AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

[Magnesiun]

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

Where’s OP gone?

3269 Votes so far. 99% think he’s a twunt.

Who was the 1% I wonder? May be the date himself?

He's testing you. Pushing social boundaries and gaslighting you when you intimate you found it weird. This is 100% a test you want to fail. Run now!

This, the bar is so, so very low.

Ick.

This really made me think. It's the sort of thing that a toddler might do, and if so I'd be embarrassed, cross, and would apologise and offer to clean it up. Understandable with a toddler. A grown adult should not be behaving like this or putting you in that position. I'd respond and say, 'Yes still this. Your behaviour is unattractive and I'm choosing not to pursue this relationship.' Well dodged OP!

If someone did that when I was with them I’d get up and walk out.

Under reacted if you’re considering replying.

The End

Block. Throw away the phone. Get rid!

#team no 3rd date

3rd date? Not a chance! If I’m honest I probably wouldn’t have seen the 2nd through to the end.

His behaviour was really embarrassing, I absolutely would not be with someone that didn’t know how to act appropriately in a public place. Throw this one back OP

It’s a bit concerning you can’t see this thread for what it is

I'd be tempted to pass on his name and phone number to the restaurant, they could pursue for cleaning costs. But I'm petty like that.

I'd be telling him he's a disrespectful prick and blocking him. That's just rude and adds an unnecessary task for wait staff. It's a sign of how he treats people who he doesn't see as equals. At best he's inconsiderate and I wouldn't tolerate that in a relationship.

The fact someone could have been seriously hurt, if carrying hot food and slipped in it, makes him a mega twat.

Back to their creative writing class

Wow. What a terrible way to behave. I’d never have anything to do with him again if he thinks that’s acceptable behaviour. Think what he’d be willing to do once he isn’t trying to impress you!

He sounds like a dickhead.

What an idiot. You need to think about why this is even an aibu! It's pretty clear cut.

What a horrible thing for someone to do deliberately. And weird, unsocial behaviour to say the least. I'd say there's a cog missing.

Block delete ghost and move on .

Send him a link to this thread and then block him. How disrespectful to you, the restaurant staff/ owners... I bet he's a total prick and you would eventually be on the receiving end of that behaviour if you stuck around.

How odd.

Also it shows his mindset of 'not my problem' and 'I don't care if what I do means that it makes other people have to work harder', like littering or leaving rubbish everywhere. That will spill over into you having to clean up after him.

WTF? Who does this? Like, this is so strange I can't even understand what he meant by doing it. He is fucking mental.

Deffo off-putting, dumpable behaviour.

Hi op I would message him and say no it was embarrassing I would expect a toddler to do something that stupid but not a grown up. The poor staff who had to clean up your mess is definitely not attractive so I’m out.