To be shocked that my good friend, 37, is seeing a 66 year old lady?

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Had a few beers with a good friend recently and got a bit tipsy and we got into his dating life. He told me that he’s been seeing a 66 year old grandmother. He is only 37 for reference. They met via online dating.

To be clear, there is nothing wrong with this but I’m just a bit shocked to be honest. He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

My friend has always dated younger women and not short of female attention at all.

It’s all good right?

When I was in my sixties a man I worked with had a serious’crush’ on me. Even my husband could see it, the guy made no secret of it. He was 30. Younger than our son. It wasn’t funny, but it was weird. Difficult as we worked together. Came to the house too. I say crush because that’s what my husband called it. Especially as this guy frequently told my husband he was punching… We moved counties not because of him obviously but because of that we completely lost touch. I’d forgotten about it until I read this thread.

So it boils down to two single consenting adults happy spending time together and having sex with no long-term commitment. Why is this even a thread?

It's nobody's business

usually its the age gap, as in societys view it seems only the rich and famous should have age gaps, eg cher, madonna, etc

I fancy blokes who ARE the same age as my son. So what? They're not my son!

Hope this thread has not stirred any bad emotions for you.

Not at all and he doesn't look at me and think I'm a mother figure either.

I started with my thread by saying it’s not wrong. Of course it’s not. But it took me by surprise.

Where can I find one?

Can you get him on here to answer some questions? An AmA of sorts!

Well you’re very welcome to leave this thread.

a 66 yr old with a 36 yr old is vastly different from a 48 yr old with an 18 yr old. 🙄

Why is it anyone’s business, they’re both consenting mature adults, focus on your own life

And if they want to shag like crazy, or fall in love, what's the problem?

Curious- what specific age does a 30 year gap become acceptable?

I’ll ask him and see what he says 😂

in what ways ? 18 you can join the army and get deployed to an active battlezone ?

Penny, I'm not gonna lie, it's been a long day and I'm not sure I can be arsed explaining the difference between a teenager and someone in their mid 30s.

they can be similar in many ways or they can be different in many ways
they can connect via mutal hobbies, intrests, etc

even when its eg 25 and 25 there is not garentee that they have the same thoughts hobbies intrests etc

yes to a point i do agree and i am playing devils advocate on the issue buit overall age itself does not mean that a person does not know their own mind, even more so when its the younger one chasing the older one,

59 yr old here with a very fun and casual situationship with a 28 yr old.
yes I look great. Yes he is hot. Yes it’s crazy good sex and we enjoy spending time with each other before and after the sex.

I’m 51 the amount of 30 years olds
i get messaging from online dating is ihugher than any other age group.
i think maybe it’s the fact we are pretty sorted and not wanting to settle down and have kids obviously that maybe attract them , I don’t know.
i don’t because my daughter is 30 so feels a bit too near the bone for me so i tend to respond to 40s up

Sorry the point was I bet he’s having a great time ! Enjoy seeing him happy even if it is only for a short while

Men don’t have to endure possibly life threatening situations which come with carrying a child.

Until they do, my opinion will remain the same.

Far too many men these days expect a woman to contribute 50/50 financially whilst also doing the majority of the housework and childbearing.

I should have said as long as they’re on the same page.

I worded it badly.

I mean on this post, he'll be ripped to shreds on main MN! Give him your account to post here!