To think that the dressing gown was one step too far?

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In a petrol station buying a coffee at nine thirty in the morning. Looking down realised that the young woman behind me was wearing obvious pyjamas. And slippers. Then looking up to see a fluffy cream dressing gown.

I can't decide if it matters. I was brought up to believe that it shows a complete lack of self respect, and a lack of respect for anyone else, but does it, these days?

YABU. Perfectly normal wear for filling up your car.

YANBU. What is the world coming to that anyone thinks that's reasonable.

Maybe she is back from a night shift and suddenly realised she needs to get petrol ready to pick up children later? Maybe she’s running late and just prioritising everyone else’s needs except her own? Maybe she’s a busy mum and running on empty and doesn’t care what others think? Who knows and personally I don’t care. I’d say a cheery hello to her and hope her day gets better

Neither of your answers is right.

The correct answer is that as it impacts you not at all, it's none of your business.

No need to consider your "reasonableness" about it at all.

I wouldn't do it cos I don't like my indoor clothes outdoors, so never slippers outside, and I think it would be quite hard to drive in them. But to be honest who cares as long as they are clothed and not smelly lol

This! I certainly don’t give it a second a thought. I personally wouldn’t do it but we know nothing about the person who turned up in her dressing gown. Or her circumstances.

You were brought up not to have 'mental health'?

I am currently living in the US and so many people, primarily women go everywhere with what appear to be night clothes on. Slippers are common here, in every sense of the word.

👏👏👏 Thank you.

I went out earlier in leggings, a sweatshirt, crocs and wet hair!

I was so embarrassed when I saw someone I know! PJ's might have been marginally better than the state I was in!

Sadly it's a british problem. Try Italian mornings, everyone so chic, over their cappuccino at the bar. English women, many of them, haven't any class or style,

It would be interesting to know if this is a truly English phenomenon. It really is a thing, sadly and we have all witnessed it. There does seem to be a prevailing attitude of “whose business is it how I dress or what I look like” doesn’t there?

Are you always this snobby? How would you like it if someone decided to call you a 'povvo' (disgusting expression btw) because you live near a 'rough council estate'?

Tbh I find it rather disturbing that you have these prejudices working in social housing. Presumably if you don't like 'povvos' you also look down your nose at some of the people you are supposed to be helping in your work?

I’d think they had mental health issues if I saw that.

This honestly wouldn’t bother me at all, my thought process would be “oh look someone in a dressing gown”, then I’d just get on with my day.

It’s lazy.
People cba to make an effort to present their best self.
However we have been brained washed to “you do you” and it hurts nobody so… there we are.

I went to the shops tonight in my pjs, uggs, and a floor length oodie (avocado one!) wet hair and no make up. I also bought wine and a bag of hula hoops.

I own and run a company and earn 120k a year. I work 80 hrs a week on average. I live in a lovely house in an affluent area. I’d been in a v expensive fancy suit all day at meetings, I had showered first thing, had a bath this evening got in my comfies then realised I’d run out of wine.

I wonder how many people saw me and thought I was a ‘povo/gypsy/mentallyill/dirty/lazy’. I mean I really don’t care because I’d never respect or want to be friends with those people but it does make you wonder.

Affluent, higher earner, but still wouldn’t do it. Never run out of wine, just go to the cellar and don’t own PJs or Uggs.

Oooh cellar! That is posh.

It is uncouth. Just today, I saw someone walking their dog whilst wearing a nightdress.
On one hand, we'll done for walking the dog, on the other, get dressed, literally takes a few minutes!

You can earn well and still be some of those things you mentioned, it's not all mutually exclusive.

Some also wouldn't want to be friends with you either.

I had a boss who was wealthy but had manners of a pig, as they say, money doesn't buy class.

Bad manners now and no class! Brilliant.

this thread is the gift that keeps giving

If I saw my boss in the shops with pjs on I’d be embarrassed and really find it hard to think the same of them, just put clothes on fgs

To be fair, some of those wide legged trouser suits/ athleisure wear outfits would have been seen as unacceptable not long ago. Leggings and trainers (except at the gym) would have been seen as lazy.
But I wouldn't wear sleepwear outside the house, but maybe the woman was ill, and had some emergency that she had to drive unexpectedly?

So I have to live my life in case I see a member of staff outside in the wild and that person happens to be a knob who would judge what I’m wearing outside of work? That’s mental. I’ll keep being me. God you lot have too much time on your hands. It’s blowing me mind - but also v funny to me - that people are genuinely walking around getting worked up about what other people are wearing!! If I had nipple clamps and a thong on you’d have a point but come on!

I find it a bit grim and grubby. Feels a bit intimate to see someone in their pyjamas. The only people I expect to see in nightwear are DH, my DCs, and very close friends.

Quite.