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AIBU to refuse a tenant's vulnerable guest staying in my HMO?

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Poster555 · 12/09/2026 08:48

NC for this. I know landlords aren’t always popular here.

I own and manage a few HMO’s in a nearby city. All legal requirements fulfilled, and normally have long term tenants.

I woke this morning to a host of missed calls.
One of the tenants, who has been fine for several years, invited his friend/ relative to stay for a temporary period as she was having issues with her landlord.
He did not discuss this with me or the other tenants.

Tenants are of course allowed visitors, including overnight for a day or two ( longer if they are visiting from abroad, etc. it’s pretty flexible).
The Tenancy Agreement is very clear that visitors visit the person, and they should never be left unsupervised in the property or given a key.

Around 6 weeks ago I was at the property for a routine treatment. The visitor was there alone. I had to ask her to leave as harmful chemicals were being used.

I had a chat with the tenant later and he explained it was a one off emergency.

It later transpired after complaints from other tenants and some unexplained damage that she was living in the property.

That was a problem. She had no primary address elsewhere and her presence took the property into the next level of HMO, meaning it needed to be registered.
The penalties for not registering when required are severe.

I told the tenant he needed to tell her to leave.

He did so and was met with a lot of resistance, but eventually she went, only to return in the early hours some days later. He felt he had to let her in.

He asked for my help to get her to leave. She refused, saying the council had told her that I’d have to get a court order to evict her.

Legal advice was that he invited her in and once he told her she was no longer welcome we could change locks when she was out.

She actually went out without a key and whilst she was gone he put her belongings in a locked shed outside, offering to open it when she needed.

That was about a week ago. I thought it was sorted. The calls in the early hours were from my tenant and the police asking if I would agree to her staying the night.

I would have said no and fortunately as they couldn’t reach me she was not allowed in.

This woman clearly has problems. I’d say she is vulnerable, but the same council that was advising her not to leave my property, whilst refusing any sort of practical assistance, would also be the ones taking action against me for running an unlicensed HMO.

The tenant is being bullied by so called friends to let her stay. He is under a lot of pressure but I’ve had to tell him that if he lets her stay I will have to take steps to evict him.

I have told him that I will speak to any official bodies that are trying to pressure him, and to the ‘friends’
I wasn’t expecting to speak to the police at 2-3 am though. Apparently they weren’t happy with me and thought the tenant should be able to take her in.

OP posts:
Puzzledandpissedoff · 12/09/2026 12:59

I don’t think the tenant is technically vulnerable. He is helpful to his own detriment

Unfortunately it's to your detriment too, @Poster555 - something I doubt he truly cares about despite the bleating, especially as it now turns out he's letting her through not one but three doors

Though "I don't want her here" may be trotted out for your benefit I'm afraid I wouldn't give it much credence, and while it's understandable that your main motive is to keep her away I still think a very hard line is needed here

So he seems to "fear people in authority"? Fine - then let yours appear to be the greater one, stick purely to what you have to do, and avoid any and all manipulation

Typo

SuffolkMan · 12/09/2026 13:00

I'm surprised that nobody is picking up on the fact that she has no right to stay in the UK. If she isn't claiming asylum & doesn't have the required visa why isn't Border Force removing her?

ThisDandyWriter · 12/09/2026 13:01

HavingABlether · 12/09/2026 09:08

Moving from 4 to 5 does, even if she's not paying rent. What you find hard to believe about the law is, in fact, irrelevant to the law.

No OP, not unreasonable. It sounds like different bits of the council are working against each other instead of a joined up approach. Underfunding will do that. (See also: HMRC). But you are responsible for abiding by the rules set for you, and you had no alternative.

It’s just not true. In this situation, the LL is not running an illegal hmo. I have a lot of expert knowledge on this area.
if this was me, I’d approach the council and explain the issue and issue formal warnings to the tenant and put in a complaint to the police.

Pumpkindice · 12/09/2026 13:02

I'm glad you've recognised that your tenant is in a difficult position OP, yes he made a mistake but we're all human. Hopefully like you say with your backing that letting her in would risk his tenancy he'll be able to stand up to those pressuring him.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 12/09/2026 13:06

VointofPiew · 12/09/2026 12:32

Makes her more vulnerable

That’s not the OP’s responsibility. She does have a responsibility to her paying tenants.

Poster555 · 12/09/2026 13:06

SuffolkMan · 12/09/2026 13:00

I'm surprised that nobody is picking up on the fact that she has no right to stay in the UK. If she isn't claiming asylum & doesn't have the required visa why isn't Border Force removing her?

I am not sure if she is in the UK illegally. She is from the same country as
my tenant and he has the right to work and to rent accommodation.

He has an endorsement of no access to public funds.

OP posts:
Puzzledandpissedoff · 12/09/2026 13:12

SuffolkMan · 12/09/2026 13:00

I'm surprised that nobody is picking up on the fact that she has no right to stay in the UK. If she isn't claiming asylum & doesn't have the required visa why isn't Border Force removing her?

It's not a popular topic on MN, SuffolkMan, but it's interesting that the community to which the tenant and this woman belong are said to be keen to encourage him to house her (to help her disappear?)

Hence why I said that the "I don't want her here" - and this after letting her in through multiple doors - is probably just something he feels he'd better trot out in order to keep his own accommodation

SuffolkMan · 12/09/2026 13:13

Poster555 · 12/09/2026 13:06

I am not sure if she is in the UK illegally. She is from the same country as
my tenant and he has the right to work and to rent accommodation.

He has an endorsement of no access to public funds.

Is it an EU country? How long has he lived in the UK? How long has she lived in the UK?

There are various ways you can bring her to the attention of the relevant authorities.

https://www.imsallegations.homeoffice.gov.uk/start

Report an immigration or customs crime – Public Allegations Form – GOV.UK

https://www.imsallegations.homeoffice.gov.uk/start

19lottie82 · 12/09/2026 13:15

OP, could you get a ring doorbell camera? That way the tenant could use it as another excuse as to why he can’t let her in, if she tried returning, telling her that you will know if she’s there and he will be evicted.

Poster555 · 12/09/2026 13:16

SuffolkMan · 12/09/2026 13:13

Is it an EU country? How long has he lived in the UK? How long has she lived in the UK?

There are various ways you can bring her to the attention of the relevant authorities.

https://www.imsallegations.homeoffice.gov.uk/start

They are not from an EU country.

I mentioned earlier that part of the reason for my concern is that this person is not known to me. I only know her first name.

With hindsight it might have been a good idea to get her full details, but my main concern was getting rid of her, and I didn’t want to officially acknowledge her.

OP posts:
Pumpkindice · 12/09/2026 13:17

SuffolkMan · 12/09/2026 13:13

Is it an EU country? How long has he lived in the UK? How long has she lived in the UK?

There are various ways you can bring her to the attention of the relevant authorities.

https://www.imsallegations.homeoffice.gov.uk/start

The OP said she didn't have the correct visa to get housed by the council, not that she didn't have a visa.

Poster555 · 12/09/2026 13:18

19lottie82 · 12/09/2026 13:15

OP, could you get a ring doorbell camera? That way the tenant could use it as another excuse as to why he can’t let her in, if she tried returning, telling her that you will know if she’s there and he will be evicted.

That’s an idea I could try to pursue.

I would have to check this out with my landlord legal advice team first though. I am a bit concerned that it might be a breach of the tenant’s privacy.

OP posts:
19lottie82 · 12/09/2026 13:19

Poster555 · 12/09/2026 13:18

That’s an idea I could try to pursue.

I would have to check this out with my landlord legal advice team first though. I am a bit concerned that it might be a breach of the tenant’s privacy.

Or even get a dummy one? As suggested the tenant could use it as an excuse to stop her entering, she needn’t know it’s not real / active.

Poster555 · 12/09/2026 13:21

19lottie82 · 12/09/2026 13:19

Or even get a dummy one? As suggested the tenant could use it as an excuse to stop her entering, she needn’t know it’s not real / active.

That’s a great idea. Thank you

OP posts:
TheSmallAssassin · 12/09/2026 13:21

Namechangerage · 12/09/2026 10:08

Do you not feel bad about changing the character of the street where you’ve placed the HMO with council tenants?

edit to add have lived in social housing and even homeless hostel growing up so I’m not being snobby about it. Just personal experience from 4 HMOs going up near my current house all with single tenants.

Edited

Where are single people supposed to live if they can't afford a property to live in on their own?

Mcdhotchoc · 12/09/2026 13:21

Is there any scope to move your paying tenant to another one of your properties? Clean break etc

SuffolkMan · 12/09/2026 13:21

Pumpkindice · 12/09/2026 13:17

The OP said she didn't have the correct visa to get housed by the council, not that she didn't have a visa.

At best it sounds like she is on a visa waiver & has likely overstayed that. It can't do any harm to dob her in to Border Force as an illegal immigrant.

Shineonyoucrazy · 12/09/2026 13:23

AlwaysExtraHot · 12/09/2026 09:15

I don’t get why the police are involved.

They end up dealing with loads of situations for all sorts of reasons with vulnerable people and trying to find her shelter for the night is routine.

Pumpkindice · 12/09/2026 13:24

SuffolkMan · 12/09/2026 13:21

At best it sounds like she is on a visa waiver & has likely overstayed that. It can't do any harm to dob her in to Border Force as an illegal immigrant.

Where in the OP's posts does it sound like that?

Also, border force work at the borders. Clue is in the name. Unless OP has neglected to tell us their HMO is located in an airport, I don't think they'll be interested.

Keepitrealnomists · 12/09/2026 13:29

Sounds like she could be here illegally, trafficked into the country, she could be a sex worker, or a victim of modern day slavery. You need to go to the police OP

Shineonyoucrazy · 12/09/2026 13:29

Elieza · 12/09/2026 10:04

i care about humans too. However i also care about the law and my legal responsibilities, as im sure the op does and if i were her i’d think about my moral responsibilities ie the woman is causing damage to my property and upsetting people.

So i would expect the council, who have a legitimate responsibility to house her, to step up and get on with it instead of trying to pass the buck elsewhere.

i would issue the tenant in question with notice in writing. but (verbally only) tell him if he gets her to leave and not let her in again EVER AGAIN NOT EVEN TO USE THE LOO ETC you will rescind it in writing. That you do not want him out at this stage and this strategy is a means to an end.

That way he can show her and his so called pals who are telling him to keep her there (likely so they don’t have to deal with her, presumably thats where she stayed when she left for five days or whatever it was and caused mayhem there) that he is now out because of her. He may choose to bundle her out the door. i know i would. or both could attend the council as homeless due to the eviction letter. During which time you could change the locks and not let her in again.

Councils do not have a responsibility to house everyone. They never have. They have a duty to house families with children and disabled/sick people but single people are potentially only entitled to help and advice. There is a duty to house asylum seekers under different legislation.

LIZS · 12/09/2026 13:30

I think you also have a duty of care to your other tenants. If she is volatile and destructive she, and anyone else’s “guest” behaving similarly, should be actively excluded. If your tenant is part of a wider cultural community there must be someone else who could support her search for accommodation.

Meteorite87 · 12/09/2026 13:32

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 12/09/2026 09:43

Use your imagination. Something OP does not want to get mixed up in.

"Dangerous chemicals" stood out to me in the op.

@Poster555 Do what is best for you. It's understandable you do not want her in your property.

That woman was staying for free, presumably. You were never legally her landlady.

GroundCloves · 12/09/2026 13:33

TheSmallAssassin · 12/09/2026 13:21

Where are single people supposed to live if they can't afford a property to live in on their own?

Edited as hadn’t read quote history

PissedOffAutistic · 12/09/2026 13:33

I have no useful advice, but just wanted to say that you sound like a fabulous landlord - it is so kind of you to try to take the pressure off your tenant by telling him to tell his friends it is you refusing this woman staying.