Dh didn’t leave me any water or drinks

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I was really ill yesterday and especially last night, lots of vomiting etc (sorry tmi)
We live abroad and it’s extremely hot, we don’t drink the tap water here.
The bedroom was a real mess this morning-sick bucket full, duvet yucky, he quietly said my name to wake me up and that he was going to work.
I feel horrendous, so weak and there’s zero water and drinks. I’m trying to set up
a delivery service to see if they can deliver
Does anyone think this is a bit shitty to leave me with no drinks. Feel so dehydrated

We did have three large bottles but I went through them all last night, was so thirsty

It’s just the bathroom bin with a bin liner in, find it quite odd that other people don’t have this by their bed when they’re very ill

Possible he didn't realise you drunk all the water?
If you are in GCC you can have water delivered within 30 min in most cities.

How much water is there usually?

There is a big difference between DH seeing and taking the last bottle as he swans out the door leaving you with none, and him walking out with his already-prepared packed lunch and water and not thinking to check to see that you've drank e.g. three extra bottles overnight and now none are left.

If he woke you up though, couldn't you have said you drank all the water and could he leave his?

Because otherwise it sounds like you drank all the water overnight and now you're mad at him for there being no water even though he was sleeping while you drank it?

Oh come on. That's just nasty.

It’s very thoughtless of him, at best.

I hope you’re feeling better soon, op.

This will make you stronger, this is why women live longer

Right OP, get yourself up and about because a stranger, with absolutely no empathy, on the internet said so 😂

As a kidney stone sufferer, I am alarmed that you have said you are in great pain from kidney stones. If that is ongoing today, you should see a doctor in case they cannot be passed at all and are causing your kidney to become infected by blocking outflow (and certainly be drinking at least 3 litres of clear fluids every day of your life to lessen the likelihood of them occurring in the first place). Do you have a bug or are you vomiting because of the pain. Are you able to pee normally?

I was half asleep so didn’t have chance
Perhaps he didn’t realise, although the empty bottles were strewn all around the bed.
He leaves early at 7.30, but even the petrol station is 2 minutes away

That’s mad though. Only 3 bottles? The CDC (and I know you likely don’t live in America but I think it’s very sensible advice regardless) recommend always keeping a minimum of a 3 day supply of water, allowing for 1 gallon per person per day. So for a 2 person household you should always have at least 6 gallons. If by large bottles you mean the 1.5 litre ones then 3 of them is equivalent to only a gallon, so a sixth of what is recommended. That way you’re covered for any emergencies including a horrible stomach bug.

But I agree if there was an open local shop that DH could have popped to before work then he should have done so. The crap planning and not having enough water in is on both of you, and you’re unwell so he should have sorted it if he was able to do so.

It's clearly 'excuse shit partners/parents and blame everything on the struggling OP' day on Mumsnet today.

Of course you're not being unreasonable OP. Dehydration can be very serious in hot weather. Look after yourself and I hope you feel better soon.

I presume he didn’t realise you’d drunk all 3 bottles of water overnight

The self-righteous pearl-clutchers on Mumsnet would never admit to having any bodily fluids.

Yes I think it/rhey’ve passed hopefully
Yes I sometimes vomit from the pain, have painkillers that usually help a little but pain was too much last night

If you drank 3 large bottles of water overnight maybe he didn’t realise you drank them all?

I have a great DH - married 35 years. However if really ill, I wouldn’t have the strength to whinge on MN.

Sorry to hear you're poorly OP.
I'm also abroad in horrendous heat in bed with a vomiting bug and fever.
My DH has been very attentive, but he disappeared for half an hour yesterday while I was weakly calling out for a drink like a Victorian waif on her death bed. I felt quite sorry for myself and had a little cry.

It's rotten.
Hope you feel better soon.

He would have if he'd taken the time to check on his wife before he left work.

Unless he's blind, I'll give him a pass if he can't actually see the empty bottles in the room.

i bet in the reverse situation tho, op would have thought to check and popped out to get some more before work

Maybe she was too weak to get that far?

We all try to make it to the toilet, but it's not always possible.

So basically it’s not his responsibility so he probably didn’t even think about it. Surely water bottles appear just by magic right?

Yes I think it’s a shitty thing for him to do.
And I’m sure he’d be flummoxed if things were reversed.

Best thing now is to order some water and rehydration sachets.
Then I’d have a word with him about it. See how he reacts to you saying you had to sort out an urgent delivery because there was no water in the house. Worried for you? Ashamed he didn’t check? Or telling you it’s your fault you didn’t plan ahead/have enough water in the house etc…?

Fwiw I’ve lived in a country where tap water wasn’t drinkable. We did put best to always have at least 6 bottles (a pack) at home and to never go under it. Too easy to find yourself wo drinking water otherwise (like bring ill and unable to get out of the house etc…).

I hope you’re going to feel better soon. Kidney stones are awful 💐💐

can you ring your oh at work explain how poorly you are and what you need?

Have you never felt so ill you couldn’t get yourself to the bathroom ? Or kept a ‘sick bucket’ by the bed because you know you won’t make it that far before you throw up ? And if her DH has been so inconsiderate as to leave his sick wife in those circumstances, l think it’s a safe bet he’s probably removed himself to somewhere where he’s had a good nights’ sleep.

Why can’t you have the empathy of a normal person?

Hope you feel better soon, OP 💐