Dh didn’t leave me any water or drinks

[Footballscominghomehey]

I was really ill yesterday and especially last night, lots of vomiting etc (sorry tmi)
We live abroad and it’s extremely hot, we don’t drink the tap water here.
The bedroom was a real mess this morning-sick bucket full, duvet yucky, he quietly said my name to wake me up and that he was going to work.
I feel horrendous, so weak and there’s zero water and drinks. I’m trying to set up
a delivery service to see if they can deliver
Does anyone think this is a bit shitty to leave me with no drinks. Feel so dehydrated

Her title literally says he didn't LEAVE her any.. as in he took the last of it.

the truth is she ran out by drinking all they had and he hasn't realised it's all gone as he's gone to work.

He could have emptied the bucket and checked the water situation but yesterday they had plenty, she could have just asked him to get more when she asked him to get painkillers yesterday.

I don't understand OP why you either were not at hospital getting morphine or, if it is passed as you say, why you are not capable of cleaning up after yourself and getting water.

Not to be a massive bitch but having looked after people with kidney stones it's like someone giving birth - and once it's passed, it's passed. In the acute/vomming phase you really need hardcore drugs though, so I don't know why you were not getting help. Or if you decided it was okay to pass at home, to do it in the bathroom. If you were screaming and vomiting in the spare room, why didn't your husband come and help at that point?!?!

So basically the whole story I find a bit baffling.

Nope. OP has kidney stones. That’s why she’s ill and vomiting. It’s recommended to drink plenty of water - at least two to three litres per day to keep hydrated and help flush small stones

yeah- because she was sick? 🙄

I find it odd and maybe even thoughtless or mean-spirited that he intentionally woke you up (feeling as much pain as you do right now, uninterrupted sleep is probably a huge relief, plus necessary for your recovery) and then didn't check if you needed anything before he left. I'm sure you could have deduced that he'd gone to work, or he could have left a note. I'm glad you're able to get delivery but once you're feeling better I think a discussion may be necessary about both adults keeping on top of basic household needs and maybe doing a little bit extra/being more conscious about concern and care for the other when one of you is incapacitated.

Lying on a hard bathroom floor isn’t going to do much for the pain of kidney stones.

I suspect stocking up on these things is OP’s job.

@Footballscominghomehey ignore posters like @Booksandsea who lack basic human empathy. Something very wrong with this kind of response.

Married 35 years doesn’t mean a great marriage. It simply means it’s a long marriage. But if your standards are low then an uncaring partner probably does seem great.

You poor thing. But in general as adults in a country where bottled water is essential it's your duty as much as it is his to keep some in the house?

I hope you can get a delivery service. Can you not do an online shop to make sure there is never a shortage?

And tell husband it was horrible as he knew how sick you were so should've been more caring.

But no drinkable liquid in the building sounds like something no adult should let happen as a general rule.

I wasn’t screaming. I was being sick all night. I go through it a lot and hell
as it is, can usually get through, I either vomit all night (just liquid) or fall in and out of sleep. It would be impossible at that stage for me to get up and go to sit in emergency
I have prescribed tablets off the Dr but only take in complete emergencies as they’re very strong.
Yes it has passed now, but I spent all night awake, in pain, writhing around and out of it. I’m up and have slowly cleaned up and been to get lots of drinks. I’m really weak, still feel off and sat up on sofa now with a headache

Look up emetophobia

Thanks so much for the kind and helpful responses 🌺the others…not sure what is going on there or why people are so mean

I went to the shop and got bottles and bottles, came back to message from Dh saying can I reply, is all ok as he’s worried about me 🙄
I said that I just had to try and get to the shop as there was nothing to drink at all
and was really dehydrated!

This is all irrelevant. When your partner is sick you help make them comfortable..clean bedroom/ bathroom and supplies ...its the lowest bar EVER

Clearly you've never had a vomiting bug so severe you can't get to the toilet in time.

Feel better soon OP.

Good grief there are some complete hard bitches posting today.
OP, I hope you feel better soon.

You find it difficult to understand OP has been too ill to do it and her useless husband hasn't stepped up? Why?

How did he know she was up all night and drank all the water? He was sleeping in a different room.

Poor love, hope pain dissipates soon.

No idea why the fuss over a bucket. I've had to vomit into cups before when an infection came on suddenly.

Reminds me of my now exdh going back to work (no paternity leave) after I had dd1 (c section). We lived in a block of flats with stairs after the lift and at the time didn't have a pushchair (dm was bringing one from the UK a couple of weeks later). I had been in hospital for 5 days. My sister in law was meant to be staying with me but had her period and couldn't manage it. Anyway there was no food in the flat at all, we had no telephone and I didn't speak the language well. Still remember how hungry I was when he finally came home. Slightly in his defence he was expecting sister in law to come.

There are some places in the world where even boiling tap water doesn't make it safe. I know this from horrific personal experience.

Ensure you return the favour when he’s next ill.

People are so weird.
Why are some so confused about a sick bucket?

I for one cant hold my vomit. I can go from feeling just nausea to vomiting so if i didnt have a bucket i would vomit all over the frontroom carpet, all up the stairs carpet and the landing.

If you have never lifted ur head, vomited in a bucket then felt so ill u had to lay your head back down, leaving the sick in the bucket, then count yourself lucky, because its awful...

IF i can make it upstairs then i will try, i will walk with the bucket under my chin, but often its a sudden thing
Baffled by people that can hold there vomit till they get to the toilet althoigh i am envious of them

How ridiculous that my post got deleted! The point I’m making is, if you live alone you have to do it! I’ve been very unwell at times, but I don’t have anyone to come and make me drinks, wipe my arse, mop my brow etc. When did some women get so feeble that they can’t sort themselves out! Even in relationships I certainly wouldn’t expect someone to come and nurse me.

if and when I’m ill DH would definitely make sure i have something by the bed to vomit into, so that it’s not too gross if I can’t make it to the bathroom in time.
Basic spousal care, surely?