To think that the dressing gown was one step too far?

[Imdunfer]

In a petrol station buying a coffee at nine thirty in the morning. Looking down realised that the young woman behind me was wearing obvious pyjamas. And slippers. Then looking up to see a fluffy cream dressing gown.

I can't decide if it matters. I was brought up to believe that it shows a complete lack of self respect, and a lack of respect for anyone else, but does it, these days?

YABU. Perfectly normal wear for filling up your car.

YANBU. What is the world coming to that anyone thinks that's reasonable.

I saw a young woman dressed like this walking down our road a few months back. I realised that a few years ago I would have assumed she was distressed / struggling with her mental health and asked her if she was ok, but now not so much and that seemed sad. Last year two women came to a screening at our local independent cinema dressed in PJs and dressing gown.

Common and slovenly

Surely you jest. Taking debit cards out of their pants/knickers??

It’s skanky.

Yep - lady in PJ’S and a dressing gown 10:45am Sunday outside the local Post Office / Convenience Store. Grim

It’s such a weird thing to me. I’m one of the people who puts on “lounge wear” as soon as I get in from work - I got home about 6 and am now in joggers and a sweatshirt, and Birkenstock clogs. I don’t sleep in these clothes but they would work as pjs (I change into a nightie at bedtime). If I had to go out now I would just stick a coat on top, and while I look scruffy I am dressed. If I was in a position I’d not be able to shower/dress in the morning and had to go out, I’d at least make sure my pjs were plain sweats that pass as clothes.

Worked breakfast shifts in a hotel - can confirm this is 100% true.

Because it’s something of a characteristic for this group of people. I’ve noticed they’re either immaculately turned out and stunningly underdressed and over made-up or, indeed, in nightwear.

The now easily-recognisable group of traveller girls and women that frequent my local supermarket are also generally openly shoplifting and filling their pockets and bags with things that the security guard can never seem to be bothered to ask them to put back on the shelves or pay for… but that’s a whole other debate.

They could have had a bath or shower before bed. No need for twice a day

They’re officially a distinct ethnic group.

I don't think it always means they haven't washed. On days where I WFH (once or twice a week), I'll shower and put on fresh PJs that don't look like PJs at all, they look like soft trousers and a soft top in black or other muted colour. Unless I have more formal meetings where I'll put on a nice top and make up.

I don't know why people who need to pop out for a bit don't just wear more neutral pyjama wear.

This is my view too.

I wouldn’t dream of it but it wouldn’t upset me. I might wonder if she’s ok but would forget about it by the time I got to the till.

no it's true.
my local supermarket has a sign up saying they can not accept payment if it comes out of underwear.
when I worked in the local chippers and they paid that way we always picked it up with a tongs put it into a money bag in the till separate and tongs in the wash or we wore gloves. they knew not to say anything to us though

Apparently all cash notes (bar newly printed ofc) are gross, with toilet germs on them; a bit of boob sweat probably just perfumed them.

understand that
but seeing them open their flies pull down their knickers a bit to pull it out makes it even more grim 🤮

Can't get excited about this - it's not like they're naked or wearing clothing more suitable for a BDSM club in a shop. And it's not a t shirt with offensive wording. Dressing gowns seem a bit impractical as a choice outside of the house unless you're ill and going to/from a GP/hospital. But nobody's making me wear one.

How people dress socially doesn't really impact anyone else (unlike people playing music without headphones).

It's probably going to become too cold for pyjamas/ dressing gowns outside (at least without them being covered with a coat) in the next few weeks.

Argh, you're right, that is gross.

Saw something on a TV program once, think it was in Liverpool. Young women getting up, showering, hair done (velcro rollers left in by choice) full face of make up and then dressed in "going out" pyjamas and dressing gown.

So they were washed and dressed. It has become a fashion thing amongst certain young women who are attention seeking and look-at-me.

Must be uncomfortable down there when they get changed. I wouldn't fancy a 50p in my crack...

I am sure it must be 😄😅 but I ever seen it done with notes
I have seen a small bag if change stuffed in bra though dunno how that was comfortable 😅

Some mum's used to turn up at school in dressing gowns and slippers....at 3.30 pm ----

I dont take one bit of notice of what anyone is dressed in as long as they have manners i dont care, life is short and many things are going on so why would i worry about what others have on.

Tbf you don’t know her situation she might have just gotten out of hospital or fled with only her pjs to her name. If she’s not causing you harm why take offence to something that doesn’t affect you

I feel kind of bad because on the one hand, it's not hurting anyone and it shouldn't be a moral issue. And on the other, I just hate it. Why can't you get dressed before you leave the house? You don't need to be coiffed and made up and in the most stylish outfit but can't you put on clothes that aren't for sleeping? Joggers and a jumper?

Course it is. People wearing their nightwear outside during the day where people can see you actually dressed like that, is way more ‘odd’ than wearing it indoors during the day, where no one can see you dressed like that.