To be annoyed at the assumption that I am a Mrs?

[Cheeseandolivesplease]

So I completed a update form at the dentist for myself and my daughter; the ones they routinely hand out. It didn't ask for my title, but I ticked the "married" box.
Next thing I know, my name pings up on the screen as Mrs .
Just no!!
At the end of my appointment I went to ask for it to be corrected, but AIBU to be annoyed at the assumption?
A bit like the thread today referring to the new prime minister's wife as Mrs Burnham. She is Ms van Heel.

Doesn’t seem like it, she wants no legal or social connection or affiliation. In fact she seems to be distancing herself from him

That’s like ordering a ceasar salad without the chicken or bacon because you like the dressing

I can choose to marry without having to change my given names, or my title to indicate my relationship to a man. I chose not to be defined by being a wife, just as a man doesn’t give his title or names away when getting married. My marital status is part of me, not all of me.

Yawn …

Agree with this. Sorry op. All the women I personally know who are married use Mrs.

The main person I know who uses Ms is my mum and she is divorced.

@LeaveMeBee Go through the posts; they're there. There are still women "proud to be a Mrs" and would who be "ashamed to be divorced". They are at least adored by the patriarchy.

And that is why using ms is not neutral. People assume your divorced.

@walrushurricane Again - I repeat - I couldn't care less if (ignorant) people assume I am divorced because I go by Ms! My marital status is none of their business in the first place.

This.
They didn’t know, you told them. Job done.
If someone calls me Ms I correct them to Mrs, no drama required.

@stillhiding1990 Perhaps my husband married me for my money come to think of it 😀

So why do men get married?. According to your logic there must be no point if they can't change their title.

Ms is a title for a spinster (Cambridge dictionary: a woman who is not married, especially a woman who is no longer young and seems unlikely ever to marry). Otherwise a Miss or a Mrs, unless you are a Dr or Lord; Dame; Lady; Prof; Capt; Rev - a long list.

@ChiefCookandBottlewasher7 Absolute rubbish. It's 2026. Ms is marital status neutral.

I find that people who think that this is some huge issue also just tend to be extremely hard work generally.

Self-important much?

@stepupp Likewise, I find people who don't see it as a huge issue (and understand why it is) as naive.

I would regard it as completely minimal. I wouldn’t even give it a thought atall.

Anyhow, I'm off to work. My husband relies on me as the main earner 😀

What is your title

Because the point is she has the ability to choose. Changing your name does not have to come with getting married, it's a choice.

I haven't changed my name either. It's my identity, i've worked for this name and i don't want to change it to some anonymous 'Mrs-husband' name, and then go through all the rigmarole of changing bank accounts, etc. I don't have to, there's no compelling reason to, so why do it?

I don't think it's ignorant of someone to assume that, it's just a belief based on how they've been raised or their experience up to that point (ie if all the Ms they've met have been divorced women, they're going to assume it's a term used for divorced women)

I don't think it's any more ignorant than someone assuming that being Mrs is their "whole identity." Which of course it's not!

I care on principle. (I do use Ms btw).

So Mrs is for the uneducated in lower roles
How patronising are you

This is what I'm referring to.

I'm a pretty stout feminist, but I also think insinuating that someone using the title Mrs defines their whole identity, is really close-minded

Yanbu as it's plain fact that married doesn't necessarily mean Mrs. If they must use default titles, it would need to be Ms, but really it would be better not to do it at all. Especially in this day and age, when there are no set assumptions.

Only as patronising as the posters telling other women they can't possibly 'love' their husbands if the contract of marriage doesn't mean relinquishing their own identities into the bargain.

It's a funny old world!