Fuming about directions woman

[HowardsWahey]

I live in a seaside town that, at this time of year in particular, is very popular with tourists. Therefore it's quite common to be stopped and asked for directions or local information. I never mind, but I think a bit of gratitude doesn't go amiss.

Some woman and her husband stopped me today and asked if there was anywhere nearby they could get some fish and chips. I started saying, "Yes, if you walk to the bottom of the road just behind us, you'll see a big retail park with Sainsbury's and Lidl..."

Then, when I'm mid-sentence, she cuts me off and says, "Oh that's lovely - but we just fancied some fish and chips", saying "fish and chips" as if I was a bit simple and needed them explained to me. I gave her a bit of a look and said, "And if you'd let me finish, I'd have told you which turning to take at the retail park for the fish and chip shop".

I thought she'd have the sense to realise she shouldn't have interrupted, but she made a sort of huffing noise and said, "Well THAT'S a bit rude! I was only asking." So I said, "And I was only answering - but you interrupted me. THAT'S rude. Enjoy your chips". And I walked off.

What the hell is wrong with some people?! Someone takes time out of their day to help them out, and they won't take two seconds to listen! I hope she and her droopy-faced husband are still wandering about desperate to find their cod and chips 😄

That reminds me of a couple of places in my city that everyone describes by where certain pubs used to be. Directions would be go along until you get to the Eagle junction, the Eagle being a pub that was demolished in the 1990s.

Well, I’m 67 and I use the GPS on my phone. Love it!

I usually say I am new here

I usually am as I have moved about a fair bit

@HowardsWahey "A woman pissed me off. I snapped back at her. She didn't like it. I didn't care."

I wish every AIBU was summarised so beautifully.

I really hope they forget to put salt and vinegar on her chips. She was v rude and condescending

This!

People like that are not worth thinking about twice.

But if you are so convinced of your own rightness, as you appear to be, why did you post in the first place?

I was with you until the droopy face bit - yes she was rude and you were kind to direct her - but YOU are being rude here in this post about her husband.

A woman pissed me off. I snapped back at her. She didn't like it. I didn't care.

Except you did care because you came on here to express how angry you were

I didn’t call her lairy, I said she MAY HAVE BEEN lairy. That is something that’s used to indicate someone just being arsey.

I understood it was a pun - it doesn’t make it less misogynistic.

What’s a ‘peer mannie’?

OP you have massively over-reacted. This should not have bothered you so much. It’s a trivial event. Wanting her to be shat on by a seagull or directions into the pier. Goodness people, learn how to shrug things off and move on.

Sounds to me like she misunderstood and thought you were directing her where to get a food shop. So she interrupted to let you know they wanted fish and chips instead. From your account she was trying to be polite in the way she said this, hence she found your ‘if you just let me finish.. ‘ comment rude.

She misunderstood what you were saying and your intent. You misunderstood her interruption. and her intent.

There’s nothing to see here.

Absolutely no need for a thread or these bizarre revenge fantasies.

You could learn not to get so ‘fuming’ about trivial non- events.

Poor man, I think.

The most offensive thing about this thread is the use of chipper instead of chippy 🤣 I need a regional map now of what everyone calls a fish and chip shop and where they're from!

No you didn't understand it was a pun. You are such a hypocrite, you called the woman lairy and then had the absolute audacity to try and lecture me😂.

Some people are like that though. She may have misheard or misunderstood or just been lairy

Both rude. Why are you insulting the husband's face?

I don't understand why you've quoted this post to say I'm giving the issue too much headspace. I was correcting a poster who had either badly reconstrued what I'd said or had simply made details up to suit her own narrative. Surely I'm allowed to do that on my own thread?

The huge percentage of people who agreed with my stance convinced me I was right.

You're from Cornwall aren't you

Peer mannie - poor mannie 🤷🏻‍♀️

Oh dear. If you read the thread, you'll see the comments - which I'm guessing weren't 100% serious - about hoping a seagull shits on her and directing her off the pier came from other people. Do consider checking things like this before commenting.

Also, what is this bizarre fashion for people claiming topics "don't need a thread"? This might blow your mind, but there is no NEED for any threads on Mumsnet, ever. It's a completely voluntary discussion forum. No one needs to post, and no one needs to read. If you weren't interested in the thread, you could have scrolled on. But instead you've gone into great detail about why I'm wasting my time, with absolutely zero sense of irony.

One of Bracknell's many roundabouts is called the Met Office roundabout. The Met Office moved to Exeter about 25 years ago 😂

Do you have a lot of these kind of interactions OP? It seems disproportionate to be so angry about a very short encounter. Rude people are everywhere, this isn’t news, surely.

Just shrug and move on. I guarantee she hasn’t given it another thought.

Oh kyj dhe ves, you clearly don’t know any Cornish people.