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AIBU to refuse a tenant's vulnerable guest staying in my HMO?

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Poster555 · 12/09/2026 08:48

NC for this. I know landlords aren’t always popular here.

I own and manage a few HMO’s in a nearby city. All legal requirements fulfilled, and normally have long term tenants.

I woke this morning to a host of missed calls.
One of the tenants, who has been fine for several years, invited his friend/ relative to stay for a temporary period as she was having issues with her landlord.
He did not discuss this with me or the other tenants.

Tenants are of course allowed visitors, including overnight for a day or two ( longer if they are visiting from abroad, etc. it’s pretty flexible).
The Tenancy Agreement is very clear that visitors visit the person, and they should never be left unsupervised in the property or given a key.

Around 6 weeks ago I was at the property for a routine treatment. The visitor was there alone. I had to ask her to leave as harmful chemicals were being used.

I had a chat with the tenant later and he explained it was a one off emergency.

It later transpired after complaints from other tenants and some unexplained damage that she was living in the property.

That was a problem. She had no primary address elsewhere and her presence took the property into the next level of HMO, meaning it needed to be registered.
The penalties for not registering when required are severe.

I told the tenant he needed to tell her to leave.

He did so and was met with a lot of resistance, but eventually she went, only to return in the early hours some days later. He felt he had to let her in.

He asked for my help to get her to leave. She refused, saying the council had told her that I’d have to get a court order to evict her.

Legal advice was that he invited her in and once he told her she was no longer welcome we could change locks when she was out.

She actually went out without a key and whilst she was gone he put her belongings in a locked shed outside, offering to open it when she needed.

That was about a week ago. I thought it was sorted. The calls in the early hours were from my tenant and the police asking if I would agree to her staying the night.

I would have said no and fortunately as they couldn’t reach me she was not allowed in.

This woman clearly has problems. I’d say she is vulnerable, but the same council that was advising her not to leave my property, whilst refusing any sort of practical assistance, would also be the ones taking action against me for running an unlicensed HMO.

The tenant is being bullied by so called friends to let her stay. He is under a lot of pressure but I’ve had to tell him that if he lets her stay I will have to take steps to evict him.

I have told him that I will speak to any official bodies that are trying to pressure him, and to the ‘friends’
I wasn’t expecting to speak to the police at 2-3 am though. Apparently they weren’t happy with me and thought the tenant should be able to take her in.

OP posts:
Pumpkindice · Yesterday 12:52

JapanesePotWeed · Yesterday 12:27

NIMBY 😅
20years ago the majority of supported housing units were still ran by the Council. That has changed. And it is a change that is helping no one.
Every single HMO around me was converted from a family home for student use around 20 years ago.We are very close to a University. Within the last 5-7 years the landlords moved the students out and the addict population in. Most recently it's the asylum contracts gaining popularity. Poverty and neediness is a huge and very profitable business!
There are streets where over 40% of ALL houses are private Supported Accommodation. That number does not include other HMOs, like those under Asylum Contracts. I live on a street that is exactly like that - a large majority ( in excess of 70%) of 138 terraced properties are converted shared houses with transient tenants.
I am a victim of poverty exploitation system that drains whole areas of social capital and diverts all other resources towards those who service needs. The needy must remain needy or the business plan falls apart.

You might as well go on a Victorian slum and call a resident there a NIMBY for wanting to see an improvement in their surroundings.

Perhaps where you live, but the ones I worked with were all private landlords or charities and the level of 'support' in some was extremely questionable. We haven't had council provision for many, many years. The provision from the private landlords 100% needed better regulation.

JapanesePotWeed · Yesterday 13:41

Pumpkindice · Yesterday 12:52

Perhaps where you live, but the ones I worked with were all private landlords or charities and the level of 'support' in some was extremely questionable. We haven't had council provision for many, many years. The provision from the private landlords 100% needed better regulation.

100% I agree with you and it is why I am posting

ChampagneCharly · Today 07:46

I don’t want for my DP it if it comes with control and conditions.

and yet there are conditions for whether you continue to remain in contact with her? Namely she hand over a chunk of her inheritance?

sounds like you’re the one issuing controlling conditions!

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