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PyongyangKipperbang · Yesterday 19:44

Taken from a book I found today in a charity shop. So much to say that its hard to know where to start!

The Radio Doctor's Dictionary of Health by Charles Hill, published in 1952.

There may or many not be seven stages of man. There are certainly three phases in the life of a woman. The first is the phase of childhood which passes with the physical and mental changes occurring at puberty into the second or middle phase of womanhood.
The third phase begins, usually between the ages of forty and forty-five, with the so-called menopause or change of life. Puberty, which may begin at the age of twelve or thirteen, come on with amazing quickness. The menopause on the other hand, develops slowly and deliberately. It marks the end of menstruation which first becomes irregular and later disappears. The change of life completed, there can no longer be childbearing.
The menopause is marked by both mental and physical changes. The warmth of physical feelings gives way to the calmness of serene affection, and quite often to a wider interest in the affairs of the world. The change may take one or two years, varying in length in different people. The reproductive organs, no longer functioning, become smaller. There may be symptoms which for a while unpleasant. For example, there may be sweating and giddiness, heats or flushes. These sensations may come on without warning. For most women, this is all that happens. Occasionally, however, there may be trying headaches and uneasy sensations, particularly in the breasts. At this time some women begin to put on weight. Much more rarely there are nervous troubles, particularly amongst those whose days are too leisured.
What can be done? For the most part, nothing need be done. It is best, though this is not always easy, to ignore what is happening and to carry on a normal life. The sympathy of others is no good. Giving in is a mistake. The less notice is taken of the change of life, the more quickly it seems to pass.
It helps to cut down diet, although nowadays our rations do that for us. Alcohol affords no relief. Indeed, it may make matters worse rather than better. The change of life, it must be remembered, is a normal, natural thing. It is not an illness or the beginning of an illness. It's a milestone, not a millstone.
The change may bring with it a release of energy, a need for activity in many new directions. Occasionally it makes a woman appear a little too managing, because she is filled with a desire to reform the lives of other. But most women suffer little or nothing. Eighty-five out of every hundred women pass through the menopause without being troubled by it. This is the occasion for an important warning. If the periods, having stopped, should appear to start again, a doctor should always be consulted,. There may be something wrong.

The third phase of life is sometimes the richest phase, the one in which to find tranquillity, and a full peaceful happiness.

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WhatNextImScared · Today 00:39

VickyEadie · Yesterday 19:55

"The warmth of physical feelings gives way to the calmness of serene affection, and quite often to a wider interest in the affairs of the world."

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

I'm 16 years post-menopause. I still have the RAGE.

😡😬👿

I thought this was a coded way of saying you’ll lose your libido!

PyongyangKipperbang · Today 00:50

WhatNextImScared · Today 00:39

I thought this was a coded way of saying you’ll lose your libido!

Yeah thats how I took it and in my case it's true. My libido packed its cases, thanked me for our years together and jumped off a cliff.

I am envious of women who didnt get that.

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BinturongsSmellOfPopcorn · Today 01:45

PyongyangKipperbang · Today 00:02

This really irritates me!

Yes it happened, but no where near as often as people these days seem to think.

Mum has a baby at 40 (considered perfectly normal these days) but also has a 16 year old DD, MN decides that it must have been the DD's child.

In the days before women could control their own fertility, late pregnancy was very common. My father's family was strict Catholic, having a child and a grandchild the same age was considered so usual as to not raise comment, its just how it was.

As I posted above, my Great Grandmother gave birth to twins when her only DD was already three months pregnant (Grandma was 17). "Change" babies were very very common!

Agreed. It used to be unusual to have a late first baby. But not a late 6th, or 10th, or 15th.

Jacopo · Today 01:50

Like some previous posters I can’t find much to disagree with in the OP. I barely registered the menopause. I had a full-time job and teenage children and elderly parents to care for. So I disagree with posters saying that women in past times had fewer menopause symptoms because their lives were less stressful. I do realise that menopause is really difficult for some women, but I think it’s unfortunate that there’s been so much publicity about this that people forget that for many women it really is no problem at all.

PyongyangKipperbang · Today 02:13

I think it’s unfortunate that there’s been so much publicity about this that people forget that for many women it really is no problem at all.

I think that it is unfortunate that for so long, it was assumed that because some women sail through it, many dont. And of course many do suffer but get not help or treatment so have to battle on in silence. Its the same issue with periods, endometriosis, PCOS etc. They are written off by men, who never have to suffer and women who could have suffered but luckily for them, didnt.

Menopause can cause such appalling problems including, but not limited to, depression, more serious MH issues, marriage breakdowns, osteoporosis and so on.

I am glad, genuinely glad, that you didnt suffer but I beg you not to dismiss the sufferings of those that did as if they didnt "keep calm and carry on" hard enough.

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GarlicSomething · Today 02:17

MiddleAgedDread · Yesterday 21:33

@Dabralor i think you’re onto something there. Even my GP said the same, so many more women are working in stressful careers, dealing with children and teenagers and elderly parents and everything else that goes with modern day life that it exacerbates symptoms that our mothers and grandmothers possibly barely noticed! (My GP is female with 4 teenagers!)

My mum's menopause was cataclysmic. Distressingly for us both and the rest of the family, it ran parallel with my puberty. Which was also dramatic.

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