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To share this gem about the menopause with you all!

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PyongyangKipperbang · 22/09/2026 19:44

Taken from a book I found today in a charity shop. So much to say that its hard to know where to start!

The Radio Doctor's Dictionary of Health by Charles Hill, published in 1952.

There may or many not be seven stages of man. There are certainly three phases in the life of a woman. The first is the phase of childhood which passes with the physical and mental changes occurring at puberty into the second or middle phase of womanhood.
The third phase begins, usually between the ages of forty and forty-five, with the so-called menopause or change of life. Puberty, which may begin at the age of twelve or thirteen, come on with amazing quickness. The menopause on the other hand, develops slowly and deliberately. It marks the end of menstruation which first becomes irregular and later disappears. The change of life completed, there can no longer be childbearing.
The menopause is marked by both mental and physical changes. The warmth of physical feelings gives way to the calmness of serene affection, and quite often to a wider interest in the affairs of the world. The change may take one or two years, varying in length in different people. The reproductive organs, no longer functioning, become smaller. There may be symptoms which for a while unpleasant. For example, there may be sweating and giddiness, heats or flushes. These sensations may come on without warning. For most women, this is all that happens. Occasionally, however, there may be trying headaches and uneasy sensations, particularly in the breasts. At this time some women begin to put on weight. Much more rarely there are nervous troubles, particularly amongst those whose days are too leisured.
What can be done? For the most part, nothing need be done. It is best, though this is not always easy, to ignore what is happening and to carry on a normal life. The sympathy of others is no good. Giving in is a mistake. The less notice is taken of the change of life, the more quickly it seems to pass.
It helps to cut down diet, although nowadays our rations do that for us. Alcohol affords no relief. Indeed, it may make matters worse rather than better. The change of life, it must be remembered, is a normal, natural thing. It is not an illness or the beginning of an illness. It's a milestone, not a millstone.
The change may bring with it a release of energy, a need for activity in many new directions. Occasionally it makes a woman appear a little too managing, because she is filled with a desire to reform the lives of other. But most women suffer little or nothing. Eighty-five out of every hundred women pass through the menopause without being troubled by it. This is the occasion for an important warning. If the periods, having stopped, should appear to start again, a doctor should always be consulted,. There may be something wrong.

The third phase of life is sometimes the richest phase, the one in which to find tranquillity, and a full peaceful happiness.

OP posts:
KitFox · 05/10/2026 14:06

Thanks for posting - very entertaining. Does he have anything to say on neurodiversity or mental health?

AuntieBiotics · 05/10/2026 14:56

PyongyangKipperbang · 04/10/2026 21:30

"I dont really believe in the menopause" thats as ridiculous as me saying "I dont believe in breathing, I know I dont need it so of course I dont need it!"

As for the smug.....well.

This is the sort of attitude which is just designed to put those of is who suffered so badly back in our boxes.

I have never believed in pneumonia, so I knew I wouldn't suffer.
I have never believed in migraines, so I knew I wouldn't suffer.
I have never believed in breast cancer, so I knew I wouldn't suffer.

Can she not see how downruight stupid this is? Now I have never had pneumonia, or migraines, or breast cancer, but I am not popping up on forums telling women who have that they are making a fuss and just to get on with it. How spectacularly hard of thinking and obtuse do you have to be to think your experience is universl? Fuck me.

At least it's a change from the "hrt is a scam promoted by Davina/big pharma and all you need is a wee bit of positive thinking and some yoga". Because that's all that's needed to resolve your insomnia, anxiety, aching joints, hot flushes, vaginal atrophy...

PeachyPeachTrees · 06/10/2026 08:57

Jacopo · 23/09/2026 01:50

Like some previous posters I can’t find much to disagree with in the OP. I barely registered the menopause. I had a full-time job and teenage children and elderly parents to care for. So I disagree with posters saying that women in past times had fewer menopause symptoms because their lives were less stressful. I do realise that menopause is really difficult for some women, but I think it’s unfortunate that there’s been so much publicity about this that people forget that for many women it really is no problem at all.

Publicity about perimenopause helps the ones who are struggling. It has been essential for many women. You and others who don't need help should enjoy your easy menopause and not criticise there being too much publicity. Ignore it if it doesn't apply to you!

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