To be shocked that my good friend, 37, is seeing a 66 year old lady?

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Had a few beers with a good friend recently and got a bit tipsy and we got into his dating life. He told me that he’s been seeing a 66 year old grandmother. He is only 37 for reference. They met via online dating.

To be clear, there is nothing wrong with this but I’m just a bit shocked to be honest. He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

My friend has always dated younger women and not short of female attention at all.

It’s all good right?

I have to smile at your suspicious little theory 😂

But nope, I’m not the 66 year old lady.

Thanks for sharing a lovely memory.

Just because you will not meet her doesn’t mean it’s a bit grotesque to be discussing her sex life.
I’ve never met you, shall I go on about how you sound a wee bit jealous of her?

Guys talk about these things just like women do. SATC would have bombed if the women didn’t get into the juicy details of their antics with guys. We draw the line if it looks like it would be a more serious thing but he’s certain it won’t be. And I believe him as known him a long time.

You are free to accuse me of anything you wish but I’m not jealous of this lady. I love my mate but I’d rather her than me in bed with him 😂

How would that effect relationships where the couple choose not to have children?

If they met on a dating site, wouldn't they have set their age parameters to at least include one another's age groups? Therefore it is deliberate, not a surprise to them. Unless one or both was pretending to be older or younger than they are. But we assume not. Sounds to be working for them? Are you worried he might miss a potential chance for having kids of his own? I would have a casual chat with him, as you are curious?

There is no such 'minimum', no such rule. That is made up by 12 year olds. A person can have chemistry with another person. It's not defined by age.

Possibly but I have never seen him with an older woman, never mind one almost 30 years older.

My friend is a serial dater and doesn’t want kids. His dad ran out on him when he was young so it’s scarred him. He is very close to his mum who lives back in Ireland.

You know sex and the city isn’t real right? Right????

Really, damn. I hoped Samantha was real. And Steve - he seemed like a nice guy.

But women and men, in real life, talk very graphically about what people get up to in bed. Not everyone of course but plenty do.

Someone 66 was in their 30s in the nineties, so it’s not that surprising really. I just don’t think we have adjusted to what older people in their 60s are really like. Are they slowing down? Or much the same and going to tick a large age range on a dating site to see what happens because why not?

Someone was arguing on another thread recently that it should be a law.

There's laws around the age of consent, and for those in authority over young adults, but besides that, the state has no business regulating people's relationships. The only countries that do this are not ones we should emulate.

Wanting laws about consenting adult relationships is absolutely wild.

Yep - as long as it’s consensual and no exploitation involved, then good for them.

Other people’s disapproval/approval is meaningless.

Good luck to them both.

He's a cub and she's a cougar.

They enjoy no strings relationship and perhaps it's a friends with benefits situation.

Its actually quite common..lots of men are going for older women as some of them find women of their same age are not to their liking for whatever reason...

As long as they get on, I don't see the issue. Brigette Macron is 24 years older than President Macron 🙈

Blimey OP what do you reckon to this lot then?
Are you shocked?
And these are celebrities, or are they the only ones where it is acceptable.
Be happy for your friend and his lovely lady.
I know I am.

Barbara Windsor
Kate Beckinsdale
Kim Kardashian
Cher (40 year age gap)
Sandra Bullock
Jada Pinkett Smith
Kylie Minogue
Kris Jenner
Jennifer Lopez
Demi Moore
Geena Davis
Heidi Klum
Tilda Swinton
Vivienne Westwood
Madonnna

Thank you for doing a favour for that poor man.

Exactly this. People under 40 forget those in their 60s & 70s today lived their life in their teens, 20s & 30s in much the same way as they do nowadays. . When you've lived through punk rock music, Bowie, not forgetting goth culture which began in the late 70s you don't suddenly become twinsets & pearls people when you reach your 60s & 70s 😂

Not really as celebs often do extreme things. But this is just my mate and this lady is not a celebrity.

I am happy for him, just caught me off guard as I couldn’t imagine him with someone that age. I’ve known him since uni and we would go out on the pull etc. but he never once ended up with an older woman. In fact, the last few years, he’s been dating women a few years younger than him. But now he’s gone more than a little in the opposite direction.

Very true and Blondie still rocks.

From the pics I have seen of this woman, she gives me an Emmylou Harris kinda vibe.

It's a bit weird but they're both well old enough to know their own minds so I don't see why it's a problem.

Blonde is amazing as is Madonna. We saw her show a few years ago & the energy throughout by all concerned was fantastic💃

I was just wondering if there has ever been any love interest between the two of you over the years at all?

I’ve just watched Madonna with Graham Norton. She looks awful. I can’t imagine how anyone would be interested in her!