To think this is unfair? Holiday.

[Chefpig]

I'm going on holiday with another person. Last time we went, they had the much nicer accommodation and mine was very basic. This time, check in is at different times and they're insisting I have the first accommodation we can check in to earlier as I have pets and they think I should settle the pets in, and they have the second. I mentioned the other day that we should look at them both and this time its my choice to choose which I prefer out of the two. We can always go in the first at check in and move my pets easily to the second. This is something she agreed to and is now going back on her word. AIBU to be pissed off at this? I really don't want to go away now.

if your mum paid she gets the caravan she wants - you take the other and be gracious
ring the site and ask which van has earlier check in - if it’s the one mum wants - you can take the dogs on a nice walk until the other is ready ?

You are being a total drama llama. It’s your mum you are going on holiday with. 😳. How different can 2 caravans be and why does it matter.

Why are you being such a martyr?

Use your words or stop going, sounds awful all round.

Also if it’s a haven holiday you don’t have to arrive for check in. The caravan will have a sticker over the door and your welcome pack inside. You don’t need to go to reception.

it's weird that they'd have caravans that far apart and with different check in times under the same booking.... and with different times does that mean people paying the same don't necessarily get the same amount of time, or does late check in mean later check out too?

Anyway, just tell mum "I'll the second caravan as it'll be much easier to take the dogs out early without disturbing anyone/ You take the first one and you can settle in while I take the dogs out after the journey" Both reasons make more sense than hers.

with say haven you can pay to pick check in times or you’ll get a random time anywhere from between 12noon - 6pm. £20-£50 to pick your time depending on the time you pick.

Unless you request the caravans to be near each other they will again just be randomised or you can pay to pick exact locations.

Late check out is being trialed but that’s a paid for extra around £15-£25 depending on site.

So no you don’t get to stay later just because check in is later.

You will be allowed on site from around 11am though technically the terms and conditions state no more than 2hours before your check in but nobody checks.

As far as the holiday provider is concerned tho ops dog should be in whatever caravan has actually got the dog registered to it and it should only have the registered number of guests.

For fire purposes knowing who is meant to be where and also sometimes you might get an upgrade and if the caravan is pet friendly but no pet registered they could be upgraded to a non pet friendly higher grade because they are not expecting any pets to actually be inside.

Did you read the OP? That's not what the issue is.

Just get there before she does, but at a time that allows you to choose.

If you are convinced you want the second caravan, due to location, (assuming there won't be much difference in the quality of the accommodation), why not just say you'll let her have the first van so she can get settled in/be closer to facilities etc. Keep repeating "Your caravan" when talking about it.

Next time both of you should just book your own accommodation.

I also don't get that you mention you book her the better accommodation each time. If you are then going to moan about it then book the same grade for you both

Have you thought @Chefpig that your mum might of actually booked that caravan on purpose for her.

Is it just the two of you plus dog/s as it seems strange to pay for two sixth berth vans for 2 people?

Do you actually enjoy spending time together? Does It actually matter who gets what caravan unless there are practical implications e.g. someone needs to be closer to the toilet block. It sounds like a childish disagreement between people who don't actually want to holiday together.

Have you tried outright telling her you would prefer the second one because of the location, and the fact you have always treated her to the nicer one before and thought this was her doing that in return?

Going forward if you ever go again I would suggest you book and pay for yours, and she books and pays for hers. That way you both get what you pay for and it’s fair.

Op surely the quiet one is better for the dogs and walking them on the beach. Remind her of all the times you have paid for her to have the nicest accommodations and surely after 15 years of you compromising you deserve it. Otherwise there really isn’t any compromise it’s mum getting the best every time. Next year I would either pick the better one or leave her at home. There is no enjoyment with someone who is this selfish mother or not.

@Chefpig clearly your mother thinks she's entitled to have the better accommodation. Since she's paid this time she feels even more entitled - she knows full well the second van is a nicer location.
Think you have to suck it up or not go at all. She won't be changing her mind.

I would make this the last joint holiday you have. Next time, book yourself a lovely caravan in a nice spot, no arguments, no sulking, just rest and relaxation for you and the dogs. Tell your mum that this will be the last time, because you are fed up of always having second best accommodation, regardless of which one of you is paying.

The simple solution would be not arriving until check in time for caravan no 2, then you go straight to no 2 and get the dogs settled in there.

Have you tried outright telling her you would prefer the second one because of the location, and the fact you have always treated her to the nicer one before and thought this was her doing that in return?
This.....however ......
clearly your mother thinks she's entitled to have the better accommodation. Since she's paid this time she feels even more entitled - she knows full well the second van is a nicer location.
This too!

This is my reading.

However as other poster have said wouldn't names no of guest and which are pet allowed all be set when booking not once get there.

I'd also suggest you either stop hoilday together or make sure you book seperately and you book the accomodation you want.

just make sure you arrive at the rooms at the later check in time. Have a drink at the bar on the way, or a coffee at the station etc

Are you sure both allow pets?

Surely if you know exactly which caravan it is and the associated checking in time - then you know which one is the first and which one is the second?

If the nicer one is the second then perhaps say you can’t get there until that time.

It is lovely that you have paid for your mum for years - but ultimately that doesn’t matter because she is the one who has paid and booked for it this time and so unfortunately she does override you.

Most people do bring their kids or pets on holiday. You don't have to have kids or pets, but if you do, you probably want to spend some of your limited non-working days together. And all they need to get is food and water, it's not as if you have to unpack for them.
OP, you say accommodation, guessing it's just rooms, you're not each having a cottage or something, are you? So you just put the pets in room one with bowls, then move them. If your friend doesn't like the idea of the pets being in your room, she shouldn't be going with you. She sounds cheeky.

So, normally you pay, and you choose to book better accommodation for your mother than yourself.

This year she's paying, and this is the year that you decide it's unfair if she gets the better accommodation. That seems a bit perverse.

I wonder if you've got a bit of built-up resentment that you've been paying all these years because you thought she couldn't afford it otherwise, and now it turns out that if you don't pay, she can.

Perhaps in the future you should just agree a week and each pay for (and choose) your own caravan.

Don't you just get the key at the check out unit and say 'oh we've booked 2' go drive to both and see what one you want if your going that much ealier to get dogs settled

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Just because you've always paid for better ones for her does not mean she does the same back, clearly - so it's not a hill i would die on if shes finally paid for you both for once.

How many people are going to need 2 caravans?

How far is the walk to the sea/trail you'd like?

They're both saver caravans I can't imagine there is much difference in them on the inside. Take the one with the better location.

Then stop going on holiday with your mum, it sounds like you don't enjoy it.