AIBU to suggest my husband takes the box room when we move?

[Bedroomdilemmas]

Aibu to give the smallest bedroom to my husband? We’re moving house. It’s for 2 years. My husband and I have separate bedrooms because of his snoring. The new house has 3 double rooms and one box room. Our two children really want a double room each and to be far they’re 18 and 17 and will be hanging out in their bedrooms the majority of time. My husband literally only sleeps in his bedroom, while I spend loads of time working in my bedroom. It seems obvious to me that he should get the box room but he won’t hear of it. I instigated the move so he’s not thrilled in general.

If you are letting out rooms in the old house to pay the rent on the new one then in what way are you “paying the rent?” Your old house is mortgage free so presumably you both own it. That means you are both paying the rent on the new place. I suspect from what I’ve read that you have a high opinion of yourself and a low one of your DH. This doesn’t bode well for your future relationship. I’d be willing to bet this move will strain your marriage and the odds will shorten if you make him use the box room.

Wow!

Lol Big Man Need Big Room

I am paying the rent and we have separate bank accounts @Nothavingagoodvalentinesday

I have a great idea.

You take the box room (see how you like it!)
Then you'll be free from his snoring,
after all, as you've said, he only will use it for sleeping,
so therefore the same will apply for you.

And you can still both use the double bedroom for other activities.

I'd do this if I could be sure that DH was up and out before 8 am when I would want to start work.

Then why did you say upthread that you were letting out your old house to pay the rent in the new one?

I suggest you pick who you'd rather live with long term.

If it's your kids, give them the more adult space of a double bedroom, crack on with the pressuring DH to have the box room and if he divorces you over it, never mind.

How much I'd care about that myself would depend on if the snoring is within his control or not. If it's something he can't help and the NHS won't treat it and he can't afford to pay privately then I'd have some sympathy (although I still couldn't share a bedroom with a snorer) but if the cause is self-inflicted or he just refuses to address it I'd be mad as all hell at the selfishness and wouldn't much care if we split up.

If it's your DH you want to live with long term, you and him get a big bedroom each.

Then you tell the kids they can have bunk beds in the box room for sleeping and can turn the third double bedroom into a sitting room for socialising away from parents and for storing their clothes etc. Depends if they mostly want privacy from you two or from each other and if they're same sex or not, as to whether it'd work.

Alternatively the DC each do a year in the box room.

It’s only me who will use the bedroom for other activities @Hildegard25 , I’ve lived with my dh for 20 years and he goes to bed late and gets up early and never really enters his bedroom otherwise

Easier said than done!

Do you own the mortgage free house without him?

He's being a selfish arse???? I don't think so. Why can't OP use the bigger room to work in and then sleep in the box room? I would not be impressed at being told I had to have a tiny room in a house I didn't even want to move to.

Sleep clinic assessment ( this is done at home, they send out equipment) and then CPAP or mandible device = no snoring. Shared room.

Unless you have other reasons for not sleeping with him. Snoring can be the sign of underlying issues like apnoa

Poor guy. Banished to box room!
Obvious who is bottom of pecking order in that house!
Surely one of the girls room can be used by bith as a bed sigting room and they can share it to entertain friends. Or the youngest child has the box room.

i would not appreciate the box room if i was paying rent/morgage as an adult in the house.