorry for your loss OP. Agree with everyone else, donating his organ is a generous and selfless act.

Poppet1974 · 14/02/2015 15:46

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts today Flowers

Chopchopbusybusy · 14/02/2015 15:48

I'm so sorry to read this. It must have been a huge shock. Thinking of you and your DC x

JuanPotatoTwo · 14/02/2015 15:48

I'm so sorry to hear about your dh calculators. Condolences to you and your dc.

I don't know if this will be of any comfort - I hope so. My dh had a kidney transplant some time ago - he, and indeed all of us, will be eternally grateful to the donor. We know a little bit about him and the circumstances of his death and we think of him and his family often. He lives on in my dh and our 4 dc.

Wishing you all the very best.

ToastMakesMeHappy · 14/02/2015 15:49

Flowers xx

IamMummyhearmeROAR · 14/02/2015 15:51

So sorry x

Ludoole · 14/02/2015 15:52

So so sorry. How utterly devastating for you.
My dp is terminally ill but at least we have time to say what we need to say.
Your situation is heartbreaking. I hope you have support. Flowers

Rainicorn · 14/02/2015 15:53

I am so sorry Where. Flowers

You and your DH have done an amazing thing in the face of such tragedy through organ donation and I hope you and your dc will be able to find comfort in this in the coming years.

Take care of yourself xxx

larry5 · 14/02/2015 15:54

I am so sorry for you and your family. I have to say what a brave lady you are to allow your dh's organs be used for donations.

Will be praying for all of you.

Stealthpolarbear · 14/02/2015 15:57

Calc I am so sorry. You must be shattered. His life ends with one wonderful act.

youarekiddingme · 14/02/2015 15:58

I'm so sorry Flowers

aJumpedUpPantryBoy · 14/02/2015 15:59

I'm so so sorry.

You and your family are in my thoughts

KneesOfTheBee · 14/02/2015 15:59

I am so sorry Thanks

MaccaPaccaismyNemesis · 14/02/2015 15:59

I am so very sorry for your loss, Thanks to you and yours

chinam · 14/02/2015 15:59

I'm so sorry. I hope in time that you will get some small comfort from knowing his organs are helping others.

magimedi · 14/02/2015 16:02

So very sorry. Thank you for being so brave as to think of others & go for organ donation.

AlfAlf · 14/02/2015 16:05

I'm so sorry Flowers
Thinking of you and your children and sending lots of love xxx

headlesslambrini · 14/02/2015 16:06

Im so very sorry for you.

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lurkerspeaks · 14/02/2015 16:08

I am very sorry to read this.

The decisions to donate his organs was very generous at what must be a truly awful time.

I hope that the fact his death has helped so many people is some comfort to you in the future, I'm sure things are all very raw now.

I'llbe thinking of you in the coming weeks - we have had a spate of family bereavements and I know that you will have to face lots of difficult things...

LIZS · 14/02/2015 16:09

So very sorry. Hope you can take some comfort from your and the family's brave and selfless decision to donate.

loiner45 · 14/02/2015 16:10

To be able to give someone else the gift of life at this point is incredibly generous, I hope it brings you some comfort at this horrible time x

bluebirdonmyshoulder · 14/02/2015 16:11

Rest in peace to your lovely DH.

Amazingly selfless decision to donate his organs. I hope I'd do the same but I can't imagine what a tough decision it is and I can't say with certainty that I would.

Am in awe of you.