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AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

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Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

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WhereYouLeftIt · 14/07/2026 22:41

Dump, dump, dump.

ThatWhiteElephant · 14/07/2026 22:43

Pinkflamingo10 · 14/07/2026 14:05

There wouldn’t be a 3rd date for me

Nailed it!

disturbia · 14/07/2026 22:43

Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

He sounds a complete idiot....don't waste any more time on him with those bad manners

MammaofBree · 14/07/2026 22:44

Walk away now while the doubts are stronger than the feelings!

ignore your gut feeling and you will potentially regret it.

handsdownthebest · 14/07/2026 22:46

He’s a knob. Don’t waste your time like he wasted a good wine.

HowSweatyMess · 14/07/2026 22:51

Obviously there won’t be another date because he doesn’t really exist!

Jk987 · 14/07/2026 22:51

Is he very inexperienced at dating?

Bryonny84 · 14/07/2026 22:52

I remember my dad throwing a plate of food at the wall because he didn't like it. Would you like to live a life like that or bring children into it? Never see or talk to this prick again.

Bryonny84 · 14/07/2026 22:53

HowSweatyMess · 14/07/2026 22:51

Obviously there won’t be another date because he doesn’t really exist!

He most likely does exist. These people are out there. I had to live with one as a child.

summitfever · 14/07/2026 22:57

My exh threw a fag down on my little nieces grave. I felt sorry for him that he hadn’t been taught any respect and made it my mission to show him some. More fool me, that was just the tip of the iceberg he’s the most insufferable cunt I’ve ever met.

Spookyspaghetti · 14/07/2026 22:58

Frostynoman · 14/07/2026 14:05

Juvenile and lacking respect. Also feels slightly aggressive. It would put me off

Nailed it. Seems like a red flag for potential DV.

SqueakyFromme · 14/07/2026 23:01

@summitfever oh no that is appalling

PorridgeEater · 14/07/2026 23:22

Obviously ditch him. He sounds a complete oaf and one day it could be you he would expect to clear up his mess.

gardenflowergirl · 14/07/2026 23:27

No, you're not over reacting. There'd be no second date with me from such a disrespectful, immature bloke. He'd be an embarrassment to be with and I'd tell him so.

Gwenna · 14/07/2026 23:33

Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

Run OP - his lack of respect for restaurant staff reveals him as abusive. Don’t have a third date.

AnyDayNowChuckJacksonNSoul · 14/07/2026 23:39

How the fuck do these pricks get through life and manage to keep their teeth.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 14/07/2026 23:39

At least you learnt what he’s like on the second date. Who over the age of 1 deliberately pouts a drink on the floor in a restaurant

Jllllllll · 15/07/2026 02:37

What a twat!

CurlewKate · 15/07/2026 05:10

MammaofBree · 14/07/2026 22:44

Walk away now while the doubts are stronger than the feelings!

ignore your gut feeling and you will potentially regret it.

It’s not a matter of “gut feelings”. It’s a matter of normal civilized behaviour.

Wecanbeheroes26 · 15/07/2026 05:52

He's an utter grub. Who does that?! I'd have walked out then and there. Imagine a future with him.... he will act like the filthy pig he is, but instead of a waitress YOU will be the person he expects to clean up after him.

firstofallimadelight · 15/07/2026 07:03

Arrogant ignorant person. It would be a no from me.

Aslana · 15/07/2026 08:00

Lack of respect to people serving in restaurants or anywhere else is a total no no. Awful behaviour and gloating as well
Goodbye!

Nannylovesshopping · 15/07/2026 08:11

Surely you are not considering seeing him again…

MummaBear2017 · 15/07/2026 12:16

He’s shown you who he really is. Rude, disrespectful and you’d be on the receiving end soon enough.

TheReflectiveQualityofGlass · 15/07/2026 12:32

Jk987 · 14/07/2026 22:51

Is he very inexperienced at dating?

Dating? If he thinks this is acceptable then the only excuse is that he is cognitively impaired and has a significant neuro issue.

Best guess is he’s testing her compliance.

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