AIBU to ask what you’d do if your DH revealed he was actually an international gun for hire, and not a salesman?

[Hypothesis]

I ask you to imagine this. You’ve been with your DH for about ten years. One kid. You have a great income and lifestyle; a beautiful house, nice things, lovely car. It’s primarily funded by DH’s job in international sales. It takes him away from home for weeks, sometimes longer, but the material benefits are tangible and obvious. He also tells you one day that he’ll give it up and you’ll live a comfortable life.

Then the bombshell - you find out the sales job isn’t a sales job. Your DH is actually an international assassin. He has a vague moral code - he only takes out adults, only takes out men, only takes out those he considers are criminal or immoral (in his eyes) - bad guys basically. However, he remains a gun for hire.

AIBU to ask what you’d do?

And yes, I’ve been watching Day of the Jackal.

I had an old bf try to get in touch with me a few years ago on my old facebook account. He’s probably over 70 now, anyway he wrote “I guess you didn’t know but back in the day I used to do government contract work…” and I know he was implying that he was a contract killer. I rolled my eyes because I don’t know and I don’t care; he’s either a fantasist (very possible) or he murdered people and thinks he’s “the man” because of it.

This is the perfect cover. I’ve always thought being an electrician means you can blag your way in anywhere, “Just need to check the fuses in room 56, guv.”

I’d have a closer look at those 5 grand’s worth of tools if I were you…😉

I'd just leave. I wouldn't want the child or any of that lifestyle crap, he could have the house and full custody, and I'd pack up my stuff and set up on my own.

I’d give him a list and ask if he could work them into his schedule then proceed as normal.

As long as he’s taking out the bins and getting rid of the spiders we’re chill. 😎

I saw the title and immediately thought "somebody's been watching Day of the Jackal!"

I don't know what I would do.

If he’s that good, I’d ask him why certain individuals are still with us.

I'd want to know why he doesn't get paid more.

LTB

(anti violence)

I'd want to know what pension plans he had.
The job is hardly paying NI or a workplace pension.
And I would take out Life Insurance on him.

Sure, but when you say 'I think you misread. I watched the series.', you're implying that you had already said that you watched it.

Anyway, it's not important.

yeah, I'd give him a To Do list

Ffs you got me thinking there’s a new series . 2027, wtf? 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Red flag

I knew someone who claimed to have been in the SAS but retired. He was something of a fantasist...🕵

Leave him.

Tell him they're not paying him enough.

I would think he’s telling me because his cover has been blown🫠

So hot and somehow moral despite brutality 🫠

make sure he's up to date on his payments for his life insurance and that he had told me the details of his Swiss bank account? just in case.

oh that's a good idea! I should have thought of that.

Does he regularly bring back toblerone from these trips? If he does then it’s fine, if not then why not given all this money he’s earning.

I dated someone once where over a period, it became clear that he had an ...interesting... past (I'm pretty sure he wasn't a Walter Mitty, he drew no attention to himself but some things were just a bit strange and he was definitely ex military)

I finally asked him if he'd been a mercenary. His answer was "I prefer the term 'soldier of fortune' ".

Things to do with national security I would be OK with, executing random people for money not, although as this is entirely hypothetical I might have a rethink for the young Edward Fox, not so much Eddie Redmayne, good actor though he is.

That's electricians all over, isn't it? My Dad was very well qualified as one but we lived in a house with crumbling Edwardian wiring. In the 1970s.

Parents moved, he rewired half the village for free as retired and bored

I agree completely. Freddie Forsyth’s original novel is excellent. Fred Zimmerman’s 1973 film is, if anything, even better - a genuine classic. Sky’s TV series is crap.

Exactly - but I'm already screwed on that point if I'm 10 years in so I think the only way forward is to embrace it and enjoy the material rewards 😂