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Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 15:02

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 23:34

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 20/05/2026 23:30

I don't think anybody particularly yearns for either - which is probably a very significant factor in there being far, far more men who will freely urinate in public than women!

But if it does happen, your impermeable feet are far easier to clean fully than shoe material that may soak it in and then stink for weeks, in spite of your very best efforts!

But what are you carrying to clean youre feet mm unless u factor an outdoor pee into your walking plans???

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/05/2026 23:35

@LavenderSkiesxo I am not going to quote your last post because it was offensive to the PP and also to those of us who are in fact autistic (and with both kinds of ADHD as an added bonus).

@GethsemaneHall I have reported it and hope it is deleted.

I am unable to say how fucking offensive that comment was. Are you always that ableist? Because if so I think you might be the one who needs to seek help.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/05/2026 23:36

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 23:34

But what are you carrying to clean youre feet mm unless u factor an outdoor pee into your walking plans???

*your

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what a well polished and researched argument. You completely proved the point most posters were making, thank you .

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 23:36

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/05/2026 23:35

@LavenderSkiesxo I am not going to quote your last post because it was offensive to the PP and also to those of us who are in fact autistic (and with both kinds of ADHD as an added bonus).

@GethsemaneHall I have reported it and hope it is deleted.

I am unable to say how fucking offensive that comment was. Are you always that ableist? Because if so I think you might be the one who needs to seek help.

Well why would her daughter be heartbroken???

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 23:37

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 23:36

what a well polished and researched argument. You completely proved the point most posters were making, thank you .

Which is......

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ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 23:39

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 23:40

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Nope
Defending myself from people like you.

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LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 23:40

Reported.

lornad00m · 20/05/2026 23:41

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 20/05/2026 16:08

There's an ocean between intelligently discussing the many problems in society that are caused wholly or largely by men as a group, and decrying them all as basically useless apart from being able to provide sperm to make new females (with the new males that are also made being a regrettable but unavoidable hazard on the side).

It's exactly the same mindset as the pathetic little incels but with the sexes swapped around - are the incels generally a group whose 'reasoning powers' you wish to align yourself with?

And yet we can't have those discussions. At all. 'Intelligently' or otherwise. Because they're shut down. Just like this one. Either women have internalised misogyny. Or they're fortunate to live in a bubble where the negative aspects of men's behaviour never touches them. And they either don't want to know or don't care about how it can impact the lives of other women.

It's depressing. But it is what it is.

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 23:43

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Actually I think you may be right as it’s the only other reason that someone would make a comment like that

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 23:43

Omg it isnt hate filled. Its factual. Abuse, crimes, murders etc mostly men!!!

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/05/2026 23:44

lornad00m · 20/05/2026 23:41

And yet we can't have those discussions. At all. 'Intelligently' or otherwise. Because they're shut down. Just like this one. Either women have internalised misogyny. Or they're fortunate to live in a bubble where the negative aspects of men's behaviour never touches them. And they either don't want to know or don't care about how it can impact the lives of other women.

It's depressing. But it is what it is.

The OP is shutting it down with personal insults and ableism

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/05/2026 23:44

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ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 23:44

lornad00m · 20/05/2026 23:41

And yet we can't have those discussions. At all. 'Intelligently' or otherwise. Because they're shut down. Just like this one. Either women have internalised misogyny. Or they're fortunate to live in a bubble where the negative aspects of men's behaviour never touches them. And they either don't want to know or don't care about how it can impact the lives of other women.

It's depressing. But it is what it is.

if someone can't have a different opinion and experience without you accusing them to try to "shut you down", it's you who are closed to all discussion and different points of view, not them.

dannyufcfan · 20/05/2026 23:46

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LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 23:49

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What? Im not embarrassed. I say some things about men and I'm being told I am a man hater.

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/05/2026 23:50

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 23:49

What? Im not embarrassed. I say some things about men and I'm being told I am a man hater.

Man hater
Ignorance about neurodivergent
Woman hater unless they disagree with you…

LoyalMember · 20/05/2026 23:51

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She's not well.

LavenderSkiesxo · 20/05/2026 23:51

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/05/2026 23:50

Man hater
Ignorance about neurodivergent
Woman hater unless they disagree with you…

Woman hater now too??
Just saying anything now aren't you.
Does that mean youre a woman hater with your negativity towards me?

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lornad00m · 20/05/2026 23:52

ThisCandidMintGoose · 20/05/2026 23:44

if someone can't have a different opinion and experience without you accusing them to try to "shut you down", it's you who are closed to all discussion and different points of view, not them.

There's been no 'discussion.' It's blanket 'not my man' and whataboutism. As it usually is in these threads. I'm just offering an opinion. If that suggests I'm some raging misandrist, I can live with that.