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To share this gem about the menopause with you all!

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PyongyangKipperbang · 22/09/2026 19:44

Taken from a book I found today in a charity shop. So much to say that its hard to know where to start!

The Radio Doctor's Dictionary of Health by Charles Hill, published in 1952.

There may or many not be seven stages of man. There are certainly three phases in the life of a woman. The first is the phase of childhood which passes with the physical and mental changes occurring at puberty into the second or middle phase of womanhood.
The third phase begins, usually between the ages of forty and forty-five, with the so-called menopause or change of life. Puberty, which may begin at the age of twelve or thirteen, come on with amazing quickness. The menopause on the other hand, develops slowly and deliberately. It marks the end of menstruation which first becomes irregular and later disappears. The change of life completed, there can no longer be childbearing.
The menopause is marked by both mental and physical changes. The warmth of physical feelings gives way to the calmness of serene affection, and quite often to a wider interest in the affairs of the world. The change may take one or two years, varying in length in different people. The reproductive organs, no longer functioning, become smaller. There may be symptoms which for a while unpleasant. For example, there may be sweating and giddiness, heats or flushes. These sensations may come on without warning. For most women, this is all that happens. Occasionally, however, there may be trying headaches and uneasy sensations, particularly in the breasts. At this time some women begin to put on weight. Much more rarely there are nervous troubles, particularly amongst those whose days are too leisured.
What can be done? For the most part, nothing need be done. It is best, though this is not always easy, to ignore what is happening and to carry on a normal life. The sympathy of others is no good. Giving in is a mistake. The less notice is taken of the change of life, the more quickly it seems to pass.
It helps to cut down diet, although nowadays our rations do that for us. Alcohol affords no relief. Indeed, it may make matters worse rather than better. The change of life, it must be remembered, is a normal, natural thing. It is not an illness or the beginning of an illness. It's a milestone, not a millstone.
The change may bring with it a release of energy, a need for activity in many new directions. Occasionally it makes a woman appear a little too managing, because she is filled with a desire to reform the lives of other. But most women suffer little or nothing. Eighty-five out of every hundred women pass through the menopause without being troubled by it. This is the occasion for an important warning. If the periods, having stopped, should appear to start again, a doctor should always be consulted,. There may be something wrong.

The third phase of life is sometimes the richest phase, the one in which to find tranquillity, and a full peaceful happiness.

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Motuihe · Yesterday 19:27

I have just ordered a Time Machine on Temu!🙃

Calling · Yesterday 20:25

WynkenDeWorde · Yesterday 08:27

Who mentioned Mr Cholmondeley-Warner? 😂

Charles Hill was ‘the Radio Doctor’, whose broadcasts on the BBC throughout WW2 were seen as vital to informing the public about health, so opining on women’s health in paternalistic style was very much his thing.
He was Secretary of the BMA and, after the war, a Tory MP (and I’ve just discovered he lived quite close where I do now).

His photo makes sense of his reference to a double chin...

teaandtoastwithmarmite · Yesterday 20:27

🤣 brilliant!

AInightingale · Yesterday 21:12

Londonmummy66 · Yesterday 19:11

Are we sisters? My prep for periods was the Ladybird book of your body and it was made very clear to me that I was not allowed tampons. I did access them at Guide camp, thought they were great and made such a fuss I did eventually get them ( but had to buy them myself out of my pocket money).

My mother didn't object to tampons because she was prudish about girls using them (well, maybe she was a little bit) but because she thought they were dangerous. This would have been the 80s not long after the scare about the 'Rely' tampons in the US which caused quite a few cases of TSS (they were made of some terrible plastic material or something). Although I used them, I remember being a bit afraid of them too for the first couple of years.

NullaEffugium · Yesterday 21:14

6namechange3 · 22/09/2026 19:49

There are actually many parts of this I really like!

Me too. I liked the bit about it being a milestone not a millstone

PyongyangKipperbang · Yesterday 21:24

Londonmummy66 · Yesterday 19:11

Are we sisters? My prep for periods was the Ladybird book of your body and it was made very clear to me that I was not allowed tampons. I did access them at Guide camp, thought they were great and made such a fuss I did eventually get them ( but had to buy them myself out of my pocket money).

If it wasnt for the fact that my sister is childless, I would be wondering!

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GalaDinner · Yesterday 21:49

IsItWickedNotToCare · 22/09/2026 20:46

The thing about alcohol making things worse is correct, unfortunately. Another pleasure in life taken away due to the "change"....😭

Naaahhh.

Mummyoflittledragon · Yesterday 21:58

Am loving what you’ve written so far. And can imagine it would have caused quite a stir back then. I’m about your age. I didn’t get a book or a talking to. Whatever I learned was from school. Not much. My mother bought me one of those elasticated belts and gave me the doorstep pads with the loops. Ffs. My friend took me to Superdrug and got me to buy some stick on ones. I found out about tampons later.

justasking111 · Yesterday 22:06

Jacobolordy · Yesterday 09:50

Wonder if it's true what a pp said about symptoms of menopause being easier with more pregnancies/ breastfeeding?

Might be that women are struggling more now as have generally had fewer pregnancies? As well as juggling kids/ careers/ parents etc.

I had my third child at 45 periods stopped at 56. But I did get awful flooding for a couple of years. I gave up caffeine and lots of lovely spicy foods, fatty foods, it's all quite boring. But I didn't get brain fog and hot flashes were and still are a night time event. I don't need central heating until it gets really cold.

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · Yesterday 22:47

Old fashioned and outmoded.
What else is new?

PyongyangKipperbang · Today 01:13

justasking111 · Yesterday 22:06

I had my third child at 45 periods stopped at 56. But I did get awful flooding for a couple of years. I gave up caffeine and lots of lovely spicy foods, fatty foods, it's all quite boring. But I didn't get brain fog and hot flashes were and still are a night time event. I don't need central heating until it gets really cold.

I have had six children and my sister had none. We both suffered worse than our mother. So....I personally think that it is down to luck more than anything.

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