Dh didn’t leave me any water or drinks

[Footballscominghomehey]

I was really ill yesterday and especially last night, lots of vomiting etc (sorry tmi)
We live abroad and it’s extremely hot, we don’t drink the tap water here.
The bedroom was a real mess this morning-sick bucket full, duvet yucky, he quietly said my name to wake me up and that he was going to work.
I feel horrendous, so weak and there’s zero water and drinks. I’m trying to set up
a delivery service to see if they can deliver
Does anyone think this is a bit shitty to leave me with no drinks. Feel so dehydrated

The OP did sort herself out when she had to - that isn't the point of the thread.

She was asking whether it was reasonable to be annoyed that her husband didn't think to check she had water when she'd been so ill. Whether someone else has had to cope on their own is irrelevant. She isn't on her own; she's married, and it's reasonable to expect your spouse to look out for you, especially when you're unwell.

Doing that in some countries will give you a lovely dose of Giardiasis.

Even if I lived with a partner I wouldn’t expect it! Perhaps having never lived with anybody I’m set in my ways and have no expectations of anyone.

Hope you're feeling a bit better OP.

There's no gold stars for powering through illness as if it isn't there, there's an odd attitude on this thread. People can be sick and people can also be so unwell they don't feel like they can do anything. The blaming of the OP on this thread for not seeing into the future and buying 150 gallons of water just in case is ridiculous and as for the poster that is sleeping on towels cozying up to the toilet bowl ffs, we're not all martyrs.

This is WAYYYY more weird. What if someone wants to use the bathroom. I'm team op on this one, having a bucket or sick bin by the bed/sofa is 100% normal. Only on Mumsnet is it seen as heathen behaviour

Living on your own for so long has obviously meant that you have either forgotten or neglected to learn basic human empathy and kindness. You're supposed to look after eachother when you're in a relationship, it's not a 'feeble woman' situation.

Well if you hadn't come along and explained it AGAIN, goodness knows what we would have done. We would never have known what was going on in OPs thread.

Thank you so much Lieutenant Obvious.

Well you can't have been that ill if you can get up. There are plenty of illnesses that leave you bedridden. You've obviously never experienced that.

Maybe living alone you have no concept of what is suppose to happen when you are in a partnership and actually supposedly ‘love and care for one another’?She wasn’t alone and her AIBU was not about coping by herself. A spouse or partner you have chosen you to live with surely means that taking care of one another is all part and parcel of that. Making sure someone is okay before you leave, especially someone who has been extremely unwell all night is quite normal in a loving relationship. Sorry you haven’t experienced it.

You've no idea of my experiences so keep your personal remarks to yourself. Absolutely no need for it.

Because if he'd actually checked on his wife properly this morning he would have known.

I assume the man isn't a fucking idiot and has eyes and ears.

Do you know if gettimg up helps with kidney stones pain?
Or with being exhausted from lack of sleep? I mean wo pushing yourself agd working in adrenaline of course.
Because I didn’t think that a bit of water in your face helped with any of those 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

From someone with an extensive experience of being ill. Like 20+ years,

I'm not getting into a bun fight with you or anyone else over who's been more ill or in more pain or whether getting up helps kidney stones.

Your experiences are different from mine. If you want to be the more experienced knock yourself out.

Take care @Footballscominghomehey and have plenty of rest.

At the very least, you’ll need to recover from the awful night you’ve had sleep wise.

Im surprised that your dh didn’t check more on you if this is something that happens regularly(ish?).

The fact he checked on you tells me he never thought about water for you because there’s a fairy in the house replacing water booties all the time. Not out of being a twat or inconsiderate.
However, if you hadn’t been well enough to get up to get water, it could have become a real issue….

EXACTLY!!! You don't know what OP is experiencing so keep your advice to yourself.

She's the one posting about it......

There's no need to shout. Such tetchiness. Maybe you need a lie down yourself.

OP was asking if her husband was being unreasonable. She wasn't asking for health advice and especially not from someone who's never been ill enough to be bedridden...

And I'm currently lying down, chilling 💞

What led to him leaving you with no water? Did he take the available water with him somewhere or did he just go off and leave you to sort yourself out?

i swear half the posters have never been truly ill. Just get yourself up is not always an option.

there is actually a wide gulf between capable of caring for yourself and hospitalization worthy in many countries.

As I said you have absolutely no idea. Anyway, feel free to have the last word. 🥱

Most things can be managed alone but many are just that bit easier if someone helps.
That might be a stranger holding open a door when you are carrying heavy bags, a friend dropping a book round for you that you said you wanted to read, a husband cooking two portions of food so his wife can eat as well.
I've been unwell and could cope alone, leaving all the washing til I felt better, drinking from the tap because I can do that where I am. But I have appreciated DH's help, sticking a load of washing on, buying me electrolytes and a pack of ginger nuts. And I would do the same for him. Depending on others is not a bad thing, it's just a human response to support people we care about.

OP, I am glad DH has messaged you and you are doing a bit better.

That's fine (sort of) if all you're doing is feeling nauseated or are vomiting, but not so good if it's a "both ends at the same time" thing!
We're fortunate enough to have two bathrooms. Well, actually one of them is a downstairs loo with a shower crammed in - and it's that one that I set up camp in, so the one near the bedrooms is free for others to use.
This is sounding like I do this a lot, but it's very rare. Maybe on average once every 5 years or so.

Well obviously, but just coming on here to "moan" without communicating with the only person who can actually help is ridiculous. He's not psychic.

Sorry but she wasn't moaning either. She was asking whether being upset with her husband not looking after her is unreasonable.

Is he thoughtless - or was he awake all night listening to you vomit and he was too knackered to remember? So its not been done out of spite.