Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

[LavenderSkiesxo]

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

I am not! MN HQ please dont delete!
Dont delete because a few are offended

Can you imagine if men bled out of their willies for 7 days straight every single month, with the cramping and fatigue and everything else whilst being expected to look like a vision or be deemed unworthy.

Can. You. IMAGINE.

I am so, so done with 99.9999999% of men. Like.. DONE. Like, can't even be friends with them.

The other 0.0000000001%, whilst good and decent, will still never understand what it is to be a woman (and I don't just means periods) in a mans world. And besides, they are so rare that I am very unlikely to encounter one.

I'm 37, single, and just honestly done. (And , actually, feeling so glad to be done. Honestly you couldn't pay me to get involved with a guy now.)

Be careful sharing your opinion. I have been told I am insane and need professional help.

Xx

Well I think they may delete some of your more ‘interesting’ posts anyway as they broke talk guidelines 🤣

Well, my autistic nephew is sensitive to some information. Someone swore around my baby and he wouldn't stop crying cause he thought she would now be bad. He also fixates on things and sometimes says things which are far removed from reality. Like he is making an apology song which he is going to send to companies and he hopes it'll be christmas number 1.

But that is the tag and its how they appear when they comment or post things? So whats funny?

In my head it’s a bit like the Bat Cave.

Then I am surprised you show such ignorance. A little research will help expand your mind

But as well as cool gadgets there are a lot of mooncups

Research? This has been my experience. So in this context..
Why mention the daughter
Why would the daughter be heartbroken in first place
Why would daughter think men = must be my brother

So yes, she seems v.sensitive.

So you feel that men have irremediable genetic dispositions that cannot be overcome by upbringing? I would like to think that was not true, though we really don't have good evidence either way.

I posted and have been responding. This isnt your thread but here you are. You are being sensitive because you feel personally attacked by my comment. And when I tell you my experience, after saying I wasnt saying it as an insult, you tell me to go do research. So why are you here at this hour arguing with me and being insulting?

Well I largely agree with the OPs generalisations (and they must be generalisations, as it is undisputed that people are well known to be highly variable) and I'm not even a woman.

It takes ≥ two to make an argument.

I don’t think you can accuse anyone else of being insulting .

I am here at this hour because I have been working until an hour ago.

Of course you can feel free to ignore my posts (but you won’t)

It’s not the subject of the thread that’s the issue. It’s the attitude of the OP to many posters

My attitude? And yours??

😬😬 yikes. Well, I've not RTFT.

But, getting back to your initial post, and to further add...
I thank my lucky stars every day that I never felt that I wanted children. Because it really does mean I do not need a man whatsoever.

I wouldn't say men are useless in general. They can go to work and contribute to society and pay taxes just like women. But yes, statistically they also cause a lot more detriment to society, too.

But, I see them to be useless to ME on a personal level (beyond if they are my doctor or whatever). Because I see them as living a very different existence to me and I just don't want to make space in my life for someone who will never understand my position.

In my own experience, the vast majority of men fall into 1 of 2 categories: constant ego bragging and competing in conversation etc which I find so incredibly tedious to be around, or fully identifying as a victim which I have zero sympathy to give, because I'd rather give me as a woman the 'sympathy resources' that I have. Not them. Honestly, the amount of men who start divulging their mental health struggles etc to me from pretty much the moment we meet. I used to listen but f* that. It never seems to occur to them that the woman they're talking to might have had the same (or worse) struggles (note - and doesn't feel the need to broadcast it). They do not wanna know/hear that, because then they can't be the victim anymore. These days I literally just go "oh right" and change the subject and make a mental note to never engage with that man again.

I feel regret that I spent valuable time in my 20s trying to meet a decent man. If only I could have realised then, what I do now.

No. You keep making the choice to come back and respond. You are awake at this hour due to work that doesnt justify why you keep coming back. So tell me truthfully, why are you here arguing at this hour? So we've established why you are awake, but why do you keep coming back? 🤣

Why do you?

I am lucky because the men in my life on the whole are very decent.

Op your view is too extreme!

Did you know that men account for approximately 95% of all fatal workplace injuries globally and in the UK because they work in more dangerous occupations generally speaking such as agriculture construction, mining, transportation and storage.

This means men are roughly 10 to 20 times more likely to die on the job than women. And as many men work to support themselves and their families, that’s a fairly major sacrifice they make.

And sorry but having lived and worked with animals all of my life I just don’t believe that males and females are the same. This is far too simplistic but very generally speaking males are driven by testosterone which causes them to spread their seed and defend the pack, and hunt, which provides single focus, and females can also be agressive but they will never be as physically strong as men and oestrogen means they have a wider field of vision and greater capability to do more than one thing at once.

This is possibly a controversial view but I think it is also factual; we are all subject to our hormones to varying degrees and we can’t completely escape our biology, however much we think we are civilised and can exercise freedom of thought and action.

You've lost all credibility now 🤣