Would you be upset if a new hire at work said this to the director? The director is my DH.

[BleefinbackBlean]

‘I’ve never worked with someone I have a crush on before’

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if was said when accepting the job role via Teams.

A crush is not sexual innuendo. She didn’t suggest rubbing the cream cake all over his chest and licking it off.

Exactly this!

I'm guessing it was a nervous/shocked laugh rather than a funny laugh.

They weren't expecting that response that's for sure.

That is what is worrying.
If he and his co director are hapoy with sexual innuendo from people they are recruiting it gives an inight into the ethos and lack of professionalism in the company.

How are women ever going to be treated with respect in the work environment if they reduce what should be professional exchanges to talk about fancying their employer?

Apparently it involved cake. Cake excuses most things.

Is she attractive?

What is sexual about a crush? I had my first crush at age 4. I had my heart broken when I was 6. wasn’t remotely sexual.

You were 4. This is an adult woman who has just been offered a job
You really think it's normal for this woman to tell her new boss she has a crush on him? We aren't talking about children in a play ground here you know.

By definition a crush is having a romantic interest in someone. Generally in adults that’s a sexual thing. If you meant it platonically you’d say you admired someone.

Exactly the kind of stupid thing I’d say and cringe for the next week about, definitely a joke. What did your husband say about it to you?

She was joking though! Did you miss the cake joke?

I’d think it was profoundly and deeply weird and I’d be speaking to HR about how to lawfully pull the offer / terminate the contract…..

First of all, she was joking. Secondly, you can have a crush on someone and know it’s not going anywhere so it doesn’t become sexual in your mind. The rush to imagine it’s sexual is premature.

Or famous for an overinflated male ego.

I bet the woman's cringing herself inside out. Stupid thing to say, but our brains do have a habit of letting us down at crucial moments.

Your husband didn't take is as being inappropriate or unprofessional, so maybe it didn't sound as bad as it looks written down, given the context.

@nomas
What cake joke?
Op's H said every Friday was cake Friday. How is that a joke? That certainly used to be the tradition in some offices.
How does that make this new recruit telling her new boss she has a crush on him appropriate?

That is her personal choice though, how she interacts in interviews, she is not obliged to follow a blueprint for equality set by other women, she is maybe happy with how she interacts and the level of respect she gets, lets face it if the two main bosses are laughing at your jokes in the interview isn"t that respect?

Given the cake update it is clear it was just a joke.
If the people interviewing her thought it was funny then it just shows she's a good fit for the office.

Maybe she meant she wanted to crush the cake into her mouth and eat it whole, maybe it just came out wrong?

Are you worried he might have his head turned?
Is she young or attractive, or both?

I think it was just a flippant remark because of cake Friday. Not overly funny but she was probably nervous/excited at being told she had just landed a job.

We're you listening in to the Teams meeting, or did your dh tell you?

I’m sure she will go far…….

She sounds young, attractive and funny.

Well yes that style of interview technique obviously gets her jobs. I don't know how you work out it means her new bosses have respect for her though.

As I've already said if OP's H and his fellow director encourage this level of personal familiarity with new employees it says a lot about the lack of professionalism and the ethos of their company. If OP's H does encourage this level of conversation with his women employees then OP has every right to worry about the boundaries he has with junior, particularly women, employees.

Completely unprofessional of her and your DH should certainly decline her application. She is a red flag IMO

Did you read the OPs update?