Fuming about directions woman

[HowardsWahey]

I live in a seaside town that, at this time of year in particular, is very popular with tourists. Therefore it's quite common to be stopped and asked for directions or local information. I never mind, but I think a bit of gratitude doesn't go amiss.

Some woman and her husband stopped me today and asked if there was anywhere nearby they could get some fish and chips. I started saying, "Yes, if you walk to the bottom of the road just behind us, you'll see a big retail park with Sainsbury's and Lidl..."

Then, when I'm mid-sentence, she cuts me off and says, "Oh that's lovely - but we just fancied some fish and chips", saying "fish and chips" as if I was a bit simple and needed them explained to me. I gave her a bit of a look and said, "And if you'd let me finish, I'd have told you which turning to take at the retail park for the fish and chip shop".

I thought she'd have the sense to realise she shouldn't have interrupted, but she made a sort of huffing noise and said, "Well THAT'S a bit rude! I was only asking." So I said, "And I was only answering - but you interrupted me. THAT'S rude. Enjoy your chips". And I walked off.

What the hell is wrong with some people?! Someone takes time out of their day to help them out, and they won't take two seconds to listen! I hope she and her droopy-faced husband are still wandering about desperate to find their cod and chips 😄

Mannie being man? I’m only asking as I have never seen the phrase before.

You are giving this post waaayy too much headspace...

🤣🤣🤣 Given some of your comments I think I understand why the woman may have reacted to you like she did.

Oh yes, because we must all be terribly, terribly nice, mustn't we? Spotted a goose? Don't dare say boo! Never, ever stick up for yourself under any circumstances - we must always #bekind, on pain of death.

Eh? What's wrong with meeting her energy? The op was explaining and got interrupted. And as for sainsburys and lidl, they were points of reference for finding the fish and chip shop. Obviously!

Obviously when you meet someone’s energy the conversation is not going to progress constructively. You both end up being rude to each other. If you want a conversation to progress constructively then you diffuse the other person’s rudeness.

Ironic really considering you’ve made an entire thread about it 😉

OP, the majority of people in society are self-absorbed and thick.

I think you may have missed the point here...

Clearly not obviously. Some people seem incapable of grasping that a supermarket can be near a fish and chip shop. Or that the supermarket is between where they are standing now, and where the fish and chip shop is.

Well, it was clear to me, and wasn't there.

'I wasn't there'

Why are you slagging off the blokes face?

Its just a chat forum. I started a thread about ants the other day.

I did read the thread. I read your replies to those posters, loving and endorsing what they said. Hence the relevance of them in my reply to you.

When I say there was no need for a thread about this, it’s not reflecting the purpose of Mumsnet but is instead a comment on your character. Letting small everyday things cause you to ‘fume’ is not good for you. And in all honesty, your comments throughout this thread make you look like an unhappy insecure person. Happy, secure people don’t let these small incidents occupy their headspace. My advice to you is to spend more time building yourself than knocking down a stranger as you are attempting to in this thread.

@Lightnomore 'When I say there was no need for a thread about this, it’s not reflecting the purpose of Mumsnet but is instead a comment on your character.'

What do you think is the purpose of Mumsnet?

I'd suggest it's you who doesn't understand what AIBU is for, not the OP.

Eh up we’re in The Portentous Zone.

Don’t be ridiculous. I’m as far from ‘be kind’ as possible - I’m perfectly capable of being a cunt.

But to be ‘furious’ and then to have a go at people who disagree is a ridiculous. You both behaved badly. Shit happens, humans are cunts. 🤷‍♀️

She clearly thought you were sending her to a supermarket to buy it rather than a fish and chip shop.

But you do sound like a typical local.

It was directions TO the fish and chip shop. That’s how directions work.

I liked your response. She was rude and condescending so fair enough with your response.

Cheeky boot, well done for matching her energy!

One shouldn't say boo to a goose. There's a whole other thread about it.

Used to get a lot of that during the summer season and I started saying no idea, I don’t live here to every query in the end.