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AIBU to feel awkward about my cleaner's very revealing work outfit?

212 replies

FurierTransform · 24/07/2026 14:55

My cleaner wears what i'd describe as an extremely skimpy gym outfit. I'm not sure of the exact name of clothes like this but hopefully you can imagine what I mean. It leaves basically nothing to the imagination - basically painted on fabric, and not much of it.

I get it (especially in these temperatures) - sweaty manual work, wear what your comfortable in, it's current fashion for people in their early 20s, want to show off body, whatever.

But I can't help but feel its a little inappropriate and awkward, especially when husband and other males are around in the house.
I don't want to make it a thing but AIBU? Would you say anything?

OP posts:
YouTookMyTimeAndYouTookMyMoney · 24/07/2026 14:58

It's hot sweaty work and it's a heatwave, leave her be! She's not wearing it for "the males" she's trying to be comfortable.

Tiredofitallagain · 24/07/2026 14:59

What pp said

hugasaurus · 24/07/2026 14:59

My husband is able to be around women in gym gear without molesting them, cheating on me, ogling them, whatever else. What part is actually bothering you? I don’t really see how it matters.

Blueeyedmale · 24/07/2026 14:59

If you are worried about your husband not being able to keep his eyes to himself then take it up with him and not the poor cleaner her body her choice yabvu

Livpool · 24/07/2026 15:00

She isn’t in a French maid’s outfit so leave her be! She is trying to stay cool. God forbid a man sees a woman not covered up!

Givemeachaitealatte · 24/07/2026 15:01

You are being ridiculous, of course you can't say anything.

Funchythesnowwoman · 24/07/2026 15:01

Why would you say anything to her?

Simonjt · 24/07/2026 15:02

Why is it her fault that there are perverts where she is working?

2026WhatNext · 24/07/2026 15:03

I thought I'd heard it all on MN. What would you say to her? Can you cover up because there are males in the house?

Oliwiaa · 24/07/2026 15:03

Why are you and the other males hanging around watching her work? We all make ourselves scarce when the cleaner is in so we're not in her way, half the time I have no idea what she's wearing.

MayaPyjama · 24/07/2026 15:04

What steps are you putting in place to make sure your cleaner is safe if your husband can’t be trusted to keep to himself whenever there’s a woman around?!

GranolaBaker · 24/07/2026 15:04

Maybe get an air con unit or some fans so she has reasonable working conditions?

FatMrsHoot · 24/07/2026 15:05

@FurierTransform

Would you say anything?

Yes, absolutely. I'd tell the males to stop ogling and go read the Bible.

VestibuleWeaver · 24/07/2026 15:06

Simonjt · 24/07/2026 15:02

Why is it her fault that there are perverts where she is working?

Who mentioned perverts? Men are wired to notice attractive women. We’d have died out long ago if that wasn’t the case. As as they’re not ogling her, what’s the problem?

NeverDropYourMooncup · 24/07/2026 15:07

You're paying her to scrub shit off the inside of your toilets, not to dictate what she wears to do it in.

UpDownAllAround1 · 24/07/2026 15:07

Like to hear what conversation you would have about not wearing the gym co-ords

Pippa12 · 24/07/2026 15:08

She’s come to work in gym wear to do a manual job- I don’t think it’s a crime.

Your husbands and ‘other males’ in the house sound like they need to take a cold shower!

ofcolitas · 24/07/2026 15:09

YANBU women shouldn't have their tits hanging out of their clothes or their arse cheeks visible when they're working, it's inappropriate.

Backedoffhackedoff · 24/07/2026 15:09

As above what could/ would you say to her? She can wear what she wants, presumably she doesn’t come from an agency with a uniform

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/07/2026 15:09

The men can go into a room where someone isn't doing manual labour they are paying to avoid.

Job's a good 'un.

MyGhastIsFlabbered · 24/07/2026 15:10

Ask her if she hangs her skimpy undies out on the line too

AwayWiththeGoblins · 24/07/2026 15:13

Housecleaning is easily the equivalent of a gym workout so she's dressed completely appropriately. What would you prefer, a dress with an apron and a little frilly cap, just because you're insecure?

Our cleaner wears gym leggings and a singlet.

FeliciaFancybottom · 24/07/2026 15:15

This is giving certain vibes...

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/07/2026 15:17

FeliciaFancybottom · 24/07/2026 15:15

This is giving certain vibes...

It really is. Report?

NotAnotherOne1234 · 24/07/2026 15:19

You could always clean your own house?