To be annoyed at the assumption that I am a Mrs?

[Cheeseandolivesplease]

So I completed a update form at the dentist for myself and my daughter; the ones they routinely hand out. It didn't ask for my title, but I ticked the "married" box.
Next thing I know, my name pings up on the screen as Mrs .
Just no!!
At the end of my appointment I went to ask for it to be corrected, but AIBU to be annoyed at the assumption?
A bit like the thread today referring to the new prime minister's wife as Mrs Burnham. She is Ms van Heel.

@Cosyblankets They've not spoken to your husband at all?!!

So imagine her husband ticks the box that says married

No one calls him Mr Hername do they?

Do you know what time period we’re living in?

I don't think Mrs has been a part of any norm during the 21st century. In the 80s it was, in the 90s it wasn't a given.

They've checked who the car is for

I really don't think you know what being disrespected is.

Any Surgeon or Physician who expects me to address them as Mr or Dr may address me with my title. If they introduce with their first name, they may use mine. I'm not their subordinate and expect the relationship to be equally balanced in the context of power.

My dentist, solicitor, accountant, etc, are Paul, Fiona and Peter.

OMG.

We are so grateful for you striking this blow for sisterhood on our behalf.

And to think my generation did trivial stuff like letting women have credit without having to get their husband to co-sign

What were we thinking...

@Cosyblankets My point exactly. They knew the car was for me; for some (sexist) reason they assumed my husband would be paying for it. Needless to say that dealership didn't get a penny of my money.

I am a lesbian who took my wife's name. You wouldn't believe how many times we've had us referred to as "Mr & Mrs X". It used to bother me, because I took great pride in becoming "Mrs X". Now I figure I have bigger things to worry about!

A benefit of having a PhD is I can use a title that defines me by my educational status rather than my sex/marital status.

I was with my friend when she was asked if she was a miss, ms or Mrs. She replied that her title was professor. The man asking did a very unsubtle double take (she's a very young looking 40 year old).

In those circs, my DH usually puts the person right. "It's not my decision, my wife's buying it".

I’ve been listed at my GP as “Miss” for 20+ years, despite being married (and not young). I don’t identify as “Miss” (never have), but hey ho. I have bigger things to worry about.

@CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone
Quite. Generations before me did their part - it's our turn to continue to progress.

I take great pleasure in correcting people that I am Dr Gingercat. Saves a lot of messing about with Miss, Ms or Mrs.

But this is what I'm saying. That's never once happened to me. They've checked who the car is for and dealt with me. Not my husband. Not once. But it seems to happen a lot on here. Funny that

@TheyGrewUp Oh my DH knew I'd be happy to set the record straight!

Can you not speak for yourself?

If you’re British and married forms assume you are Mrs. If you don’t want to be called that then don’t tick married. Perhaps forms shouldn’t have that choice if it’s irrelevant. Forms at the dentist don’t really need it as long as there’s NOK. I think most languages I know have Miss Mrs and Mr so can’t be just a UK thing.

The "proud to be married" people...what is it that you are proud of?

You are married. Of course you are a Mrs. What strange things we get upset about nowadays

Mrs used to be used for mature professional spinsters. It doesn’t actually mean married.

@redbottleblue You're pulling my chain, right? Even our marriage certificate envelope reads Mr and Ms!! 😄

Can I ask a genuine question OP . If you feel so strongly about it all why did you take his surname? Could you not have kept yours and your children, if you have any, kept your surname ? Also do you wear a ring to symbolise that you are married?

They absolutely don't and haven't for 20 years. Any that do are provably failing to comply with norms and regs. No government form would assume Mrs.

Most husbands wear rings.