Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent (4)

[mummylin2495]

Here is our new home hope it's as comfy as the last one

as I'm sitting here and looking around my living room, there are loads of my mums things, including stuff for Xmas, in fact theres things of hers everywhere. I've even got her box of washing powder under my sink, with her spoon in it she used to measure the powder out. Its losing its smell though, I used to be able to close my eyes and smell the powder and was straight back in her kitchen and I could see it all, but the smell is fading now.The only thing that isnt fading is the hurt inside me, I hope it goes away, it hurts too much.

ssd you are still clearly hurting very much, do you think it would help you to join a discussion group for the bereaved ? I'm not sure what is available but I know when my sister died my mum went to a group for bereaved parents. Maybe there is something similar for people who have lost a parent ? I will have a search on the net and see what I can find

Ssd...I wish I could hug you :( but I would pass on my lurgy :(
I picked up dads wreath today and took it to the cemetery. Seems so so wrong. I miss him like a physical pain.
Jinty...that sounds lovely. Dad loved Xmas but mum didn't. She isn't putting up decs this year at all :(
My friend came earlier and we chatted about mum and dad. She is worried about me. She is coming back on Monday. She is such a Calming influence.
Thinking of you all as we travel this lonely road together x

Blue star - I have a candle in doors on a side I have and it's always on special occasions a Yankee candle as my mum loved them. And I got some special tea light candles but they were roses. I got hold of a candle holder with mum on it carved through so when the light comes through the mum is lit up. We also done a helium balloon.
Let us know what you decide to do Hun xx

Ssd - sending you massive virtual hugs pm 'd you Hun. Like I said please take some time for you. Even if smallest thing like I said. It is very hard and the times are still tough. But you know Hun these times and days aren't all the time and we get reprieves. Hope the next few days will be a little easier for you Hun. Focas on what you like.

Badvoc. - we are going the tree with my dad Sunday. My dad is struggling in and off a lot lately. Breaks me bad to see it.
Hope you and your family feel better very soon x
Ah sad ol time tonight my dad do you want the sacks and Christmas hats which were my mums felt really sad but I know she will love the girls using them! Still bloody tough times bombard me.

Jinty how nice about the tree I bet she loves that!! I put decorations bauballs on my mums shelf.
Xx

Excuse my typos!! Should do this on my phone! Ha!

hi all how are you. I have to go to mums house today as her husband is working and something needs fixing by owners . not lookin forward to sitting there all day with my memories for company.

Oh that is the hardest super I still get choked sitting in my mums house. Hope it goes ok for you maybe take a magazine or me I play on my games on my phone. X

have just paid 6 quid to have WiFi for the day just so I've got something to do! even though am skint .am here now there is a Christmas card here up to mum from an old friend who we could never get in touch with no contact details. it's so weird being here keep expecting her to wander in.

super, am thinking of you sitting there xx

it's so tidy. she would think it's hilarious that it's so tidy. and he has actually put the tree up he never had a tree before he met mum so she has made a lasting impression there. I feel like a small child again curled up in the corner of her couch just because it was where she always sat

Your brave SM I won't even go down my mums road in case I see the new people in her house. I can't bear it

I see the house we lived in as children up till eighteen with mum nearyly every day my nan and grandad live just across the road so have got used to that but still have a pang of get out of our house thoughts. this house mum had lived in for three years we moved house the same week. am home now and have to admit feel awful got a proper bad mood on me. how is everyone x

Oh poor you super mario it's so hard. Have some time for you to relax.

Ssd will pm you Hun xx

Had a tough day today on and off. I hate not having my wonderful kind caring funny decluttering queen ( along with me) 2 peas in a pod. [Smile]huge presence in my life god I miss her.

God I'm getting fed up with temping work! Short contracts constantly learning new stuff and finish in a few weeks is becoming tedious. Wish I could find some permanent part time work.

Oh well here's to 2014 for a permanent job. Where the hell did this year go!!

Sm sorry cut short. Try and relax and have some time for you. Look after you Hun xx

not having the best if nights it has rather put me on a Downer. v tired from worrying last night and now super fed up. just hearing people moaning about what to buy their family for Christmas or it being a waste of money is making me want to rip folks head off . free bad mood to anyone who wants it. how are you all today, it is true what you said when they were your best friend as in finish each other's sentences and such it's so bloody hard to not feel bitter

Me too SM :(
Feeling ill, coughing up green gunk, temp, still recovering after my operation, dh being a pig, kids being kids.
Keep getting Xmas cards. Don't even want to put them up.
Gah.

oh no badvoc hope you feel better soon.the kids are very excited/silly with christmas coming. I so want them to enjoy it but the child in me is hurting that I can't be with my mum at Christmas and making me miserable abd grouchy

try to put your cards up if only to remind yourself people care x

Oh dear. I'm sorry that you two are feeling out of kilter tonight. What could I do to cheer you up a bit?

I am uncheerupable Lin :(
Dh is being useless, I think ds2 is coming down with something again and I just want term to be over so I can shut the front door and hibernate.
So I will sleeping with ds2 tonight.
Guess I can go back to bed in the morning...

What is it with bloody men sometimes, they drive us all mad. I would think you will be glad to finish not just the term but this year. It's not been good for you at all has it. Yes that's what I would do too , go back to bed in the morning. You really should of been takin I a bit easier after having your op . Another day tomorrow badvoc hopefully it will be better than today x

hope you can get some test tonight badvoc abd tomorrow is a better day for you. as for cheering up I might nick my chrismtas seashells off the cupboard or one if you could sing me a song. I do like a nice sing a long. what are you up too tonight then?

What shall I sing for you then

When you walk through a storm
Hold your head uuup high
And don't be afraid of the dark
At the end of a storm
There's a goooolden sky

That's enough for now I have a sore throat '!!!!!

Hope you and sm and badvoc feel better soon!!
Just been to a Christmas do rubbish food but good night which is definitely what I needed! X