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My Mom Died Suddenly

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NotQuiteCockney · 27/01/2006 12:26

She's in Mexico, with Dad. I hadn't seen her since the summer, hadn't been good about emails lately. Heart attack. No surprise, but still.

DH is in a meeting somewhere where he can't have a phone. This afternoon is crazy busy for him, don't know what will happen.

DS1 is at school. I'm meant to be picking him up after, and going to a friend's place. Not a close friend. She has a new baby.

DS2 is playing under my feet. I'm just stuck. Fuck. I can't believe this.

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 27/01/2006 12:27

NQC

Where are you do you need help ??

Whizzz · 27/01/2006 12:27

so sorry.
Is there anyone nearby you can phone for help?

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NotQuiteCockney · 27/01/2006 12:28

East London. I have people I can call on. I just have to work out what I want, what I can do.

DS2 will go down for a nap in a minute. DH will call me, I've sent a message to him via someone who works for him.

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Rhubarb · 27/01/2006 12:28

Really sorry to hear this.

Do you have any siblings? Cancel meeting with friend, it'll be too traumatic for you. Is there anyone you can phone to come and be with you for a bit?

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NotQuiteCockney · 27/01/2006 12:29

My sister is in Toronto. My brother (sorta brother) is in Winnipeg.

I feel tempted to carry on as normal, but you're probably right. If it was a close friend, it would be different.

I have a few mum-friends locally, who I can call and ask favours of. Once I work out what I need.

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NotQuiteCockney · 27/01/2006 12:31

I'm just in shock. Have spoken to my sister, who is also in shock. Dad is on his phone, I think.

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 27/01/2006 12:32

How old was she ??

mrsflowerpot · 27/01/2006 12:33

I am so sorry, what a horrible shock for you.

Dinosaur · 27/01/2006 12:33

NQC - I'm so sorry. What can we do to help. Can you investigate flights to Mexico. Agree with Rhubarb, cancel going to friend this afternoon. She'll understand, anyone would.

doormat · 27/01/2006 12:33

NQC hugs
xxx

edodgy · 27/01/2006 12:35

so sorry

Janh · 27/01/2006 12:35

Very sorry, NQC. What a horrible shock for you.

I think you need to speak to your dad first, to find out what support he needs and what he intends to now, before you can make any decisions. But call in any favours you can first to find out what's possible for you.

totallyinlove · 27/01/2006 12:36

so sorry to hear this NQC. Hope you get through this afternoon. x

HRHQueenOfQuelNoel · 27/01/2006 12:40

so sorry to hear this..

KBear · 27/01/2006 12:58

NQC my condolences.

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NotQuiteCockney · 27/01/2006 13:00

Thanks, everyone.

Am cancelling this afternoon, via SMS. Think I will just say "bad news from home".

Am SMSing close local friend, too. She has ill kids, but will help.

Spoke to my dad, he seems ok. Given. Don't know what help I could give if I went. Am offering to meet up with him, and my sister, in Caribbean (we'd fly them all there)

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NotQuiteCockney · 27/01/2006 13:01

Oh, she was 75. I think. She was always a bit cagey about her age, because she was quite old when she had me and my sister - 39 for me, 43 for my sis.

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TambaTheInnocentPrincess · 27/01/2006 13:02

So Sorry

Dinosaur · 27/01/2006 13:02

I hope you are okay, NQC, or as okay as possible in the circumstances. Thinking of you.

Lonelymum · 27/01/2006 13:04

I am sorry to hear of your loss NQC. I hope you are able to sort out practical arrangements soon.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 27/01/2006 13:06

What a shock NQC, Im so sorry.

lou33 · 27/01/2006 13:06

sorry to hear your news