Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

What a weird and hateful post. I have plenty of wonderful men in my life and find your view really weird. Let your fella go and find someone who loves and appreciates him.

Can you clarify what you mean when you say that the majorty of infrastructure is run by men?

The Dept for Transport is run by a woman, the Minister for Infrastructure is a woman, and the Agri Minister is a woman.

Or do you mean that the men use the tools?

I was reading about Afghanistan and all the children who living insufferable lives.

And it occured to me: can't men just restrain themselves from procreating?? It'd solve a hell of a lot of misery, bringing yet more new life into the world.

I think it would look very different to a world of just men. Which would be terrifying for good men.

I don’t think a world of just women would be ‘terrifying’.

1975 as when you were first allowed own bank account as a woman, omg.

Yes, this. I feel for the young boys out there, with some of the attitudes about Men, that I read on here.

Re 'fighting wars on the front line so you don't have to'. Apart from famously our own Boudicca, fighting the Romans, Joan of Arc fighting the English, the teenage girls who fought off 83 tanks, 15 armoured personnel carriers, 14 enemy planes, 3 battalions of infantry at Stalingrad etc etc.

.Women have fought in wars.

I dont think they think about procreating as much as they do about sex.

This annoys me too. I don't know whether men make more phlegm or their Adam's Apple hinders swallowing?

I can see that male design makes peeing in public spaces much easier and quicker but there is an element of lack of shame about it too. I can't imagine using a communal trough in a public toilet the way men use urinals.

Your statement men are only good for their sperm says it all. With thoughts like that I do feel for the men in your life, especially your partner. I’d be telling you fuck off and I’d be running for the hills and then see where that gets you, but no doubt you’d see that as the man’s fault rather than your attitude.
Yes there are bad men just as there are bad women but overall the majority of men are just normal people getting on with life.

I really hope it doesn’t come to it, but if you are never in need of life saving treatment the chances are this could be given by a man. Also the majority of men are engineers without whom we would have the equipment, technology etc we have now.

Also I want to point out how our ideas about gender shape the world we live in. We are a culture, we impact each other. If we want to build a more equal world we cannot run away from that (and just demonise men as a concept) but we'll need to change how we approach gender.

Some studies I read before just showing how adults shape behaviour in boys and girls differently. If we want better/different men, perhaps we need to reduce how much we discriminate between girls and boys and how that impacts them.
https://www.newswise.com/articles/boys-speak-up-girls-silenced-in-the-classroom

https://scicurious.scientopia.org/2011/03/09/baby-boy-baby-girl-baby-x/

Yes... without needing it signing off by a husband or father.

This post is interesting to me. I have some very good men in my life, and some who are not so good. The same for women to be fair. But since having my daughter I do see men differently. I wonder if there’s something that changes in your brain or hormonally when you have a daughter?

All the men in my family have been wonderful too, but do you ever worry for your safety if you are out late at night or if you were out somewhere a bit isolated and dark?

To be fair what is the point of anybody?

I agree that there are too many shit men out there, and a lot of men deserve to be lonely, but it is unacceptable to write off half the population.

Even if you could keep your daughter away from all men, she still wouldn't be safe. I went to an all girls school and witnessed some horrific girl on girl violence. My bully choked me and threatened to bring a knife into school. One of my friends had her face held down in the snow and the girl only let go when my friend stopped moving.

My DS has been choked by a girl at school and the only time I have yelled at another person's child was when a girl stamped on my son's head at soft play.

Isn't is obvious? Men don't get enough sex (which is of course women's fault) and the build up of cum makes it's way out of the body where it can.

In case it's not obvious I'm being sarcastic.

Even worse, marital rape only became a crime in 1994

87% of the NHS is female.

The patriarchy is safe as long as so many women are happy to defend it

That is truly shocking.

Are you ok? Weird man hatred nonsense again.

Also the majority of men are engineers

Do you mean the majority of engineers are men?

Honestly I think apart from sperm, men are pointless!
I know it’s not all men but it’s most men and the others don’t call them out on their bullshit.
i totally agree op

Women in the working classes have always worked. The myth of the homemaker only applies to a tiny number of women for a short period of history.

How many generations would you say it is?

Can easilly be 5, or it could be 2,5.