Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

The first time I identified coercive control (though I did not know what is was called) was in the early eighties when I had a young female patient whose husband insisted on being in the bathroom in the morning while she used the toilet.

Now now you're being dense dear

No need. I wear a badge that says it for me.

Even if they aren’t ‘bad’ men they are generally only ever doing the bare minimum. They won’t rape or murder you but they won’t challenge make friends who show red flags (mysoginistic comments, rape jokes etc). They’ll do the household chores you ask them do but only do half a job and generally need constant reminding. They’ll spend time with the kids but only as a family, they won’t take them out and leave you to chill by yourself. They’ll provide financially but won’t set up a pension or savings for you. I could go on but it’s too depressing.

I used to think this until I seperated from my husband because of his constant drinking and partying. All of those jobs that he just couldn’t do because ‘men don’t see mess’ etc suddenly were totally within his capabilites when he lived on his own. Suddenly he was able to spend time with our kids by himself when he lived on his own. And all of a sudden he was able to talk about his feelings and do the emotional work when he was living on his own. Stupid me thought these were evidence of him growing up and being an adult man instead of a little fuck boy but no after a year of living with us again the man disapeeared and I’m now left with an even worse fuck boy because he went to six therapy sessions so thinks he’s perfect.

Yes that would make sense. Sane people would appreciate the warning

Mine too! Adore my husband dad and father in law.

I could only open the second link but of that list of 25 inventions, apart from the circular I did not see any blatantly unfair theft by men of a women's inventions, did you read the article(s)?

Men did not have the vote until after World War 1.

• Sorry, but that's incorrect.

Many orking class men got the vote in 1918 , and everyone else before that, though working class men only gained it gradually:

' As the struggle for greater democracy advanced through the 19th century, parliament was forced to pass three Reform Acts in 1832, 1867 and 1884, each one preceded by mass agitation and riots.
These reforms gradually lowered the property qualifications for men, extending the franchise to many more. Yet even after the third reform act of 1884, only around 60 per cent of men had the vote.'

https://www.spiked-online.com/2018/02/07/the-forgotten-victory-votes-for-working-class-men/

@Jane379 It doesn't really change my point. A whopping 40% of men not being able to vote as late as 1884 shows that men didn't have universal voting rights either.

It seems to be a widespread misconception that men were always able to vote. Clearly that's not true.