Dh didn’t leave me any water or drinks

[Footballscominghomehey]

I was really ill yesterday and especially last night, lots of vomiting etc (sorry tmi)
We live abroad and it’s extremely hot, we don’t drink the tap water here.
The bedroom was a real mess this morning-sick bucket full, duvet yucky, he quietly said my name to wake me up and that he was going to work.
I feel horrendous, so weak and there’s zero water and drinks. I’m trying to set up
a delivery service to see if they can deliver
Does anyone think this is a bit shitty to leave me with no drinks. Feel so dehydrated

She probably wasn’t thinking clearly enough, due to the sickness.

the ability to plan and anticipate is massively diminished when you’re in the midst of a vomiting bug.

I can only speak out of my own memories of having a bad attack of kidney stone pain -- if you'd asked me my name, I couldn't have told you.

This is just such bullshit. If one member of a household is sick OF COURSE the other members, if any, take some thought fir care, comfort, etc…I would have taken more care of a roommate than her dh did of her. Its completely inexcusable.

Married for 31 years to a very humane and organized adult male who would never have left me in such straits.

But this isn't the issue is it, she asked him to go and get pain killers for her the day before, so she could have asked him to buy more water at the same time then..

Or he could have thought about it whilst he was getting the painkillers.

With them being in a hot country, running low, Op maybe not being able to carry bottles of water for a couple of days...

Such low standards though.

I'd hope DH would have my back if I was ill, not just the bare minimum that is expected of another human.

OP was hoping for better from her DH and it is really sad that so many people on this thread would have no expectations of anything better.

@Middletoleft "A sick bucket? I don't think I've ever used one since I was a child."

Then you've been fortunate. I haven't used one often as an adult but 2 occasions spring to mind over the last 20 years. Once when I had (what I suspected) was severe food poisoning from prawns and the other when I caught norovirus. The projectile vomiting on both occasions was incessant and violent. I only needed to move my head for it to fire out of my mouth. There was no way I could make it to the toilet and the only other alternative was to stay on my hands and knees with my head down the toilet pan. As I was being sick for 24 hours on each occasions, the latter wasn't exactly an option.

My go-to was actually the bathroom floor as I tried not to disturb anyone. I was never as ill as you were though. Just overnight.

But it makes no difference. She had sufficient cognitive function to post and discuss on MN. So how did she not have enough to speak to her husband?

She said she ‘dran 3 bottles of water last night’ ? 250ml bottle. ?500ml bottles. ?1500ml bottles If she lives somewhere that tap water is undrinkable then they were probably 5litre bottles… that’s what made her vomit! If it’s true!

Probably still made her vomit! Water doesn’t go straight to kidneys… but if you’re a renal physician maybe you know better than me.

This is so tedious. She was asleep when her husband came to check on her and then she was awake when she posted on Mumsnet 😂 hope this helps clear up the confusion.

Well apparently she couldn’t ask her husband because her illness caused her to be incapable of communicating, except for on MN presumably.

And yes ‘use your words’ is intended to be patronising as people seem incapable of communicating with the one person who can deal with the issue.

It’ll be the pain from the stone which is making her vomit, not a stomach bug. 🤷‍♀️

I posted AFTER vomiting and general pain and passing out had calmed down, ok??

Ffs

He’d gone to work…and left me!! Hence this post

@Footballscominghomehey I hope you're feeling much better today

@JulietteHasAGun , I hope you're feeling better too, I noticed you posted on page 1 that you were also very ill yesterday

Thank you, just v tired but much better than I was

@JulietteHasAGun So sorry you were ill/are ill too, how are you feeling?

Oh, OP, I feel for you! My husband did similar when I had a really bad flu one time - I couldn’t walk, but he left me a tiny glass of water and no food, and went out for the day! It was awful. I was so thirsty, but couldn’t even get to the bathroom to drink from the tap.

I hope you feel much better soon!

Oh, another time I was ill (vomiting) and he left me water and a bar of chocolate… as if I’m going to start eating chocolate when I’m sick! I had to explain that the best option might have been something I could nibble on, like a slice of bread, and he was genuinely confused as to why I wouldn’t want chocolate!

I'm not a renal physician but I do apparently know more than you - when you're actively passing a kidney stone, the advice is to drink 2 to 3 litres of water a day.

And once you’ve had a kidney stone, you’re never casual about hydration ever again!

So you were feeling better by then?

This. A couple of posters upthread made the same mistake, telling OP she was drinking too much water. Kidney stones are caused by not drinking enough water and small stones can be effectively passed by drinking enough to flush them.

OP said upthread quite a while ago that she drank three 1.5 litre bottles of water. And the medical advice for kidney stones is to drink at least three to four litres of water per day to try to flush the smaller stones. Kidney stones are actually caused by not drinking enough fluids.