To be annoyed at the assumption that I am a Mrs?

[Cheeseandolivesplease]

So I completed a update form at the dentist for myself and my daughter; the ones they routinely hand out. It didn't ask for my title, but I ticked the "married" box.
Next thing I know, my name pings up on the screen as Mrs .
Just no!!
At the end of my appointment I went to ask for it to be corrected, but AIBU to be annoyed at the assumption?
A bit like the thread today referring to the new prime minister's wife as Mrs Burnham. She is Ms van Heel.

I think they are less likely to be educated to at least degree level.

Actually yes. If someone who knows me assumes I am using a married name they call DH Mr Hername .

I used to get wound up about these things before I was married because I wanted to be addressed as Ms and again after I was married and hadn't changed my name. But you know, it's really not important and I no longer care.
DH answers to Mr Bluebird and I answer to Mrs DH without bothering to correct anyone.

😂

Wow.

Sorry, I missed that. 😊

I was actually talking with someone last week about this. She was buying a house with her boyfriend (in his name only!) and they were planning to start a family etc. but did the "marriage is only a bit of paper" speech. I tried to explain why it matters but I dont think she really understood. She's 19 and in love and they'll live happily ever after. I even talked about the impact if he dies but nope, nothing bad will happen. Obviously I hope it doesnt but she is so sweet and nieve and would it be really easy to take advantage of her.

I haven't heard snyone use the word "spinster" for decades.😂 Many younger women are using Ms. Do you think they should use miss if not married? Is your marriage nit important to your DH as he presumably didn't change his title?

To be fair, I didn't wear my wedding ring after pregnancy weight gain made it too tight. I still considered myself very much married and loyal.

Meanwhile, my 'husband' (if u can call him that) cheated whilst wearing his wedding ring.

So even a wedding ring means nothing to some people.

Personally, yes.
It's the equivalent of Master/Mr, no?

Woah!! If she's contributing financially, she is INSANE to only have the house in his name.

Are you sure it's not an abusive relationship?
Financial abuse springs to mind here, hopefully not the case, but huge red flag if he is encouraging this and she's oblivious

Are you the poster who thinks that having a solitaire diamond ring is being a sheep, OP?

Did he not need ID to pick up the parcel?

This is fascinating to me!

So you associate Ms as being educated to degree+ level?

Whereas I generally associate it as the woman being divorced or separated. (Although I recognise she could of course still be degree educated)

Shows how different peoples assumptions/beliefs and judgements are..!

I dont tell strangers I'm a mum. Does that mean I find parenthood demeaning? Of course not, it just means that strangers don't need to know. It's generally none of their business.

I'll say it again. Why are women expected to announce whether they've captured a man but it's somehow not important that people know that about a man?

BTW I don't wear my wedding ring either. My fingers are too fat and I always go through stages where I can't stand wearing any jewelry. It has zero impact on my marriage and certainly doesn't reflect how I feel about my husband.

Do you really go round checking women's fingers for a ring? Why?

His first name and surname were correct so matched his ID. 😊

do you feel better after nasty little digs? 😂

when people think the "Patriarchy" is our greatest enemy, they clearly have never met one of those patronising woman.

Some women really are insufferable if we don't follow THEIR rule and opinion, we might as well laugh at them.

you can wear whatever you want, no one cares. Why does it bother you if other women, and men, decide to wear a ring? Gay or straight?

Why are women expected to announce whether they've captured a man
well at least we're not the victims here I suppose, so that's something 😂

Master is for young boys. Maybe up to 10ish?

Besides I dont know anyone who uses it other than my late very elderly aunt who used to post £1 sellotape to a birthday card to my brother when he was very young

Ouch.

Yeah, that's the sharp end of this sort of poor understanding. We just have to hope she's not on the relationships board regretting her life choices a few years down the line.

Just go up to the desk and politely tell them your actual title/name. That’s all it takes. I’m a Mrs but if someone referred to me as Ms I’d just tell them ‘I’m Mrs…’. I wouldn’t be offended. Yes, maybe all women should be Ms, but until then just correct when wrong.

My last name is often pronounced wrong which is bonkers as it’s a fairly common name w 4 letters! That annoys me.

Here you go lending weight to the association between education at degree level or above and opinion about the use of Ms.

No. Just old enough to have more serious concerns in life than whether someone uses the wrong title.

My degree confers me with Dr. I stick with Mrs rather than be perpetually outraged and offended. It must be utterly exhausting.

I am literally laughing at the one who made that statement, because I find the superior so-called "feminists" who try to impose their views funny.

Nothing "feminists' about them, they just give a bad name to something that should be a positive for us, but there you go.

I suppose the use of "Ms" can be helpful if we assume wearing it you are one of those bore

It wasn't "a nasty dig". I haven't said anything about the patriarchy. I just think that women who keep their own surnames and use Ms (or Dr) after marriage are statistically more likely to be educated to degree level than those that don't. Interesting thst it offends you.

It's absolutely crazy! She said she was paying I think 1/3 of the deposit so it wasn't fair to joint own. She intended to contribute more to the mortgage to make it up with some vague plans to add her name at some point in the future. Madness!

We work with someone who used to be a property lawyer and I asked him to have a word. He was equally as horrified. I know I'm sticking my nose in and she's an adult but she just doesnt have a clue about life. She is the youngest 19 year old I've ever met. I'd feel so bad if I didnt do my best to get her to understand. The ex lawyer said he'd want someone to explain the consequences if it was his daughter. He said you can make a note on the deeds to reflect that it isn't 50/50 ownership.

I just want her to understand what she is agreeing to. If she still goes ahead, then at least she won't be in for a nasty shock.

I don't see any other signs of abuse or red flags. It seems like she has been equally involved with everything and talks about how she's spending her wages each pay day. I just think it's a lack of understanding rather than anything nefarious. I hope so anyway.

I am speechless.