my beloved hubby died 2 weeks ago today - suicide :(

[Blondeshavemorefun]

tbh i dont know what to say - i never expected to post a thread in this section of mn :(

I didnt expect to be a widow at 37 :(

he was severely depressed, and although had some very good days, he also had very bad days and for whatever reason he felt he couldnt carry on and took his own life on Saturday 16th april :(

i know its early days, but i cry every day, silly things set me off, like yesterday changing the duvet cover - it was hubbys's job to do that and i had to do it for the first time

its got to get easier hasnt it? :(

See, Bissy Bossy.

So sorry for your loss, I know that's not much help, just don't know what else to say, wish you were round the corner, to just come and give you a hug and make you a cup of tea.

thank younokissymum

That's okay, you"ll get through this, will be tough, but you"ll get through it.

yes i will as

a) i have no choice
b) apparently im very strong - thats what everyone tells me

i have the bereavement fund money

'blondes does a dance - bloody hell, only took nearly 6 weeks to get but its in my account'

Hurray for the money finally being handed over to you!

How did last night go?

1 thing down and tons to go :)

but least seems money is finally rolling in

barclays have transfered the money from dh account :)

but santander have sent another form to me via post saying something wasnt filled in right at bank

cant see what i/they've missed so will take in tomorrow on day off as today is busy at work

so now got left to pay/refund/transfer to me

santander
holiday insurance
business insurance
van when sells (brother sorting that out for me)
tools-as above

think thats it ..........

and yes last night was ok - still dont like it but kinda getting used to it

still cant sleep till 2/3am and awake 5/6 so get 3ish hours a night :(

tonight will be my 5th night alone

and then almost done a week

a first of everything

oh big hugs to you, you must be so drained. Any chance of taking yourself off for a relaxing massage in the evening, then running yourself a warm bath before sniggling down in bed with a good book?

Blondes - sadly even if you mentioned another 10 banks/insurance companies etc that were crap I would believe you! It's incredible how insensitive & just plain STUPID some people are!

You are such an action woman!! You have achieved loads and have so much else underway.

It's good that the money is starting to sort itself out - it's one less worry.

I'll take the heat off you a bit shall I.....

Piste oh pistey one - I don't have mine backed up either and I would be beyond devastated if I lost stuff on my hard drive. I need a kick up the bum to go and get an external HD and back up. But last time I tried the HD killed my laptop and it took me 2 days to resusitate it - I'm worried :(

Well that didn't take long at all to get the bereavement fund did it?!
Really glad it is with you Blondes...

Just the other stuff then. It sounds like a busy day again for you tomorow..

Chippin - whereabouts in the world are you?

thanks flubba a massage by a semi naked male sex god would be nice :)

yes payments are finally happening

and ironic the one that i thought would never pay out, actually paid out the first (life insurance)

will go and kick sander's arse tomorrow (with a chai latte)

I'm not sure if it would be better to have the Chai Latte before kicking arse at Santander, so you are fortified...

OR

Having the chai latte afterwards to celebrate successful arse kicking..

Hang on... I've thought of a third option

Just have two chai lates tomorrow [thumbs up]

2 is good :)

Two it is then...

big clap and sensitivity award for o2 :)

i cancelled dh phone last week and within a day they had switched off and got a letter today saying they are sorry for my loss and wavering the last bill of £60ish and account is now nil

now why cant other companies be that professional and nice and helpful?

More financial piffle - Santander have now sent form back as needs to be signed by a solicitor before I can have the money in it - WTF ?

Well done 02.

at Santander. Ring and ask them why it has to be signed. They should be accountable to their demands.

so 2 weeks since funeral and nearly 6 weeks since dh died, and have managed to stay nearly a week by myself at night - each night does get easier, but i still dont like it

fab i did better than that

went in today with my dad and he basically told the man who served us (F) last time that he was incompentant at his job,that he should have known needed a soliciters signature

he then asked the man (F) if he thought he had given us the right advice and (F) dithered, dad asked for a simple yes or no and man wouldnt answer

so dad said that he wanted to talk to the manager about compensation as i was told the money was meant to be in my account 5/10working days- so tomorrow as did it 2 weeks ago (day after funeral) and (F) said 2 weeks ago that everything was done and he had 'sorted it'

no manager today at the branch so hes going to see them tomorrow

never piss off daddy blondes

but if i was a little old lady who got that letter from santander saying must see a soliceter to get it signed, she would prob be scared shitless

Well done DaddyBlondes.

Am so glad you have a fierce dad Blondes!

Hugs ((B)) for nearly a week of staying alone overnight, it is a big deal, and you are doing so well, hopefully you will soon start to increase the amount of sleep time you get. It's all small steps

Santander sound like another company where people don't know what they should be doing, or don't care enough to do it. No customer service -you need help right now, and they are failing to deliver. Its so crap.

Are there any good companies out there you wonder? Growl.

o2 seem good and caring :)

ooo I'm with O2! - god I nearly fainted at the thought of any company behaving decently! Shame they are the exception not the norm.

Good for Daddy Blondes! :)

just got a letter from dh business insurance have cancelled his policy and said they will send me a cheq for the rest of policy - be about £35 - so will see when that appears .....

natwest were good for paying mortgage off and no early redemption

02 good and quick and sensitive

simply business after their phone call have seemed to pull their finger out of their arses and see when cheq appears

barclays so so, but least i have the money

bereavement fund takes time and hassle (nearly 6weeks for one simple payment) but again least i have it

so holiday and santander to deal with - apart from van which will be sold as and when