Dh didn’t leave me any water or drinks

[Footballscominghomehey]

I was really ill yesterday and especially last night, lots of vomiting etc (sorry tmi)
We live abroad and it’s extremely hot, we don’t drink the tap water here.
The bedroom was a real mess this morning-sick bucket full, duvet yucky, he quietly said my name to wake me up and that he was going to work.
I feel horrendous, so weak and there’s zero water and drinks. I’m trying to set up
a delivery service to see if they can deliver
Does anyone think this is a bit shitty to leave me with no drinks. Feel so dehydrated

I don’t know about ‘caused’ by — I seem to have inherited a tendency to get them from my father. But it’s true that I had my worst ever attack when DS was a small baby and I probably wasn’t looking after myself well or drinking enough. What I mainly remember was, after I’d had a shot of painkiller and was waiting for a scan, that I hoped they would keep me in overnight even if it was only on a trolley in the corridor. DS wasn’t a sleeper…

That was almost 15 years ago and I still remember the name of the doctor who gave me a shot of strong painkiller.

@Blueberries0761 @Footballscominghomehey thznks both for asking after me. Still feel awful to be honest. Was still being sick on Tuesday morning. Didn’t eat anything on Tuesday and barely kept fluids down. Haven’t been sick today but am weak and dizzy. Haven’t eaten until a slice of toast a couple of hours ago and feel really nauseous again. I’ve lost 3kg though 😁

Sending get well wishes to you both @Footballscominghomehey and @JulietteHasAGun , that you recover your strength quickly

I know only too well that sick, exhausted, dizzy feeling you're left with after a flare up of illness.

Take care and get plenty of rest💐

It was 3 1.5l bottles.

I have no idea how a couple can have such little water in the house. It just makes no sense.

OP said upthread that she is the one responsible for shopping so if she was out of action clearly the supplies haven’t been replenished.

Ridiculous, isn’t it!

It's bloody awful. I wonder what they're like in real life or do anonymous forums bring out the worst out in people.

I'm so sorry you've had this nastiness directed at you. You shouldn't have to put up with it when you're asking a simple question ❤️

I don’t understand it at all! Just why be awful

Thank you X

@AMurderofMurderingCrows Well your post was a direct personal attack so it’s a bit rich calling me names.

I think lots of people on here are really unhappy, bitchy people with sad lives. Otherwise why be so horrible?

oh give over, @AMurderofMurderingCrows did not say anything to you other than the truth. Your posts are coming across nasty.

Kidney stones can be caused by many different causes/conditions…not just poor fluid intake. But if you’re a renal physician I’ll bow down to your medical knowledge

Depends on where you are in Europe. Not all of Europe is made the same. I’d never trust tap in Eastern Europe.

Not much of this is making sense. If you can get on Mumsnet, you can fill a kettle and boil it. If you are so dehydrated, water is not going to cut it, you need an electrolyte solution - which you can make easily. Boil water, chuck in sugar and salt (Google amount), cool. Cold water is not your friend either, room temp is much better if you need to get liquid into someone quickly.

@AMurderofMurderingCrows Okay you have had your say, just stop with the personal attacks, OK? You have already had one deletion and you doubled down with your last comment.

Maybe try being less condescending in your replies then I won't get posts deleted and you won't feel the need to defend yourself.

@AMurderofMurderingCrows So it’s my fault that you have been breaking Talk Guidelines?

I haven’t done anything which requires me to defend myself btw.

Hi all,
We have made several deletions on this thread now and would very much suggest that this back-and-forth should come to a close and everyone get back to supporting and advising the OP. Those who do not wish to do so should remove themselves from the thread.

Are you hard of thinking?

'Get on Mumsnet' = reach for phone on shelf 3 inches from my head where it charges at night (has to be close so my sensor doesn't lose connection). Tap, scroll, possibly open eyes.

'Fill and boil kettle' = remove covers, scramble out of bed, exit room, negotiate hallway, negotiate stairs, find wheelchair (may be at bottom of stairs may be charging in livingroom), get into kitchen (assuming no ones left shit in my way, boots/brooms etc), find kettle, take kettle to sink, fill kettle, take kettle back to worktop (all this is one handed trying not to kill the washing machine or dryer with the back of my chair or rip a leg rest off the front), boil kettle, find which cupboard tea bags have moved to now, reach up and pull down rack, find mug, ditto. Make brew, reverse out of kitchen to fridge, open fridge (it opens the wrong way) get milk, back to kitchen, add to brew, reverse back to fridge to put it back, shut door, back to brew, collect brew, back to bottom of stairs...then realise i can't carry a brew up the stairs as I need both hands for the bannister.

Even if I didn't rely on a powerchair, there are significantly more steps to making a brew than there are to just reaching for a nearby phone and accessing mumsnet. What might seem a simple task to a well, healthy, pain free person may be monumental to someone who is unwell, not healthy, in serious amounts of pain.

But we're not talking about you.. saying OP may not have been able to speak, because you couldn't is silly, when we know that she could, and she'd already asked him to get her painkillers the day before, so was perfectly capable of communication.

My point is, SHE didn't know she was going to drink the entire water supply overnight so how could her DH have possibly known that? He could absolutely have cleaned up the room etc, but on the water front, unless OP told him it had all gone, how would he even know? And at the point of drinking it she was capable of using her phone so could have text him to ask him to get some before work.

I'm sorry but how can you blame someone for not knowing you needed something when you haven't told them you needed it??

I hope you're feeling better OP, there's things to be pissed off with him about, but I don't think the water is one of them.

Honestly if the people posting harshly that OP didn’t “use her words” or specifically tell her dh while she was sleeping after a kidney stone induced night of pain could more clearly demonstrate that they have no experience of human kindness or nurturing behavior than a reptile born from an egg who has never known mutual care and compassion that would be great!

Maybe you could put it in all caps in case we missed it.

Those who have been lovingly parented, been loving parents ourselves, or are in loving relationships would never leave a sick family member without checking they had what they needed for the day.