Is sending nice buns into school showing off?

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Possibly very much overthinking here, but it is my daughters birthday on Wednesday (turning 9) her class normally take a sweet treat/cake in on on their birthdays, this is fine with the parents and no one has allergies (know this from several parties). I love baking but never really do it much, last year I made and took in some cupcakes, I'm a home baker but can turn out a decent cupcake, planning to do it this year again but my husband has said that I shouldn't, that it is very much attention seeking and very 'look at me" This isn't my intention at all, I have most of the ingrediants in the cupboard all ready, it'll only cost me about £4 to make 36 buns, I only have to buy the butter and some icing sugar. I have boxes already that I bought in bulk from Temu and tbh I just like baking. But I would hate to be talked about by any of the mum's, or for people to think that I'm attempting to show off, parents would see them as they are normally given out last thing. Should I just buy some shop bought cake or buns, which would cost me more money and not be as nice? I'm inclined to think that my husband is been harsh, they will look nice when done, but I reckon people will still be able to tell that they are homemade and that I haven't spent loads of money buying them. Thanks.

I think it’s lovely.

(I’d be jealous at your capability though!).

Your husband is being a bit weird about it.

Gosh, your husband is a bit of a grump. I think that's a lovely thing to do. Is he always so negative?

He's being a misery guts! Make them and enjoy it - it won't be too long before she's too old.

No eight or nine year old will know or care if they’re homemade. Send in whatever you want.

I think it’s a lovely idea if your school is happy to accept it. Sadly our primary school stopped all birthday giveaways - just in case of allergies from outside the class (even with all ingredients declared) and even little bags of haribos were not allowed to be given out on school premises by the birthday child.

Ask your dd. Mine have always had a very keen sense of what is acceptable and what isn’t for their class. We usually take in a multipack of haribo or similar - enough for one mini bag per child, but sometimes there are home made fairy cakes etc.

It’s a great idea. The kids will love them!
You will look generous not a show-off.

Your H is miserable, every one will love then and most people will prefer homemade. Crack on!

YABU to call them buns.

This is a bun. (Well, two buns...)

The most popular thing we ever sent was mini packs of percy pigs. I'm sure your cakes are lovely, but sweets are easier to hand out and seem to go down best with children.

I don’t know if this is true - having seen some people’s houses I avoid home made unless I know the person and their cleanliness really well.

There's always one!

I would personally only do it if I could be 100% they would be known as home made.

Otherwise you look like "that parent" who's paid £4 each for a bespoke made cupcake when everyone else hands out 30p treat sized bags of haribo.

Some people might not be keen due to hygiene. Someone in DD’s primary used to bake and send in. Her house was dirty and she had animals so I wouldn’t let dd consume them.

Two!

No, it's not showing off, but just buy something from a shop. I never eat anything prepared by strangers in their own home. You could be naked, with your cat licking the spoon, adding arsenic to the mixture with every third stir.

Yes, I get that's a bit unlikely but you definitely see the point.

Another!

I worked at a school years ago, helped kids prepare food one lesson, it was a sweet treat to be shared at home. Dear God. I couldn't believe how lax the teacher was, luckily for the people who were eating these treats I had wipes with me and hair ties and prevented some disgusting habits from going on during that process. Yes, they were kids, but it really made me reconsider what happens in the making of home made food.

From that day on I have never, ever eaten anything not properly prepared by a source which is held to health code standards, or by someone I know personally and well,

Another person (me) stating simple facts. Indeed.

Well done.

It’s a really lovely idea and certainly not showing off. My only reservation ,now as a grandma of a child with Coeliac Disease would be are you sure there are no food intolerance/ allergies etc amongst the children?

It must be exhausting living with that level of paranoia.

Yup. I very sensibly never eat anything prepared by a stranger. I mean, if I was starving to death I would, obviously, but for a nice little treat, no thanks, just buy it from a shop.

Thanks for your replies, I didn't even think of people thinking of hygiene 😟 We have been to several village hall parties where the parents have done buffets though and no one seemed to turn their nose up at the food, my kitchen is clean and it's not like she's the smelly child or anything.

Is your husband always a miserable killjoy?

As for hygiene- some people will care about that, most won’t give it a second thought.