Another weekend and another drunken DP ‘performance’

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I’ve had very broken sleep so I apologise in advance for any grammatical errors!!

There has been a trend over about a year now of DP going out once a month with friends and getting hammered, his behaviour when returning home has increasingly worsened though. We don’t live together but when he goes out he usually comes back to mine to stay for the weekend as I live centrally close to where the pubs are.

Last night, he returns about 1am and wakes me up asking if I can ‘see to him’. I say no and go back to sleep, he says he will sort himself out.

I hear loads of crashing about so am woken at least twice, and he says he’s sleeping on the sofa. After yet more noise, I go into the living room and he’s naked, there’s a massive wet patch on my sofa, which he said is because he ‘sorted himself out’ - he was still pissed at this point.

I go ballistic and tell him I want him gone first thing. He’s still on the sofa now. I am not overreacting here am I?! It’s my flat which I worked hard to afford and he treats it like this.

That is disgusting behaviour don't let him stay at yours again. He can pay to have the sofa cleaned as well

I hope you rubbed his fucking face in it and dragged him out in a headlock, never to be seen again the scruffy bastard.

If this was the first time he'd ever done anything like this I would give him a second chance. But you are saying it is a pattern of behaviour which he obviously sees no need to change. For me, worse than the mess on your sofa would be the fact that he woke you up for you to attend to his wants.

He had a wank. The stain on the sofa is semen.

Do you not get out much?

That is so disgusting id immediately get the ick. Can you imagine if you had a child with this loser and they woke up to a naked Dad that had done this on your sofa!! It’s so gross and it seems like he did it on purpose to punish you for turning him down.
YUCK! Throw this one back.

Putrid. In every way.

Get rid and do better for yourself. Make him clean up first before you throw him out.

This is rancid.

Oh my god. End it, seriously you deserve better than this. Life is precious, move on xx

Oh, well, that's all right then.

Either way is grim, as is his expectation that the OP should "see to him". Charming.

Awww that's not very nice is it?

Does you need a hug? I mean not from me, I think what you wrote is very rude, but maybe from someone else?

It's worse if it's cum. More disrespectful. Nobody deliberately pisses themselves for fun, but he chose to have a wank and to let the results of it go on the sofa.

Either is bad and a dumping offense though, so it doesn't matter that much, I agree.

Not one shred of what you’ve posted is even remotely funny. Someone who gets that drunk frequently has an issue with alcohol. This will only get worse. Show him the door.

He wanked onto your sofa.

look at the contempt! Look at the revenge and hatred he has for you not sorting him out

i know you’ve booted him out, but go get a new lock for your front door and block him. He’s beyond gross.

Take away the key!

He wanked on to her sofa.

some things don’t need the benefit of the doubt. If you allow this once, what’s next?

seriously. The bar has to be higher than this.

Seriously, why?! If someone came into your home and kicked you in the head, would you explain why that's bad and invite them back again? Because this is on the same level of disrespect.

He should be dumped just for waking her up for sex.

He should be dumped for using her place as a doss house after a night out that she hasn't been on with him.

Please raise your own standards and don't hang out with arseholes like this man.

Oof. Sounds like you (rightly) have the ick. There’s no coming back from that. Bin him off now.

Ewww the dirty bastard. Send him the sofa steam cleaning bill and surely you are dumping the CF?!

Omg I really hope you woke him up made him clean the sofa 🤢 and then took his keys of him and kicked him out and ended the relationship you deserve someone so much better than this I’m sure he will be full of apologies and he will promise it will never happen again it will absolutely happen again and he will just get worse

If it happened more than once I would dump.

He’s a disrespectful minger. Get him out and change the locks.

No! He has literally told her, when she questioned the wankstain, that it's because she didn't "sort him out" last night. He's confessed to it being deliberate.

OP, getting so drunk he has "memory blackouts" is a dumping offense too, not a valid defense of his actions! Not that I believe him anyway. You are worth more than an apology, more than words designed to pacify you. You're worthy of respect.

Find a man who never has to apologise for his actions like this because he'd never dream of doing it in the first place.

Anyone lesser isn't worth dating. Chuck them back at the first sign of disrespect, always. You don't want to go through life fighting to be shown basic human decency with some excuse for a man who thinks it's ok to push your boundaries to see just how little you'll accept. Just maintaining the status quo is an uphill battle with those types, because they'll always be trying to do less and less and be less and less. They don't want a girlfriend/wife/relationship, they want WomanBot3000 with maid service and sex mode.

So no. You’re not overreacting. Wake him up, Kick him out, permanently and send an invoice for the sofa clean. That’s really really gross. I’d never be able to look at him the same way.

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Never let the bar for your relationship be "he treated me with contempt, but if he promises to never do it again, it's fine". It's NOT fine, it was never fine and the way to show yourself respect is to never ever tolerate it, not even once. Don't be with a man who's go-to mode of being is to see how much crap you'll put up with before you threaten to dump him.

I wouldn’t of let him even sleep on the couch he’d of been left in the street doing that on the couch! Vile