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AIBU to suggest emailing Andy Burnham about access to women’s toilets?

239 replies

UnDeuxTwuh · 20/05/2026 13:24

Aibu to suggest you can email Andy Burnham if you are what he calls one of the “tiny, tiny, tiny number of people” who believe that men including “transgender women” should not be allowed to use women’s toilets.

[email protected]

Perhaps if he gets enough emails he’ll see he is not right.

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GargoylesofBeelzebub · 20/05/2026 23:11

Meeeeeeeeep · 20/05/2026 23:09

I would encourage everyone concerned about transwomen using the ladies to consider who benefits from you believing that men are using this as a loop hole to hang out in women's toilets and what they might want you to ignore in favour.

Go on. Don’t be coy. Spit it out.

oh and p.s. there is ample evidence of men using this loophole.

TheNestedIf · 20/05/2026 23:12

No point in writing to him. He has been clear where his sympathies lie and it's not with women. He says he wants to reach a consensus, but the consensus he wants is for women to keep the peace by going "Oh, go on then, trans women are women and they should be allowed to do whatever they want, all of the time. Welcome to our changing rooms!". Best hope is that his bare faced misogyny sinks any hope he has of becoming party leader. A pity really because it would be nice to have a left winger in charge of Labour.

BunfightBetty · 20/05/2026 23:13

Francine84 · 20/05/2026 23:07

Trans women are women. And they don’t pose a threat to cis women in the slightest. Cis men, on the other hand, do.

Why don’t you google the percentage of trans women who commit violent crimes and let me know what you find?

What exactly do you mean by ‘trans women are women’.

In what possible sense could that be true?

They’re male. They’re not female.

Are we meant to believe they’ve changed sex because they’ve said so? Why?

BridgetPhillipsonIsACowardlyJobsworth · 20/05/2026 23:13

Francine84 · 20/05/2026 23:07

Trans women are women. And they don’t pose a threat to cis women in the slightest. Cis men, on the other hand, do.

Why don’t you google the percentage of trans women who commit violent crimes and let me know what you find?

ps. Why don't you answer any of the questions I asked you earlier?

CaesarAugusta · 20/05/2026 23:18

Thanks for the email address. I want to email him about the sheer stupidity of resigning as mayor, standing in the by election and the potential leadership challenge.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 20/05/2026 23:22

Yes definitely, emails should do it

Gillydoller · 20/05/2026 23:25

Francine84 · 20/05/2026 23:07

Trans women are women. And they don’t pose a threat to cis women in the slightest. Cis men, on the other hand, do.

Why don’t you google the percentage of trans women who commit violent crimes and let me know what you find?

What makes a transwomen a women? Women are born with female sex organs. Vagina = baby girl, penis = baby boy. I’m sorry if you don’t like it but that’s science for you.

So I ask again. What makes a transwoman a woman?

Alucard55 · 20/05/2026 23:26

I've emailed.

RhannionKPSS · 20/05/2026 23:31

Francine84 · 20/05/2026 16:12

Yawnnnnnn. Why not concern yourself with something that actually matters? What harm have trans people ever done to you, or anyone? Give it a bloody rest and get a life.

Get over yourself, you aren’t in any position to tell women what they want to concern themselves with especially now the EHRC guidance is out

MandyMotherOfBrian · 20/05/2026 23:36

Why don’t you google the percentage of trans women who commit violent crimes and let me know what you find?

Oh mate, you don’t really want that, do you? That’s reeeally not going to help your case…
Too late I see, you’ve already been given stats.
(Sits back and awaits the ‘Give me facts! No, not those facts’…)

DeathNote11 · 20/05/2026 23:50

If he's THIS out of touch & so blatant about opposing something that has overwhelming support and the law behind it, we can't trust his judgement on anything. He's just Starmer repackaged.

ThatbloodyRoblox · 20/05/2026 23:55

Tbh I don’t really get the toilet argument about trans women perving if they use a toilet. I have never been in a toilet with a thought that someone is looking to be a pervert. The cubicle door locks, it isn’t see through.
I am much more sympathetic to changing rooms if single cubicles aren’t used a whole host of penis are in display - I haven’t seen this. The trans women using my gym change in cubicles.
I would want anybody to feel they have to feel really uncomfortable by using a space they didn’t feel represented who they are.
I am so sad that many feel this is the biggest issue our country faces and needs to email
a candidate for a by election ( who can do absolutely nothing as a candidate)

Interesting 🧐

Terrellium · 21/05/2026 00:02

I assume you’ll also be emailing the Lib Dem and Green candidates when named, as I assume they’ll hold a similar view.

PortSalutPlease · 21/05/2026 00:04

Food and petrol prices are at huge highs, America is being run by a sociopath, there’s yet more war in the Middle East and white supremacists are marching through London but you want to devote yet more time and energy to preventing trans women from being able to pee? Have you nothing better to do with your time?!

PortSalutPlease · 21/05/2026 00:09

Gillydoller · 20/05/2026 23:25

What makes a transwomen a women? Women are born with female sex organs. Vagina = baby girl, penis = baby boy. I’m sorry if you don’t like it but that’s science for you.

So I ask again. What makes a transwoman a woman?

I mean, that’s factually incorrect. You can be born with a vagina and in fact have XY chromosomes and internal testes. You can be born with male genitalia but have XX chromosomes.

ellyoctober · 21/05/2026 00:12

PortSalutPlease · 21/05/2026 00:04

Food and petrol prices are at huge highs, America is being run by a sociopath, there’s yet more war in the Middle East and white supremacists are marching through London but you want to devote yet more time and energy to preventing trans women from being able to pee? Have you nothing better to do with your time?!

No-one's trying to prevent anyone pissing. Confused

Just want it done in the correctly sexed space.

DreamingBe · 21/05/2026 00:18

Emailed as well. Who does he think he is to be stating what the majority of women do or don't think, seemingly without having done any research? 😡

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 01:04

Francine84 · 20/05/2026 16:12

Yawnnnnnn. Why not concern yourself with something that actually matters? What harm have trans people ever done to you, or anyone? Give it a bloody rest and get a life.

Because it matters for the safety and dignity of women and girls

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 01:05

PortSalutPlease · 21/05/2026 00:09

I mean, that’s factually incorrect. You can be born with a vagina and in fact have XY chromosomes and internal testes. You can be born with male genitalia but have XX chromosomes.

Or you can be a man who chooses to ‘identify’ as a women for fetishistic or criminal purposes

OneTealShaker · 21/05/2026 01:19

Hope women of Makerfield show him that they are in the tiny ‘minority’.

He’s clearly a woman hating misogynist and needs teaching a lesson at the ballot box. Come on, Makerfield. Show him.

PortSalutPlease · 21/05/2026 01:25

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 01:05

Or you can be a man who chooses to ‘identify’ as a women for fetishistic or criminal purposes

Except that’s not the vast majority or trans or intersex people. And if someone wants to do something for criminal purposes, do you really think they’d be put off by being told they weren’t allowed in the loo? Hmm

PortSalutPlease · 21/05/2026 01:26

ellyoctober · 21/05/2026 00:12

No-one's trying to prevent anyone pissing. Confused

Just want it done in the correctly sexed space.

Does your house have single sex toilets? Do you refuse to use the loo at other people’s homes? Those aren’t single sex. What about intersex people - where do you expect them to use the loo?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 01:27

PortSalutPlease · 21/05/2026 01:25

Except that’s not the vast majority or trans or intersex people. And if someone wants to do something for criminal purposes, do you really think they’d be put off by being told they weren’t allowed in the loo? Hmm

Maybe not the ‘vast majority’ but do you not see that a bloke in a dress shouldn’t be in women’s spaces? Women have fought hard to get single sex spaces

Endoadnowarrior · 21/05/2026 01:29

BridgetPhillipsonIsACowardlyJobsworth · 20/05/2026 21:17

I don't have a problem with transgender people. I have a trans-identified family member and we get along just fine, although I don't agree with the reasoning behind it.

What I want, and what I have a right to insist upon, is no male people of any presentation or ilk in lawful, female single-sex spaces (not just toilets, but also medical and care situations, etc.)

This matters to me. You clearly don't care, but if your elderly mother wanted a female carer for intimate care and was refused this because it made her a "bigot", my guess is you would change your tune pretty quickly.

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What about the staff that clean the toilets? Motor way services for example have signs that say "these toilets are cleaned every hour by both male and female staff" -as do many other public toilets!

Why are people so obsessed on here with trans women using female public bathrooms? AS IF predatory men need to pretend to be trans to seize opportunities to rape assault and harm us - they've been doing it anyway AS MEN since forever! And surely it's probably a lot easier to dress like a cleaner/janitor to gain access to women's toilets to rape women if that's what they're planning to do! Ffs.

And what about male doctors or nurses in obstetrics and midwifery and gynaecology?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2026 01:33

Endoadnowarrior · 21/05/2026 01:29

What about the staff that clean the toilets? Motor way services for example have signs that say "these toilets are cleaned every hour by both male and female staff" -as do many other public toilets!

Why are people so obsessed on here with trans women using female public bathrooms? AS IF predatory men need to pretend to be trans to seize opportunities to rape assault and harm us - they've been doing it anyway AS MEN since forever! And surely it's probably a lot easier to dress like a cleaner/janitor to gain access to women's toilets to rape women if that's what they're planning to do! Ffs.

And what about male doctors or nurses in obstetrics and midwifery and gynaecology?

And women who have had trauma? Or want single sex spaces for religious reasons? No it’s all about the men.

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