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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

Bereavement

my beloved hubby died 2 weeks ago today - suicide :(

721 replies

Blondeshavemorefun · 30/04/2011 14:03

tbh i dont know what to say - i never expected to post a thread in this section of mn :(

I didnt expect to be a widow at 37 :(

he was severely depressed, and although had some very good days, he also had very bad days and for whatever reason he felt he couldnt carry on and took his own life on Saturday 16th april :(

i know its early days, but i cry every day, silly things set me off, like yesterday changing the duvet cover - it was hubbys's job to do that and i had to do it for the first time

its got to get easier hasnt it? :(

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BoffinMum · 30/04/2011 14:21

That's so awful, I am so sorry to hear of you loss. Let me know if there's anything at all we can do to help. xx

gkys · 30/04/2011 14:27

blondes i am so sorry for your loss, thinking of you at this difficult time. the "firsts" will be hard, you won't forget the pain but it won't be as sharpe, eventualy you will be able to think of him with a smile, and tell funny stories, my thoughts are with you and your familyxxx

lostlady · 30/04/2011 14:29

That's awful, what a sad time. Can I say that I am very impressed that you changing bedlinen; makes me ashamed was too lazy to do mine today.

It will get easier, but will take time, so sad.

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PollyLogos · 30/04/2011 14:40

I'm very sorry, Blondeshavemorefun

ThatVikRinA22 · 30/04/2011 14:42

so sorry, blondes. x

pinkytheshrinky · 30/04/2011 14:43

I am so sorry for your loss - you must be so hurt.

Ephiny · 30/04/2011 14:43

I'm so sorry to hear this. Depression is a terrible thing :(

Yes I think it will get easier in time, eventually, but for now make sure you get all the help and support you can.

Blondeshavemorefun · 30/04/2011 14:44

he was my everything - we would have been together 20years next year and although we were/are very different ,as in im the loud bubbly one and very confident, and he was the quiet/shy one - we totally complimented each other

always said we were chalk and cheese and opposites attract

its hard sorting out stuff, not just emotional stuff but financial stuff in changing over joint mortgage/accounts/bills etc to my name, as well as funeral arrangements

all which need a death certificate, but as it was suicide and there is an inquest in a few weeks so nothing can be done till then

i have found writing on fb as great therapy and the lovely comments my friends have written, will be printed off and kept

i have amazing friends as well as my parents/brother and dh lovely auntie and they keep me going

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Peaceflower · 30/04/2011 14:44

This happened to me too, will pm you.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 30/04/2011 14:46

So sorry
Let your friends and family help with the practical stuff - they will be happy to

ABouttoeatalltheeggsGIRL · 30/04/2011 14:48

blondes am so sorry for your loss xx

HerRoyalHighnessPrincessCervix · 30/04/2011 14:49

so sorry

ThePrincessRoyalFiggyrolls · 30/04/2011 14:49

Oh Blondes, I am so terribly sorry for your loss, I hope one day you will smile again.

SomethingSuper · 30/04/2011 14:50

I'm so sorry. I wish you strength, love and eventually peace.

OneBadAsp · 30/04/2011 14:51

i'm sorry blondes :(
and glad you have your friends and family for support.

just put whatever you feel. it doesn't even have to make sense to anyone else, just getting it out of your system will start to clear the thoughts in your head.

Blondeshavemorefun · 30/04/2011 14:52

lostlady i have to have a clean bed for friday night not that i anal about it and i stayed away fri 15th at a friends

i came home and found him saturday and bed hadnt been made -which pissed me off and my fab aunty made it for me

so yesterday was my first time making the bed and i howled

same as he normally washed up, and first time i had to get my friend to wash up

sorry for your loss peaceflower :(

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Bucharest · 30/04/2011 14:53

Sorry for your loss.x

LittleWhiteWolf · 30/04/2011 14:55

I'm so sad for you
Accept all the help you get and talk as much as you need to, to us or to RL friends. You poor thing...

zeno · 30/04/2011 14:57

Hello Blondes. I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

My sister had severe depression and killed herself. The wait for the inquest is horrible - it was several months before hers was held. The coroner issued an interim death certificate very soon after she died, which we were able to use for a lot of the paperwork stuff though. Some things do need to go on hold till you have the full certificate.

If you have questions about the whole death cert/inquest side of things, please pm me and I'll help if I can (I'm in England, so won't be any help if you're based elsewhere.)

I'm so glad you have supprtive family and friends around you. Lean on them, let them hold you up and carry you through.

ggirl · 30/04/2011 14:59

so sorry
such a shock

chimchar · 30/04/2011 14:59

God. I'm so sorry. That's so dreadfully sad about your dh. Please keep posting. Mn helped me very much during my saddest and darkest times. X

piratecat · 30/04/2011 14:59

blondes, i am so sorry to hear of this.

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