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Was MIL the AH at my wedding?

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ellie09 · Yesterday 21:28

Hi all

I finally had my wedding a few days ago and there was a big MIL incident.

A few small things led to a pretty big incident.

  1. Despite getting a dress that matched the bridal colour scheme, she changed her mind on the day and wore bright red which clashed with the rest of the bridal party
  1. Kept my partner back in the morning when he visited despite him saying he really needed to leave to get to the venue, to the point he was almost late - just so she could get photos
  1. Knocked back far too many drinks within the first 2 hours and was obliterated drunk
  1. Didnt speak one word to any of my family members, kept turning her back to my mum etc
  1. Brought confetti despite being told we didn't want any and the venue didnt allow it, then sulked and cried when we reminded her of both those points
  1. Partner was rushing to pick something up for a photo opportunity that our photographer had with the sunset which was time sensitive as he had to go soon, but she was pestering him to "spend time with her", he simply said "I dont have time right now" which ended in her crying hysterically and partner at this point told her to just leave. She then rounded up his entire family, told them my partner had "screamed at her" and got them to all leave with her.. All before the first dance

The next day, she's ignored all our posts/photos but proceeded to comment "beautiful couple" etc under other family photos of other family couples. The only photos she has posted, none of us, only her, and a petty confetti cannon thing outside her house.

My partner has always had issues with her and said this was the last straw and doesn't want to speak to her again.

I soon removed them from all my socials etc so I wouldnt get wound up more.

All my partner has received from his mum is the fact we upset her, disrespected her etc..

Am I going insane or are we in the wrong here?

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WhereWereWe · Today 20:19

ShortColdandGrey · Today 18:55

His parents were supposed to book the cars for the wedding. That is what they offered to do as a gift. They didn't bother but told us they did. So he had to book a taxi last minute. He can and does stand up to his mum. Thankfully she has calmed down as she has gotten older, but she pulled the same shit has her daughters wedding. Weddings seem to make some people go a bit crazy.

Are you the bride?

Bride’s family?

LunaShip · Today 20:49

This is not Reddit. There is no 'AITA' here.

Brokentoes85 · Today 20:59

Tbh the majority of it sounds very precious and over the top on your part, so it makes me question how hysterical she actually got.

I wouldn't describe anything you've said as a big mil incident, the fact you've already posted on social media, noted who she's making comments to, removed them and posted on here, only 1 day after getting married suggests you enjoy the drama and have a bit of quiet life.

Whosthetabbynow · Today 21:45

The nightmare future MIL I mentioned upthread made a habit of going to weddings wearing a colour of dress that would purposely clash in the photos, so that kind of deliberate nastiness does exist

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