Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent (4)

[mummylin2495]

Here is our new home hope it's as comfy as the last one

Thankyou mouseface for your kind words. I am not going to write anymore on the thread about it as that's not what it's for. But tonight I now have a little knot of fear in me after talking to my dd earlier. Her exes landlord has said he dosent want dd,s ex to go back there to live as they can't put up with the fitting etc ( happened on Xmas day too ) they seem to thinkits my dd,s task to tell him this but she has refused, she says she is his ex for a reason. Anyway I am now worried that when he finds this out he will turn up at her house expecting to stay there , she is adamant she won't have him. He is supposed to be being sent to the local mental health place where they were gong to put him in the rehab part but apparently that may not happen now either. I didnt mention that both of his brothers who have died were the same. Whilst I feel sorry he will have nowhere to live, I can't have him here and I def don't want dd to feel sorry and relent. I don't think she will because of her dd,s, bu neither do I want him turning up at her house causing bloody trouble again. Thanks for listening , but you seem to know what the situation really is like.
At the moment he only has 2% kidney function in one kidney, 24% liver function , diabetes type 2 , heart problem , recently diagnosed, fits and is being tested for bladder cancer. How long can a person continue like this and still carry on drinking ?
He is not normally abusive but can be, I don't think he would be violent towards dd again, but how can I be sure. It's a nightmare really and as I said I am now all on edge worrying about where he will go. Thanks for listening, Lin

Badvoc - I'm sorry that your injections didn't work either. So many people have said the same, those who I've spoken to about having these injections regularly said that they were amazing and life changing....

Mine, like yours, were nothing short of HELL! I lay there with an x-ray machine over me and with each 'tap' of the needles that went in and the more injected steroids and anesthesia that was administered, I cried out more with the pain. The poor nurse that was in the room with me, was holding my hands telling me it was nearly over. I was screaming by the time it finally was .

Lin - I'm sorry, you're right and it's my fault for posting about it, I'm getting to know you all and this isn't the place for things like that. I'd be happy to chat to you via PM if you like? :)

In answer to how much can a body/person take with such conditions, you'd be amazed . Your DD seems wise to him and I too hope that she'll ignore him if he shows up there again. PM me, anytime to chat.

I'll be off to put Nemo to bed in a mo, his last feed has just finished so will be gone for a bit but my little mousey ears are bigger than you think! Please try not to worry. Big HUGS xxx

Did yours feel like an electric shock mouse?
The first lot made me nearly jump off the table! A nurse held my hand too. I have NEVER seen such a huge needle in my life - and needles dont bother me but omg - I swear it was a foot long.
Surgeon said I could have the proceedure 2 more times....I just looked at him and said "why? It didn't work!"
Also been told surgery is the next step...no way Jose! At least not until I have no choice anyway.
I find I now have 3 sorts of back pain...1 from the disc, 1 from the fibro and 1 from the gallbladder op.
I get all sorts of twinges and pains...it's very annoying.

I agree with mouse sadly Lin...my uncle abused alcohol for years and was 61 when he died last November.
By the end He was skeletal, totally bald and doubly incontinent by. Also fed by tube.
It's is amazing what the human body can put up with really.

please don't feel like you can't chat about what's worrying you, any of you. I don't mind anything on here whether it be about drinking, your choice of teabags or how often you need a wee. its just nice to have someone to chat too. I owe you all so very much.

I was about to post the same SM! :)
Blimey, I witter on about all sorts of stuff...my ever failing health, my family, the dc....
Post about whatever you need to Lin x

I'm having a wobble tonight - job hunting is not going well. I live at home and would much prefer to not sign on until after I've done my teaching assistant training in September. But I have to, and there's no work out there at the moment that I'm qualified for. Work Programme have put me on a ridiculous week long course next week and I'm fed up.

I did wake up smiling this morning, though.

My granddad came to visit me, in my dreams. This made me unbelievably happy as everyone else in the house had dreamt about him except me, and I miss him a lot, so it was nice to see him, even if it was just a dream :)

Sorry to read about your back Badvoc I have two prolapsed discs in my spine at L4/5 and L5/S1. I went through a year of hell with it and was booked in and cancelled surgery twice. I have had an easier 6 months, with regards to the back, and so will continue to put off surgery as long as I can.

Life has been a bit rubbish since I turned 40. Losing both dad and now mum, body starting to fall apart. I hope life begins at 50 these days.

I have been the same downton..I turned 40 in oct 2012 and it's been one thing after another health wise since!
Back pain is hideous isn't it? I used to have to tell my ds2 I couldn't pick him up or get down on the floor and play with him. That was hard :(
I have been wondering about having all my non essential stuff out/fixed all at once go save time/hassle in the future....So an appendectomy and hysterectomy first off.
Then maybe a lobotomy!? :)

Thanks all. Hysterectomy was a piece of cake. Really. I have never been so scared in my life but really it was fine ! And I ad 3 months off work . Paid !! Then dh took me to Majorca fir my last week off.
A few off us seem to have / had back trouble. I wonder if its anything to do with pregnancy ? I'm sure mine first started because I always carried my babies around on my hip . Going to make a cuppa , watching mrs brown at moment.

I'm not concerned that dd would have him back, there is no chance she would go through all this again, I'm just worried he will turn up on her doorstep asking or demanding to stay there and start kicking off. But we have been going through this for a few years now so no doubt we can carry on. The thing is he hasn't actually done anything wrong where he has been lodging, it's te fact that its the second time in four weeks he has had to go to hospital because of the fits, apparently the husband and wife are both drinkers too. But it's not up to my dd to tell him they don't want him there, it's down to them. God what a bloody life sometimes.

What a Worry for you Lin :(
Wrt my back, I think carrying ds2 did it. I had spd, and my pelvis still isn't level. Can't afford the osteopath Appts though :(
Wrt hysterectomies, my mum and sis had them in their mid 30s so time and family history is not on my side tbh.

Oh crikey that was young to have that done. Did they have ovaries removed too ? I did and I'm glad, and no more smears cause I have no cervix either !
I had. Lot of sacro trouble before the disc slipped in my back , but it wasnt so much the back that hurt it was the awful sciatic pain that got me. All the way down into my foot.
I think you are both very brave to have those awful injections, my friend is going through this and they keep making her try yet " one more try " the last one they put her to sleep to do it and it still didnt work. Like you she dosent really want an op, she had one years ago but would be very worried about it now.

When I used to see chiro, I paid. I used to go twice a week, and after 8 weeks she decided to do an X-ray. Then she saw the disc had slipped. I had spent all that money for nothing ! I wasn't happy at all. It was a good job I was being paid from work or I wouldn't of been able to see her in the first place.

My mum had similar issues to me (weird periods, heavy bleeding etc) my sis had massive fibroids.
I think I may have adenomyosis which does go after menopause...just not sure I can wait that long tbh :(
The injection was one of the least funny things that has ever happened to me I have to say...and I am usually quite stoical about these things.

can i ask girls, what does L4/5 mean with regards your back, is it to do with the spine? my friend has told me she has a prolapsed disk, but I wasnt sure what that meant, it just sounds awful painful! I bet if it was men having kids and suffering what we go through afterwards they'd be no more kids born!! I think I'm starting the menopause or the bit before it anyway, premenopause or something like that, anyone I've spoken to says ask your mum what she went thru you'll be the same, but of course mum isnt here to ask .

violet, I'm glad you had that dream!

super, how are you today, did you get into town yday to have a coffee? I hope you did.

the weather here is wild today, awful, but of course ds is out plaYING FOOTBALL IN IT OOPS caps on.

mummylin, dh was watching your team yday play l'pool!! I know where you are now!

badvoc and t875, mouse, biscuits, vlad, imnotcute, thinking of you all

Ssd...your spine is divided into 3 sections...cervical, thoracic and lumbar.
So the L refers to lumbar disc 3 in my case.
If it was thoracic it Would be T3.
Feel ghastly. Horrid virus again

hope you feel better badvoc.

ssd didn't get my coffee but did go to my grandparents for a bit of breathing space. have just worked out everything that need paying and purchasing and have about £7 left after that so it'll be a very boring month haha. least there's some left over though rather than none at all am trying to see that as a positive

Been a terrible day, without going into too much detail someone has committed suicide ( not to do with my family ) and I was asked to go round my friends house as she was hysterical. Can't sit and relax in pj, s tonight as I may have to go round again later. What an awful day.

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