Stag do plans and suspect abbreviations

[WestlieJ]

DP is joint best man for a close friends Wedding in early summer and the stag is abroad next month. DP sorted the logistics of booking, chasing everyone for payment etc (there is 16 people going). The other best man has put together a ‘plan’ for the long weekend and sent to DP for his approval.

I’ve seen this because it’s saved to iCloud and we can jointly access that through the iPad we share to watch Netflix etc.

It’s all fairly standard stuff, but the final section is titled ‘expected costs’ and lists things such as a beer, meal in restaurant, etc, to help people budget. Within this section there are abbreviations, which I’ve taken to be ‘dodgy’ given they are not written in full and one is fairly obviously a strip club, although no idea on ‘MP’.

Ive got it in front of me as took a photo so have written out exactly:

SC - Ent: €10-20 / PD: €50-70
MP - €50 / HR +€30 / OWO + €40 / PM,SO +€50 / FS €100

I have already asked DP who said he scanned over the main itinerary and didn’t even realise that last section was on there and has no idea what it means. He also said he never has and never will step foot in a strip club.

Am I being naive to think DP was unaware? And does anyone know what the last part means?

Good lord if this real. I’d be leaving, seriously if he intends to go to this. And yes i know it goes on, seemingly still shamelessly and en masse for fun. But to see it planned and writ large is stomach churning.

Of course he knows OP.

Why do you think men go in these stag dos in the first place.

I would end the relationship over this tbh.
It's the lying about what type of person he is as much as the intention to cheat. I would assume this isn't his first time at buying sex as he is obviously very familiar with the terminology.

I would be telling the bride. imagine getting married to a pig like this.

If the codebreaking goes round the "lads" the op will be the one to ruin the fun ! Not the best man or the other men, the Op and her husband but mainly "the wife"

It was just a guess and I know other posters have said one of them is wrong. But I can’t think of a more innocent explanation for the abbreviations. I’d be livid if my DP was involved in something like this.

There is no way he didn’t know because no one (even men) would casually include the local sex workers rates at the bottom of an email if it wasn’t already discussed.

Do you know any of the partners of the other stags?
I think I would be forwarding the email to them ...
I imagine your dp is not going to be very welcome on this seedy sex trip after this haha!

Absolutely. Grimmer than grim.

Is anyone else shocked at how cheap those "services" are? And presumably someone else is taking a cut of that? Those poor women.

I think PP has got the abbreviations pretty much right, some of them I would have guessed but others I had no idea.

I would assume though if these are DP’s friends then he would have heard conversations about it all at some point and so these abbreviations wouldn’t have come out of nowhere. For there to be a full price breakdown of services I’d feel pretty confident it hasn’t come out of nowhere!

I bet the other is well chuffed with his research and "codes"

The Office for National Statistics (ONS) has included prostitution in the national accounts since 2012. While earlier estimates fluctuated, recent data shows figures often exceeding £4 billion annually

£4 billion. In the UK alone.

Who's pockets are this £4 billion (plus the rest that didn't go through the books) is coming out of? They are absolutely not all single awkward 22 year olds looking for their first experience. They are husbands, and uncles and fathers and brothers and to be shocked that it's someone you know is naive.

Op what is the likelihood you'd get added to a Hen Do group with a menu of sex acts just dropped in there, and not be in on it, or at least have an idea of what it meant?

“I’m going to start calling you Wagatha 😂“

All I’ve had back, but he is about to start his shift.

Hey,

SC (strip club) entry / personal dance
massage parlour / hand relief / oral without (blowjob without a condom usually), personal massage not sure about the SO
full sex

2/3 of them but not very well, only see then a couple of times a year at most.

This is so grim. Is the other Best Man married?

Yes he is.

Bet the guy who has done this "research" does precisely fuck all to help with the holidays with his partner and family. What a disgusting excuse for a man.

My thoughts exactly, I wonder where it is, utterly degrading.

Christ I hate (most) men.

Sorry OP I think he's lying to you, if course he knows!

It's absolutely disgusting. Of course he knows.

I would circulate these to as many of the partners as you know and also to the bride.

It is all so very sordid.

But I guess this is why stag dos are held abroad - it is entirely pitiful.

It will be interesting to see what your OH comes up with by way of a reply. How many knots can he tie himself in?

When he's packing his bag for the stag tell him he might as well pack everything he owns and take it to his parents or another stags house coz he won't be coming back thru the door.

Your relationship won't survive this...

Obviously I meant other best man !

All this wedding stuff has got out of hand now, not just stag dos but hen dos with drunken women making fools of themselves.

It all used to be just a bit of fun with same-sex friends. None of my AC or their partners have done all this stuff - the men went for a drink at the local, and the women mostly went for a spa day together.