The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 2

[teaandcakeplease]

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who enter the Gazebo and sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from ApocalypseCheese, CheerfulYank, Anyfucker, HairExtensions, gomummy, tired mum and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up !

Does that mean you are both taureans then, or are yours nearer the end

Taurus here, and stubborn as a bull! :)

Me too, i am so excited, i have never known anyone with a birthday in may but me. now i find 2 people in one day lol.

if ya dont wanna say on here tell me on mail

Cheerful I have sent you more detailed geography via email for your trip! :)

I'll send you my date via mail Tiredmum, and you send yours!

Lol no still cant get on there, grrr

The flights would be more than I could possibly ever afford Would be so cool if my H supported me better since we separated. Or I did meet a pilot

I was born in June

My Nephew was born 8 weeks early yesterday at 3lbs 7oz and he's having trouble breathing, so feeling very worried for the little man

Aww tea i hope all is ok with your nephew, heres praying he is a fighter, have you been to see him yet? or are no visitors allowed at mo.

and dont worry about your birthday, you are only a month out

I'll wait until things calm down for a visit I think as he's still in scbu right now, he's jaundiced and under a light. He's breathing a little better today

My birthday is may 11Th & i am true to my star sign - stubborn & love to eat

Aww tea ill say a little prayer for your new nephew xx

The bili light will help quickly I'm sure Tea, and his little lungs will get stronger every day! Your brother & SIL must be so worried, hope they have lots of support and positive vibes around. Will say a little prayer for all of them.

Thinking of you and your family tea.

elmo i cant believe your birthday is in may aswell, its so freaky, mines a week and 2 days later

Thanks ladies appreciate all the virtual loveliness. Going to see Little man tomorrow, just had a message from my brother.

Hmm, must be something in that September air causing us all to be born at the same time of year.

In our family we are almost all born in May. Odd.

Good luck tomorrow Tea, don't know if you'll be able to hold him, but I hope you can.

thinks Tea probably...

Hope all is well with your little nephew Tea! Let us know how he's doing. Over three lbs is actually pretty good for a preemie these days, isn't it! I'm sure he'll be just fine. Poor litle guy!

My birthday is the 17th. :) Taurus through and through!

Will look up trip details gomummy! I'm not sure we'll be able to swing it money wise but I would absolutely love it. I could use a trip anywhere at the moment, DS has been the crankiest little stinker imaginable the past few days! Today he had three meltdowns beside the road on the way to the library because of his "itchy skeeto bites!" This after it took us an hour to get out of the house because he wanted to wear his knight helmet for biking instead of his bike helmet.

Is anyone else just amazed at how angry tantrums make you? I mean, I try to keep it relatively calm on the outside but inside, when he starts screaming, I am just boiling. I hate it! :(

Aw cheerful :( i found once dd had started pre-school her tantrums slowly faded out as she was too tired to bother kicking up much of a fuss for her own way . It is very hard sometimes not to react isn't it . Hope you & ds have a better day tomorrow

My birthday is late June and I was meant to be a July baby but born by a planned c section 2 weeks before, so no chance Tiredmum of being May

Nephew still jaundiced, low blood sugar and still hasn't pooed. So not ideal no

Tantrums, ahhh yes, maybe you should buy that book Cheerful Try asking him to show you on paper how angry he is next time? Give him a pen and see him let rip. Then you can say "hmmm you're that angry huh?" etc and he'll apparently calm down

However my usual response is "you have a nice rest and come and find me when calm" and to walk off, then resolve it with them after they're calm. Or today after 20 mins of screaming over something minor whilst trying to walk home from the library, I confess after a while I said "if you do not calm down, they'll be no TV before bed" As I'd tried reasoning with her, explaining etc and had run out of options and was about to explode. Shocking behaviour

Yes Cheerful it is so hard, keeping that uber-calm face and voice whilst fuming inside! I think DS has read your tip, Tea, as when he is really frustrated he takes himself off to the paper recycle bin to destroy! Has been a long day here as well, and a while to go yet as DH has made plans for us to visit long-lost friends of his this evening....ugh, I don't know why he'd time it that way as DS will get overtired and miserable, leading to me becoming overtired and miserable, lol!

Sorry to hear that your nephew isn't coming along too well yet, Tea. How's his breathing doing?

Breathings better it's just everything else

Thinking of you today Tea, hope things are improved with your nephew by the time you go for your visit.

Hi

Tea dd was born 4weeks early(not as early as your nephew i know) but she was 5 days old before she took her first poo , she is fine though so please god your nephew's condition will improve very soon & he will thrive xx

can I be rude and redirect you to my antenatal thread for the update on nephew? Just posted it there for my girls.

Going off for a cuppa as I feel rotten and want to cry.

Awww tea,

sending you a huge hug,

i dont have the first idea what you are going through, but it must be awful seeing that.

i suppose there is one good thing, he is fighting, surely thats a good sign, and i pray he continues to do so.

your poor bro and sil, must be going through hell, is he bein cared for at watford gen?

do they have any other children?

my thoughts are with you all