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DD and friend had drinks spiked, now in ITU AIBU?

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Pissedoffmama · Today 14:10

My Dd had her drink spiked last night.
Im sitting in ITU.
I have sons……. But wtf goes on in men’s heads.
For completeness, her best friend, was also spiked, but is not as poorly.
police are being crap.
Just why????

OP posts:
ProfessorBinturong · Today 22:36

Minasama · Today 21:10

How do you know they were spiked, have toxicology confirmed that?

I ask because there’s a potential danger in believing your drink was spiked when actually you drank too much too fast (and it does not take much to knock you out when drinking spirits…)

I always tell my daughter to only have a few sips and if she thinks it’s having no effect to wait 20 mins and then see. Also to stop and wait if she starts feeling her head going funny. It’s literally the most useful thing my parents told me growing up.

Did you miss the OP saying her daughter wasn't drinking alcohol? Edit: and that the test results showed no blood alcohol. And that the test results showed they'd been drugged.

ProfessorBinturong · Today 22:39

Didimum · Today 22:25

Why not check CCTV at the bar? Is there any?

The bar won't let private individuals watch the CCTV.

QueenKong101 · Today 22:41

My husband was spiked a couple of years ago on a work night out. He'd had two pints, next thing he knew he was drifting in and out of consciousness on the ground outside the pub. Luckily, a colleague found him and got him safely home in a cab, but he was extremely unwell for several days afterwards. To this day, has no idea how or why it happened, or who it was that spiked him.

Spookyspaghetti · Today 22:45

I don’t know if it’s already been said but it might be worth contacting her local police and crime commissioner, councillor and MP if you don’t think it is being taken seriously enough.

CrazyMidget · Today 23:00

sunshinesuzey · Today 15:28

I am sorry that these girls are unwell.

However, I don't understand how it could happen if someone has their drink in their hand all night.

Well, all it takes is someone to look to their left and someone on the right just behind them pops something in. These people are practised at sleight of hand, remember. I had my bag stolen and I swear there was no one nearby. Think how pickpockets are successful, and that's actually taking something out of people's pockets - much harder than popping a pill in a drink.

I suspect they are very, very quick.

CrazyMidget · Today 23:03

Willowskyblue · Today 15:43

Spiking isn’t just limited to drinks. It can be done via vapour and other methods.

We really, really need an 😱 option at the bottom of posts. Because 😱😱😱.

NormasArse · Today 23:04

sunshinesuzey · Today 15:14

I don't understand how this could happen.

I don't accept drinks off anyone I don't know.

In a restaurant I watch when the wine is bought to the table and how it is opened.

If I go to a bar, I watch what the bartender/barmaid does before and when they pour my drink.

Unless you leave your drink lying around there is no reason for it to be 'spiked'.

Dons tin hat !

You think this is the fault of victims?

Just FO.

researchers3 · Today 23:05

sunshinesuzey · Today 16:32

So what are the stats for this year?

🙄

CrazyMidget · Today 23:06

Pushmepullu · Today 21:22

OP, we had a spate of this in our local town and the police DID take it seriously. Contact the Police and Crime Commissioner, and get other girls & their families to. Do not underestimate the power of social media. Name the bar where it happened. Most places now have security, if not they are part of a pub/bar group who pass information to each other. Make noise, a lot of noise. This is what they did in our town and it turned out that the perpetrator was a bar man. Not all men are like this. Good men are fathers, brothers, uncles and grandfathers they would not think this is common and would be very protective.

The bar man!!! What did he get out of it - the sense of control at seeing his customers staggering around, I guess. JFC. I hope they threw the book at him.

CrazyMidget · Today 23:10

HookLineandStinker · Today 15:50

If what you say is true then the bar staff must be dodgy and working in cahoots with other men who use the bar.

That's what happened to me 40 years ago. The barman had been my friend.

Jesus. Was he suitably punished?

TheRobotsAreComing · Today 23:14

Pissedoffmama · Today 16:56

Ok….. wow what a lot of responses!
She’s now recovering and talking, but will be in ITU for another 24 hrs as they’re monitoring her heart and kidneys
So, what she remembers is that she went to the bar, bought drinks( hers was non alcoholic) had a sip, turned to tap her card on the payment machine!!
Other than that split second the girls never had their drinks out of their sight
Her test results confirmed their was no alcohol in her blood.
Both girls have tested positive for the same drug.
police are saying it’s hard to prove!
I’ve lost faith in humanity…..,
Glad she’s on the mend, but I’m feeling beyond sad……

Spiking can occur through injection now, do you think that might be a possibility if her drink wasn't out of her sight? Either that or bar staff are guilty

CrazyMidget · Today 23:14

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · Today 15:50

So very sorry your famiky are going theough this (and a huge yay for the protective brothers!!!)

But please thank whatever you believe in for a sensible friend and them both trusting their intuition.

I was spiked in my 20's, I have a good idea who did it (work colleague) and I am so very grateful to a work friend (male) who rang his wife and told her that he thought I had been spiked, I don't drink so it was very obvious, and told her he wouldn't be leaving my side til he knew inwas ok. He sat on my cheap ass dining chair all night in the hall outside my bedroom, doors open and watched me all night in case I took a turn for the worse.

He risked rumours and his marriage to make sure inwas ok.

His wife is a very lucky lady and I will always be eternally grateful to her and him for being so amazing and looking after me.

Why didn't he call an ambulance?? I'd have thought that was a much better option than watching you all night! You'd probably have been admitted. OP's daughter is being observed for damage to her organs. I don't really think a friend on a chair was the best option! Glad you were OK.

Didimum · Today 23:24

ProfessorBinturong · Today 22:39

The bar won't let private individuals watch the CCTV.

I was referring to police checking it, not the OP.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · Today 23:24

I had a drink spiked by a friend OP, but it wasn't GHB or a typical spiking drug. It was a heroic dose ofLSD and MDMA. We were at a rave.

The police were absolutely fucking useless and even tried to convince me I took it willingly because I knew what it was I had been spiked with.

I only knew what I'd been spiked with because at the rave I had a seizure and the spiker felt guilty and confessed to my partner what they'd done but then refused to admit it during questioning and said we were all taking drugs to enhance the rave.

The hospital staff were also no help, and the consultant even came and brought me a booklet about responsible drinking and drug use upon my discharge.

Nobody in the club we were at helped me even though it was clear before my seizure I was in significant distress and I'd apparently run up to the staff babbling and incoherent in a circuit multiple times, then I'd managed to bolt out of the door and quite fortunately for me I dropped and had my seizure right outside the paramedic tent, where I also smacked my head on the guard rails for the main road.

His reason for spiking me: I didn't look like I was having any fun. I was pressured to go to the rave, I don't like crowded places or loud noises but I didn't want to seem like a fun sucker.

I am disappointed that over 10 years later the police are still fucking useless with this. I hope they get a kick up their arse and your daughter and her friend get justice. It is awful and traumatic and it really impacts your social life and your ability to trust people. Well done to your sons for rallying round her and being the support she needs and to you as well. It will mean the world of difference to her.

Didimum · Today 23:26

TheRobotsAreComing · Today 23:14

Spiking can occur through injection now, do you think that might be a possibility if her drink wasn't out of her sight? Either that or bar staff are guilty

I don’t think those are the only two possibilities. Spikers are incredibly stealthy, similar to professional pickpocketers. It can seem impossible that they’ve managed it, but they can and do.

Timetochillnow · Today 23:28

My son was spiked aged 22, straight club, watched the drinks being prepare as he was designated safe / sober person for getting the group home that night.

thestudio · Today 23:33

Jesus Christ. I’ve just read down the new posts and again I ask:

what the FUCK is wrong with men?

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