Dh didn’t leave me any water or drinks

[Footballscominghomehey]

I was really ill yesterday and especially last night, lots of vomiting etc (sorry tmi)
We live abroad and it’s extremely hot, we don’t drink the tap water here.
The bedroom was a real mess this morning-sick bucket full, duvet yucky, he quietly said my name to wake me up and that he was going to work.
I feel horrendous, so weak and there’s zero water and drinks. I’m trying to set up
a delivery service to see if they can deliver
Does anyone think this is a bit shitty to leave me with no drinks. Feel so dehydrated

I have emetophobia

I think you may have just added further credence as to why your earlier post was deleted. It's absolutely nothing to do with "some women being so feeble." Are you this sweepingly judgemental about everything?

lol.
Isnt that what all MN threads are about?
I mean if things could be sorted by ‘just talking to,the other lerson’there eouldnt be many threads 😂😂

Hope you’re feeling better this evening.

Your dh sounds awful, sorry.

i have a health issue and sometimes - like once a year - vomit from it. I leave an old bowl in the wardrobe as even though we have an en suite I wouldn’t be able to leave the bed. Dh would empty it in the loo and bring me or leave water if he had to go out and anything else I needed.
Hr can be annoying in other ways as husbands can be, but he always looks after me when I’m unwell (and vice versa but he’s rarely ill).

If he slept in a different room because his wife was sick...a decent person would check on her and her need for support.

Frankly shocked I have to explain that

how does that help OP. She said she lives in a country where you can't drink tap water and they have to buy bottled water

My sympathies. Must be very difficult.

Did ask up thread as to where she was. Also she can boil water in a saucepan or kettle, if there is one, and drink it when it cools.

There are a lot of countries where the risk is to do with heavy metals such as lead or arsenic and boiling water does not remove these risks. It's not all about bacteria.

Even with bugs, boiling doesn't always remove the risk. I found out the hard way in the former Soviet Union - 70 British students came down with Giardiasis. (This was checked by the Institute for Tropical Medicine on our return - we all got a letter to take to our GP.)

Altho the OP said upthread that she could have tea and coffee, but really wants water - so presumably boiling the water would make it drinkable

She could be boiling bottled water.

Oh wow that's horrendous!

I missed that. Thanks.

We'd also taken chlorine tablets with us, but apparently they don't kill all bugs.

A thoughtful partner would check before swanning off to work!

OP, I hope he usually treats you better than this because it’s pretty scummy (along with a lot of the replies here. If there’s anything you CAN count on it’s the nastiness on Mumsnet).

A grown adult would have used their words to communicate their needs.

i think you’re missing lots of words in your post there.

A grown healthy adult who is not suffering from any illness or any other reasons that would affect their cognitive functioning

Stop with the patronising ‘use your words’ it’s so boring to see that on here.

Hope you feel better today @Footballscominghomehey

The OP clearly was well enough to be discussing it on MN yesterday. So where was the issue with cognitive function? Does having a sickness bug affect your brain now?

She had kidney stones not a sickness bug. If you're going to insist on being nasty to op you could at the very least, read her posts.

You’re so keen on ‘using your words’ but can’t seem to read words properly. I said illness OR cognitive function. Do you know what that word OR means?

OP was clearly ill, and recuperating yesterday morning before she realised her husband had left without checking on her.

But if you’re going to scrape for reasons, not sure about you but when I’m vomiting violently I lose my ability to think properly. Obviously you’re some superhuman who never gets ill

im not sure why some people love kicking people while they’re down? Please tell me

It grinds on me when grown adults on here say ‘use your words’ like they’re speaking to their 3 year old. So bloody patronising, obviously makes them feel better about themselves

But when people say 'Use your words', they are intending to be patronising. They are intentionally talking to an OP whose problems could all be solved with basic communication the way they would talk to a toddler who is throwing a tantrum about something arcane.

In the case of this OP, however, having a bad attack of kidney stone pain means that the using of any kinds of words can be completely out of the question. I know I couldn't talk at all at the height of the pain when I had a really bad one. It would be like expecting clear communication from someone in the middle of crowning.

In the case of this OP, however, having a bad attack of kidney stone pain means that the using of any kinds of words can be completely out of the question.

But this isn't the issue is it, she asked him to go and get pain killers for her the day before, so she could have asked him to buy more water at the same time then.. and if you say she didn't know she was going to drink everything they'd got that night.. well if she didn't know, then the husband didn't know either, but she did know she only had three bottles in the house.

She could have left a note, or text him overnight for him to get it in the morning, once she drank it all.

Blaming him for not leaving her any water when he was unaware that she had drank the whole supply that they had is quite frankly, bizarre.

I hope you recover fast now,
Can you order an online water order from the supermarket, get your H to pick it up on his way home , unload to your garage, or pile up behind the sofa.( wherever)

My last “Drive” (collection) of water had 10x 6 packs of 1.5l. Lasts a couple of weeks